My Approach to Helping
When a good man wants to change how he responds to things, when he wants to be a better partner, when he wants a brighter future, when he can't seem to control his worries, those are some times he might call me. I won't tell you how to navigate through your own life. I don't like to ask for directions, so why should you? I believe in the skills you already used to make it this far. My job is to have a respectful conversation about what's getting in your way now and how you might find different routes.
More Info About My Practice
What guys usually hire me for is riding shotgun, for a short time, when the trail isn't clear. I'll encourage you to keep the reins while we look for ways through. I learned my navigation skills the way we all do, along the road, during two marriages totaling more than 40 years, raising my family and in various kinds of job (yes, the psych degrees help).
For a lot of people, making the first contact with a therapist is the biggest challenge. Don't worry about it. We're very welcoming here. You don't like the phone? Me neither. There's a form on my website. Or why not just email!
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
Your connection with your therapist is vital. It matters more than any technique. That's why there is no hard sell here. After one meeting, if you're not feeling it, you'll never hear from me again.
Theoretical Influences that Guide My Work
(in case you want the technical stuff) I'm what they call a humanist therapist. Within that, I'm very friendly with postmodernists - I'm married to one - but I identify with the Gestalt crowd. And that means? I don't assume you're here to be repaired like a defective computer. I don't assume I can fix your issues with some one-size-fits-all technique. I do assume you're a unique individual I know nothing about. And my goal is to support YOU in knowing more about that person.
The Duration and Frequency of Therapy
Monica and I practice brief therapy. What that means depends on who you are and what brings you here. One visit, three, five, whatever you need and want, that's what we do here.