My Approach to Helping
When a good man wants to change how he responds to things, when he wants to be a better partner, when he wants a brighter future, when he can't seem to control his worries, those are some times he might call me. I won't tell you how to navigate through your own life. I don't like to ask for directions, so why should you? I trust the skills you already used to make it this far. My job is to be part of a conversation about the life you're leading now and the life you want.
More Info About My Practice
What guys usually hire me for is riding shotgun, for a short time, when the trail isn't clear. I'll encourage you to keep the reins while we look for ways through. I learned my navigation skills the way we all do, along the road, during two marriages spanning more than 45 years, raising my family and in various kinds of job (yes, the psych degrees help too).
For a lot of people, making the first contact with a therapist is the biggest challenge. Don't worry about it. We're very welcoming here. You don't like to make a phone call? Me neither. Use the form on our website. Or just email me!
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
Your connection with your therapist is vital. It matters more than any technique. That's why there is no hard sell here. After our first meeting, if you don't want to go on, you'll never hear from me again.
Theoretical Influences that Guide My Work
(in case you want the technical stuff) I'm what they call a humanist therapist. Within that, I'm very friendly with the postmodernists - I'm married to one - but I identify with the Gestalt crowd. And that all means? I don't assume you're here to be repaired like a computer or an old car. I don't assume I'll be able to fix your issues with some one-size-fits-all technique. We're two unique individuals who haven't met before, we don't know each other, and the only thing I know in advance is that you'll be heard and respected.
The Duration and Frequency of Therapy
Monica and I practice brief therapy. What "brief" means depends on why you're here. One visit, ten, fifty-two, whatever you need and want without wasting time and money, that's exactly what we set out out do here.