My Approach to Helping
Life is challenging. Moments of great joy, beauty, wonder, and love can be followed by illness, betrayal, problems and perplexities. We want a life rich in meaning and we want to matter to someone. We desire to be in a relationship with someone we desire and admire. Because that is not always easy we need a place where we can work out the difficulties we face in a setting of safety and confidentiality; a place where our strengths are affirmed, our pain acknowledged and our life enriched. We talk it out so that we are less inclined to act it out. I embody compassion in my work. People find client-centered, solution based, strength focused process a way to heal and grow as they live challenges of death/loss, isolation, meaning and freedom/responsibility.
More Info About My Practice
Clients contribute the content of their lives. I guide the therapy process using the skills, understanding and compassion I learned in my training, personal journey as a therapy client and continued supervision to comfort when necessary; challenge when appropriate; and support always the client's process of healing and growth.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
What I love about being a psychotherapist. I have the sacred privilege of being a listening, guiding companion as someone strives to give voice to their pain, shame, fear, courage, and strength. In their challenging journey towards more authentic living, I am witness to the blossoming of a person's soul.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
Whether it is individual, marriage or family therapy that first call can be the hardest to make. Believe me. It took nearly 6 months of worry and obsessing until I made my first call to set up an initial therapy appointment. I had many reasons for delaying. Some reasons were understandable. Some reasons were simply a way of avoiding the unknown. Looking back all reasons were understandable and all had an element of avoidance.
Some of those reasons include:
I should be able to figure this out for myself and deal with my own problems.
It costs so much.
What if the therapist finds out I'm as broken, weak, confused as I fear?
The therapist might laugh at me and I'd feel so ashamed.
The therapist may tell me I'm hopeless and can?t be helped.
It is so hard to imagine saying out loud how much I am hurting.
It is hard to imagine saying out loud how sad I feel.
It is hard to imagine saying out loud how empty I am inside.
It is hard to imagine saying out loud how much I fear or worry.
My thoughts and feelings frighten and confuse me enough.
What if saying them out loud makes me feel worse?
Who wants to hear about my worries and fears?
If I was just man or woman enough I could deal with this myself.
Maybe I'm just making a mountain out of a molehill.
Perhaps you have these or similar thoughts about the therapy process. These are some of the thoughts that ran through my mind as I considered making that first therapy appointment call. I learned that they are all normal responses for those who have never embarked on the journey of self-discovery healing and rebirth of faith, hope and love that is the therapy process.
It took me about 6 months from the time until I made that first call. 6 months and I was required to be in therapy as part of my training to be a psychotherapist!