My Approach to Helping
My heart is in working with couples and families to help facilitate an increase in connection and relationship satisfaction. I work from an attachment base, examining family of origin, life experiences and current needs for connection. I work with individuals to help identify their values, their struggles, and their goals, to help them identify how to work toward honoring each of those. As an integral part of my work with individuals and couplesfamilies, I provide an empathic presence, honoring our differences as individuals and recognizing that we are partnering to do this work together. I am not the doctor and you are not the sick patient. Rather we are a team, collaborating together to foster your own personal growth.
I am a certified Gottman therapist and provide assessment, evaluation and ongoing couples work. First, we have to identify where the strengths and weaknesses are within the relationship, then we can set goals for strengthening the connection and level of attachment. I work with couples ongoing to help them learn "how to fight", how to repair after a fight, and how to turn toward one another with a sense of respect. I work to build and foster friendship within the relationship, as a foundational part of our work together.
At the heart of the therapy I provide, is an inherent belief that we all struggle and we all seek ways to balance our needs and our wants and we all need relationships with others. We do not function in isolation. We need one another. We need connection. Holistic health requires that we look at our physical health, our emotional health, our sleep, exercise, relationships and purpose behind each of these, so our work together will be layered and whole-person minded.