My Approach to Helping
Are you feeling distress or discomfort in the relationship you have with an important person in your life? Are you growing apart, becoming distant or losing/lost that comfort of being together? I help people understand and overcome the barriers that get in the way of trust and love. The process I use, Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT, is highly researched, gentle and short-term. Studies show that 75% of couples move from distress to recovery and 90% show significant improvement. Call me to regain the trust, openness, and connection that is natural for you and your partner.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I am skilled at helping with couples who are experiencing distress or a lack of connection and bringing them back to a state of closeness, security and trust. The natural course of a relationship is to grow closer, more comfortable, more trusting and loving as time goes by. If this does not happen it is probably because harmful patterns of interaction or unconscious negative reactions have developed. I am skilled at identifying and removing these barriers so the natural process of increasing connection resumes.
My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy
Psychotherapy helps remove barriers to natural growth that prevent us from being who we really are, from being the best that we can be. It helps us become comfortable, confident and functional in relationships and in life. My approach is gentile and non-confrontational. Healing is effortless and happens naturally as part of the therapeutic process.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I love being a part of the process by which couples grow back to a loving, trusting relationship. Watching couples move from distress to comfort and closeness is tremendously satisfying for me.
My Role as a Therapist
My role is to listen, be open and understand what a person (or couple or family) is going through that is causing distress. My role then is to be a guide to help the client(s) discover the path to health and closeness.
My Therapy Focus
I focus on the invisible but very powerful unconscious emotional processes that drive relationship attachment or separation.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
It can be difficult to make the decision to seek help. You may have questions about what is involved or may think the process could be uncomfortable. You may think you should be able to handle your problems yourself or with the help of family or friends. Getting professional help is the smart way to resolve persistent issues and demonstrates resourcefulness. The process is gentile and you only move into areas as you feel comfortable. It can be life-changing.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
Seeking help is a sign of strength and resourcefulness. In reality, no one accomplishes anything without help or a good foundation provided by relationships (past or present) with others. Most people struggle to some extent with one or more issues past or present.
Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance
In my view little can be done without a positive client-therapist relationship. The utmost importance to me is that my client feels understood by me and is comfortable with my process.