My Approach to Helping
I have been counseling since 1992, when I began my training at Purdue University. I specialize in marriage/family therapy, anger management, addictions and sexual issues. I am a Sexual Addiction Therapist with 20 years of experience in that area, and am a professional member of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health. My goal is to "work myself out of a job" by empowering clients to work through core issues, gain needed insights and tools, and make behavioral changes which allow for more success and fulfillment both personally and professionally. Integrating healing components such as interpersonal forgiveness, assertive boundary work, traditional talk therapy and experiential/expressive therapies, my challenging yet respectful approach allows hope, healing and meaningful change to emerge. At the heart of my practice is helping people create healthier relationships and find balance and fulfillment through living life from their "Real Self", and therefore shifting out of "shame based", "fear based" or "performance based" living. Since 1996, I have worked full-time at Psychological Counseling Services, one of the Nation's premiere "intensive out-patient" treatment centers. I have authored a chapter in the "Handbook for the Clinical Treatment of Infidelity" and a clinical update article on sexual addiction treatment for the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy's bi-monthly magazine. I am also available for professional trainings for businesses in the areas of conflict resolution, assertiveness training, and interpersonal dynamics in the work setting.
More Info About My Practice
I believe therapy is most successful when there is a collaboration between the client and the therapist. I bring in my own expertise, training, life experience, etc. and my clients bring in their understanding of the situation, what has/hasn't helped so far, and their own resources/tools/insights/strengths etc. to apply to the process. By working together, desired outcomes may be achieved more quickly and completely than when I as the "Dr" am expected to "fix things". I therefore welcome discussion decisions made and about what is or isn't helpful within the therapy process. However, I also am able to provide structure, give tough feedback and be directive in ways that many of my clients appreciate. I often hear things like, "my (our) other therapist seemed to just listen and/or validate, but you get down to the core issue and then help me (us) figure out what to do about it" If you are considering therapy for the first time, or have been in therapy before and for whatever reason do not feel done yet, I would be happy to talk with you briefly on the phone to see if we might be a good fit. If we are not a good fit for some reason, there is a very good chance I know somebody here in the Valley who would be-so feel free to give me a call or to email me
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I am especially skilled in helping individuals, couples and families heal from the impact of sexual addiction, infidelity, and other major betrayals that undermine relational trust and safety. Helping others understand both apology and forgiveness is a key part of this work. Not all will choose to do that work, but at least they will have an understanding that goes well beyond "I'm sorry" or "I forgive you". I also specialize in anger management/assertiveness training.