My Approach to Helping
When someone comes to see me in therapy, I want him or her to quickly feel my support. One person may need to feel like I really understand their needs and appreciate their tough situation, while another person may need to feel like I am providing an environment that allows them to "get to work" in dealing with their life challenges. Every person is different, and my job is to form a strong alliance where one feels like I am on his or her team. This creates a safe environment where together we can get to the root of what a person is struggling with, see what is holding them back from the progress that they want to experience, and ultimately discover new sources of strength for moving forward. I want anyone who takes the therapeutic journey with me to not only experience new success but to gradually come to a deep appreciation and ownership of their newfound resources and newfound way of being so that they can keep the momentum going and be equipped for life.
More Info About My Practice
While I have experience working from a variety of therapeutic approaches, I am presently specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an evidence-based approach that is helpful for bringing healing to relationships generally speaking and is especially effective for romantic relationships. This approach pays special attention to our emotional experiences because our emotions serve as important signals for our deepest attachment needs. The EFT approach also maps out the negative cycle of our relationship interactions, which gives clarity into how our relationships start to spin out of control.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
Many people start to consider therapy as their challenges and difficulties begin to feel overbearing, yet they also wonder if they really have the time, energy, money, and motivation to complete the therapeutic journey. Moreover, what if the therapist turns out not to be trustworthy, competent, or committed enough to ensure any real chance for success? These risks are very real! Seeking therapy takes a brave leap of faith. I help anyone I see in therapy take small yet meaningful steps in working through their difficulties. These small successes begin to add up leading to more and more confidence, until most people find that they are no longer on the fence.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
Perhaps you are curious about the benefits of therapy, but wonder if seeking help would be an admission that you are weak, flawed, or even crazy. You would not be alone! The reasons for embarrassment can go many directions: perhaps we fear that bringing up our pasts could make our families look bad, or perhaps we compare ourselves to others who don't need therapy and wonder what makes us different. As a therapist, I strive to address your concerns by creating safety, focusing on your strengths and aspirations, and helping you make sense of embarrassing issues in a way that maintains your dignity.