My Approach to Helping
It is painful to feel distant from your partner, child, or parent. And sometimes the more you both try to connect, the more isolated and lonely you both feel. Yet you keep using the same ineffective strategies, not knowing what else to do! Sometimes you just give up. The irony is that you are probably already spending enough time and effort on your relationship - you're just spending it in ways that don't get you the results you want.
I can help you redirect your efforts using a research-based approach to love and relationships called emotionally focused therapy (EFT). EFT significantly improves 90% of relationships, with benefits that endure for years after treatment is done, even for clients working through major betrayals or lack of trust. I can help you reconnect with your loved ones, break the destructive cycles that create distance between you, make sense of your own & others' emotions, better manage stress and conflict, and recreate trust and safety. EFT is used successfully with individuals, couples, and families. Please visit my website for more information.
Sheltering in place can be challenging if you are not getting along with your quarantine mate. Or maybe you are feeling more acutely right now the lack of a close relationship in your life. If you have been wondering how you can get help with relational problems when you’re not supposed to even leave your home because of the Covid-19 pandemic, you’ll be glad to learn that online therapy has been shown to be just as effective as in-person therapy. If you’d like to get a taste of an online therapy session before you decide if it’s a good fit for you, I’d be happy to set up a free 20-minute online consultation with you. Please call or text me at (310) 504-1893 and let’s set something up! I have offices in Hermosa Beach and Seal Beach, California, and I offer online therapy throughout California.
More Info About My Practice
-- MEMBERSHIPS --
Board Member, Los Angeles Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy
Board Member, Orange County Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy
Member, California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT)
Life Member, International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)
-- EDUCATION --
M.S., Marriage & Family Therapy - California State University, Fullerton
Ph.D., Linguistics - Massachusetts Institute of Technology
B.A., Linguistics - University of California, Irvine. Summa Cum Laude, Phi Beta Kappa
-- TRAINING IN EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY (EFT) --
Core Skills Training and Externship in EFT ? Alliant International University
EFT Summit 2017
EFT Triage: Mastering the Bleed-outs in Couples Treatment ? Alliant Intl Univ.
EFT with Challenging Couples ? Anatomy of Intimacy Couples Therapy Training
Emotional Withdrawal ? Learning to Lean In and Love Protected Partners in EFT ? CCEFT
Effectively Embracing Pursuers: From Harshness to Softenings in EFT ? CCEFT
Gaining Traction with Highly Reactive Couples ? CCEFT
Trauma, EFT for Couples, & the Therapist: Rebuilding Shattered Attachment Together ? LACEFT
Healing Broken Bonds: EFT and the Treatment of Infidelity ? LACEFT
Attachment Injury Resolution Model ? OCCEFT
Demystifying the Softening Event in EFT ? LACEFT
The Road to Deescalation ? The EFT Lab
Sex, Attachment, and Couple Therapy ? LACEFT
Staying in Touch: Helping Couples Connect Through Sex and Emotion ? LACEFT
Sex and Attachment Coming Together ? NYCEFT
Mastering First Sessions ? LACEFT
Emotionally Focused Family Therapy Intensive ? Alliant International Univ.
EFT with Individuals ? OCCEFT
Internship under Tinaz Vevaina, Certified EFT Therapist
How Psychotherapy Can Help
You have an innate drive to form secure relationships with others. However, due to early life experiences, you may have developed patterns of relating to others that make relationships difficult. These patterns are based on expectations about how others will treat you. At one time, they were the best way to protect yourself from an unhealthy environment. The problem is that you are still stuck with them, even though they are no longer necessary. In a self-fulfilling loop, these expectations lead you to behave in ways that elicit the very responses you fear. Using emotionally focused therapy, I can help you change these feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, and experience a more rewarding way of connecting with other people.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
If one of you is considering divorce, you may benefit from Discernment Counseling, a structured approach of 1-5 sessions that gives both of you a chance to slow down and consider your options. Through this process you will gain clarity about which way to go, based on a better understanding of your relationship and whether it could be improved. I will help you decide among three paths: trying to restore your relationship, moving toward divorce, or taking a time out and deciding later. Our goal will be not to solve your relationship problems but to see if they are solvable. I will seek to understand your reasons for divorce, while trying also to look at the possibility of restoring the relationship to health. Please visit my website for more information.