My Approach to Helping
I believe that each person's situation is unique and I tend to respond in my approach to therapy accordingly, curiously listening, and integrating a number of types of therapy into an interactive style. There are times I help with a specific crisis or problem, times I offer a safe place to be heard, and times when I think about how I can help you figure out how or whether your presenting problem may fit into the big picture of your life. I understand that it may take you time to develop a sense of trust in me and in the therapy process. I usually see people on at least a weekly basis and if I am not limited by your insurance requirements, I will let you determine how long you will want to be seen. Because everyone's situation is different, there are people I have seen for a few sessions and people I have seen for 20 years. If the combination of therapy and medication will be likely to help improve your mood and/or decrease your anxiety, with your permission, I will be happy to work with your medication provider if you would like, but if you feel strongly about not taking psychotropic medication, I will respect your wishes.
More Info About My Practice
I enjoy my work, find it challenging, and a rewarding experience to be able to watch individuals, couples, and families grow. The first time we meet, I will ask you questions that help me understand the big picture or history of your life. Some of the questions may be painful to answer, but may help us understand whether there may be parallels with your current problems or issues. We'll spend the first three sessions developing a plan for your treatment that will help us identify particular issues and goals. I have a respect for the fact that we have all developed defenses against psychological pain and I will make my best effort not to push you in painful directions too quickly. We may want to initially help you develop skills to cope, but other types of therapy may take time.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
It takes a lot of strength, insight, and an ability to observe yourself and others to initially realize that there are issues you may want to address. Making that first phone call can be scary, or at least make you feel like you're in uncharted territory, but most of the time, contacting a therapist shows that you have good judgment.
In our hectic world where connections have often become more and more electronic, knowing that your therapist is there to return to can be a solace, helping you feel like you have a secure base on which to hold. As you go away each week and lead your life, the rubber will meet the road. You'll be taking a bit of what you've discovered or learned in your sessions with you into the real world and you'll be bringing the real work back into the therapy room when you return. Each place can provide you opportunities for continued growth and as you continue to internalize what you have learned, you may eventually find that you are ready to move forward on your own, with the knowledge that your therapist can be there to return to if and when the need should arise.