My Approach to Helping
Therapy can help reconnect with your driving motivations, and visions that you hold. These are forces that drive us forward and help us through challenges.
One method I use in the process of therapy is deep listening. In deep thinking vs. regular thinking, there is a focus on a identifying, through this engaged listening, some of your key issues and some solutions. My undivided attention to your exploration is a catalyst and a magnifying glass, and through it, there is a feedback process between the client and the undivided attention guiding and intensifying the exploration. The opportunity to come up with a meaningful solution that comes from the person’s deep roots is tapped into through this process.
The deep listening is one important element. Others include supportive listening which occurs in different points of time where you are encouraged to explore your problem more thoroughly, in greater multitude of directions, perhaps by some hints. I can suggest or hint to bring up topics that you may not immediately connect. A firm hold on the here-and-now is a very important gate to look at challenges, interpersonal or professional relationships, our conversation with ourselves while alone.
I will often summarize the conversation, trying to outline, and sometimes beyond outlining of what they hear as some of the underlying issues. At times I try to provide a pointer towards these, and see what seems to resonate with you.
The process of defining one’s problem and the strategy to address it is expected to be periodically updated re-evaluated through the process of therapy. In light of new connections made or obstacles in the present plan, specific components definition of the problem, their goals or objectives may each be reevaluated. This evaluation process will look different on the 3rd session compared with the first. The re-evaluation becomes more focused. More and less central aspects of the problem become known as such as become prioritized and further elaborated on.
I also often talk or teach about a range of practical complimentary strategies such as mindfulness, healthy habits such as healthy sleep, or healthy eating, or developing other coping skills and hobbies.