On the Fence About Going to Therapy?

The decision to start therapy is very personal and rarely straightforward. The vast majority of clients I work with are well-functioning, competent individuals who are feeling unhappy, unsatisfied, or stuck or are struggling in some way. Whether it is regarding the past, the present, a relationship, or you, therapy can help.

Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist

I have received a lot of questions from potential clients that imply they have researched "how to choose a therapist." These questions typically include how many years of experience I have, what my credentials are, what my theoretical background is, and the types of therapy I practice, etc. While I have no issues answering these questions, I do not believe the questions or answers help these potential clients choose the best therapist. The truth of the matter is that most people do not know the difference between these different types of therapy or theoretical orientations anyway. And most psychologists have more of a eclectic approach to therapy, incorporating multiple models in an effort to tailor treatment to meet each individual's unique needs and experiences.

I believe that the single most important factor in choosing a therapist is comfort. Are you comfortable with your therapist? Do you feel like you can talk to them? Be open? Comfort has nothing to do with credentials, years in practice, or therapeutic approach. It is a rapport between you and your therapist that will make therapy effective.

Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed

A lot of people struggle to admit that they need help and view therapy as a sign of weakness. In fact, this could not be further from the truth. I encourage people to trust their instincts to reach out for help. And I commend them for taking the initiative to get help, for this is a sign of strength. Therapy is something you do because you love, respect, and appreciate yourself and the ones you closest to you.