My Approach to Helping
I have come to realize something paradoxical about the way many humans operate; we often don't talk about the things that bother us the most. These are often the things that we would really benefit from talking about. There are multiple understandable reasons for this: we’re embarrassed or ashamed; we’re afraid of being judged, doubted, disbelieved, or blamed; we don’t think others will understand; we don’t want to burden anyone else; we\'re concerned that talking about an experience will make it seem more real; we\'ve been taught to handle problems independently and that asking for help is a sign of weakness; we\'ve been threatened to keep quiet. Even though all of these reasons make sense, they can do more harm than good when they cause us to suffer in silence and isolation. When we focus too much on the risk of what harm may come from sharing our secrets, we lose sight of the potential for relief and healing. My primary goal as a therapist is to earn the trust of my clients and create a safe space for them to decide to share their unspoken struggles with me. When you let a person you trust know about the weight you’ve been lugging around alone and they respond in a supportive way, the load becomes lighter. I have training and practice in providing that supportive response, and I can offer an additional perspective as we work together at your own pace to untangle, make sense of, and find meaning in your experiences. Before we make our way up to that point, we can begin by focusing on increasing your use of healthy coping skills and self-care.
I provide therapy to teenagers (16+) and adults who are facing trauma, depression, andor challenging life adjustments (e.g., graduate school). I specialize in serving individuals who have experienced sexual trauma (i.e., rape, assault, abuse, and incest) as well as the people who love and support them. I also have experience working with survivors of intimate partner violence. My aim is for you to feel heard, understood, believed, and valued. Healing is not always an easy process, but that does not mean that we will not appreciate your successes, learn from the rough spots, and laugh along the way. We will look not just at where you want to go but also at how far you’ve come.