My Approach to Helping
I invite you to meet with me for a free 30-minute consultation prior to starting counseling so that you can make sure we are a good fit. This is important to me because the relationship between the two of us is the single biggest factor in the results you get, so you want a therapist you feel comfortable with. My approach is to work as a partnership: you are the expert in you. I am the trail guide who can offer suggestions about various routes we can take to get where you'd like to go. And if you aren't sure yet where you want to end up, that's not a problem. We'll figure it out together! I am told frequently by people new to my office that they feel safe and secure with me.
It is also very important to me that we track your progress each week and that each week you are able to give me feedback on the session. If I missed something or misunderstood you, I want to know right then so I can make it right. Again, it's all about the quality of the relationship. However, if you come from a background that has left you feeling uncomfortable with providing this kind of feedback (perhaps you were punished for having an opinion as a child), I will not insist that you give me this feedback. Research has shown that people whose therapists use this type of feedback tend to get better results than clients whose therapists do not use it and they tend to get those results in less time.
My approach is to focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses and to give you any tools I believe will be helpful. The goal is for me to work myself out of a job with you, not to make you dependent upon me forever. I love cheering on your successes and you will find that I am likely to check in with you between sessions if you are having a particularly challenging time. I am big on encouraging self-compassion and you'll hear me reminding you to "be kind to yourself." I utilize approaches that I believe will benefit the client the most, but my primary approaches are CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), compassion-focused therapy, and person-centered.