{"id":9909,"date":"2011-08-31T12:17:53","date_gmt":"2011-08-31T19:17:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=9909"},"modified":"2017-04-28T14:06:06","modified_gmt":"2017-04-28T21:06:06","slug":"shrine-altar-grief-healing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/shrine-altar-grief-healing\/","title":{"rendered":"Creating Shrines and Altars for Healing from Grief"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Altars and Shrines: What Are They?<\/strong>
\nArcheologists have found evidence of altars and shrines in nearly all places where there is evidence that humans have lived. The predisposition to construct these kinds of sacred creations seems almost to be part of our DNA. Traditionally, shrines are memorials or monuments to the dead.\u00a0We have made shrines for thousands of years throughout the world’s cultures<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Some well-known shrines include the Taj Mahal and the Egyptian pyramids. Public monuments such as the Vietnam Veterans\u2019 Memorial, the Mount Rushmore carvings, the Lincoln Memorial, and the Martin Luther King, Jr., Memorial are all examples of secular shrines that honor the memories of individuals whose lives and deaths have influenced our history as well as countless individual lives.<\/p>\n

We create shrines in public spaces, in our communities, in places of worship, and in our own private spaces. We create them after long preparation and fundraising, with thoughtful planning, through elaborate installations, as well as with less expense and fanfare. We may place them in our own private spaces, in a community gathering place, or at specific sites where a death or tragedy<\/a> occurred.<\/p>\n

Shrines may evolve as spontaneous collaborations, such as those created by students, faculty and families at Virginia Tech or Columbine after those tragic shootings.\u00a0Those types of shrines are usually added to throughout the days following the shootings and provide a community gathering space. They become places where the shocked<\/a> and grieving may seek comfort and support from others. Shared, spontaneous shrines often evolve into more permanent community memorials where the lives of those who died can be remembered. Street memorials, where family and friends lay flowers, trinkets, card, balloons, or works of art where loved ones died, can be found in cities all over our country.<\/p>\n

In New York City, throughout the five boroughs, one can see the hundreds of Street Memorial plaques placed at spots where pedestrians were killed on the city streets. That movement arose from the St. Louis, Missouri\u2019s Ghost Bike Memorial project where bicycles are painted white and locked to street signs near crash sites to memorialize bikers who died there. Think also of the highway memorials and shrines that can be seen along our nation\u2019s roadways at the sites where someone\u2019s family member or partner was killed in a crash.<\/p>\n

Shrines may be created outside the homes or at the burial sites of well loved public figures or artists who have died, such as those created in honor of John Lennon, Princess Diana, Jim Morrison, and Edgar Allen Poe. Shrines can serve as places for solitude, reflection, and remembering but they can also be whimsical and celebratory like the brightly colored Day of the Dead shrines in Mexico\u2019s annual festivities which celebrate and honor the lives and memories of loved ones who have died with parades, games, picnics and family gatherings. Shrines connect us to our past, to each other, and to something greater than ourselves. They serve to help us remember and to heal.<\/p>\n

Sometimes there may be confusion about the differences between shrines and altars. Often, the words altar and shrine are used interchangeably.\u00a0For the purposes of personal healing from grief, or your own personal spiritual expression, you can use which ever term you like.\u00a0If religious connotations make you uncomfortable, you may prefer thinking of a personally created altar or shrine as a memorial, memory box, memory space, honoring space, remembering space, meditation<\/a> space, etc.\u00a0Your space can be called whatever you choose to call it.<\/p>\n

Shrines are typically dedicated to a specific person, or in religious traditions, to a specific deity or saint.\u00a0 In the case of shrines dedicated to people who have died, those can also be considered as memorials. An altar is usually thought of as a sacred space used for specific functions that may be associated with religious<\/a> and spiritual purposes, such as worship, prayer, rituals or offerings. In religious traditions, the altar is usually the centerpiece of the worship space, such as in a church, synagogue, temple, mosque or sacred circle.<\/p>\n

Many people create home altars as a personal sacred space for prayer, reflection, meditation or other specific spiritual<\/a> and religious pursuits.\u00a0Home altars can help us focus our minds on our chosen spiritual path and serve as daily reminders of a spiritual focus or our connection to Spirit. Altars may also be created and dedicated to specific deities or saints.<\/p>\n

Altars can also be created with people as a focus.\u00a0In my own home, I have little altars everywhere, with photos of my son, elements of nature (such as stones, shells or flowers), candles, or incense, place with other objects that help me to focus on peace and comfort, such as a lovely little Jizo statue or a statue of Ganesha. Shrines and altars can be as small or elaborate as you like. You may have many different shrines or altars for different things.<\/p>\n

Why Create Shrines and Altars?
\n<\/strong>As the instructors at Life Path Center for Learning and Healing beautifully put it, \u201caltars and shrines are external representations of interior mysteries.\u201d\u00a0 Shrines and altars are ways of showing in tangible form what might be happening in our hearts and spirits.\u00a0Creating shrines and altars gives us opportunities to remember, to reflect and to honor, as well as to help heal the pain of loss through the act of creating.\u00a0The creation of a personal shrine can establish a private place to which you can return to reflect, meditate, grieve, engage in a personal ritual, remember, and honor the one who has died.<\/p>\n

Small, portable shrines can be carried with you where ever you go.\u00a0These might be as small as a matchbook that can fit in your pocket or something a bit larger, like the size of a book, perhaps, that might be slipped into a purse or briefcase.\u00a0A take-along shrine can allow you to maintain a needed connection with your loved one, or to create a sacred space for remembering or engaging in any type of personal ritual any time or place you may need or want to do so.\u00a0Or you might prefer to create a more permanent shrine or altar that can be set up in your home or on your property using heavier more substantial elements, or a smaller semi-permanent type whose elements can be taken apart and used in other places or spaces.\u00a0The choices are yours.<\/p>\n

Creating Your Shrine<\/strong>
\nThere are no rules or guidelines for creating shrines.\u00a0The beauty of creating a shrine is that the ideas and materials are seemingly endless and the process, like the grieving process itself, is completely individual.\u00a0A few guidelines might be helpful as you engage in the creation your own personal shrine.<\/p>\n

Before you plan the look of your shrine, spend some time thinking about your loved one without thoughts or preconceived ideas<\/a> of what you think your shrine might look like.\u00a0 Here are some ideas that may help the process:<\/p>\n