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Which of the following statements are true?<\/p>\nWhich of the following statements are true?<\/p>\n
People with high self-esteem:
\nA. Are convinced they can never be wrong
\nB. Don\u2019t usually appreciate negative feedback
\nC. Think whatever they do is great
\nD. Couldn\u2019t care less what others think of them
\nE. All of the above<\/p>\n
Answer: None of these are true of people with genuine self-esteem! The truth is, the higher your self-esteem, the better you tolerate criticism and disappointment.<\/p>\n
Let\u2019s go over these again and get the real scoop on people with high self-esteem:<\/strong><\/p>\n False<\/strong>: They\u2019re convinced they can never be wrong False<\/strong>: They don\u2019t usually appreciate negative feedback False<\/strong>: They think everything they do is great False<\/strong>: They couldn\u2019t care less what others think of them We can all take a page from the high self-esteemers when it comes to being wrong. Here are a few things to remember…<\/p>\n You may be wrong about something, but you\u2019re not wrong as a person.<\/strong> But if you think about it, every single one of us on this planet \u2013 including the greatest heroes, heartthrobs and role models \u2013 is sometimes wrong. So being wrong can\u2019t be a measure of worth as a person, because if it is, we\u2019re all unworthy. In which case, you can relax and enjoy the good company you\u2019re in.<\/p>\n Take the risk today of admitting you made a mistake. Admit it to someone with a kind heart, and pay attention to how they respond. The more you can admit that you\u2019re wrong without experiencing rejection, the more you\u2019ll realize that perfection isn\u2019t required.<\/p>\n When you receive negative feedback:<\/strong> 2)\u00a0Ask yourself, Is the feedback accurate?<\/strong> It may be 100% wrong. It may in fact be the opposite of what\u2019s true. Or it may be right on the money. What do YOU think in your heart of hearts? If negative feedback seems accurate, it doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re bad. It means you have something you can work on, if you choose to do so. Ask the feedback-giver for help. For example, if you write a story and someone doesn\u2019t like it, ask them what they think would make it better. As long as you\u2019ve got someone offering you feedback, you\u2019re never alone.<\/p>\n 3) Remember it\u2019s about what you did, not who you are.<\/strong> Even if someone complains that, for example, they were hurt by something you did or said… they\u2019re complaining about your behavior, not you. The feedback gives you information about how something you did affected someone else. And then you have many options as to how to respond.<\/p>\n If you receive negative feedback about something you can\u2019t change<\/strong>, like your facial features or your family\u2019s origins, you are being bullied. People who criticize things that can\u2019t be changed are not offering constructive feedback. They are simply displaying ignorance or being cruel. Realize that you don\u2019t deserve to be treated with cruelty, no matter how often it\u2019s happened in the past. You can choose to seek other companions who will value those very things about you that were criticized.<\/p>\n Being wrong sometimes and receiving negative feedback are facts of life for everyone. We all care what others think, because we\u2019re social beings. But when receiving negative feedback, be a discriminating consumer of that information. Never let negative feedback make you feel smaller than you are.<\/p>\n People with high self-esteem are lucky enough to know that, even when their mistakes bring them criticism, they can never be wrong as people<\/em>. And that\u2019s a comforting bit of truth for all of us to remember.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Which of the following statements are true? People with high self-esteem: A. Are convinced they can never be wrong B. Don?t usually appreciate negative feedback C. Think whatever they do is great D. Couldn?t care less what others think of them E. 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\nTrue<\/strong>: People with healthy self-esteem aren\u2019t delusional; they know and accept that sometimes they mess up.<\/p>\n
\nTrue<\/strong>: They appreciate all<\/em> feedback, because they want to know the truth. They can take it. They don\u2019t need to be \u201cpropped up\u201d by positive feedback, because they\u2019re already standing comfortably on their own two feet.<\/p>\n
\nTrue<\/strong>: Again, they\u2019re not delusional. Sometimes they disappoint themselves. But unlike people with injured (i.e., low) self-esteem, these feelings are situational and temporary, rather than deep and chronic.<\/p>\n
\nTrue<\/strong>: They do care, just like the rest of us. But they don\u2019t begin<\/em> with an assumption that others will find them stupid, unattractive or annoying.<\/p>\n
\nLow self-esteem makes us believe we\u2019re inherently worthless, bad or wrong as people. So when we\u2019re wrong about something, it feels like reinforcement; it feels like we really are wrong in ourselves. So we guard against admitting we\u2019re wrong, even to ourselves.<\/p>\n
\n1)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Think about who it\u2019s coming from.<\/strong> Your feedback-giver is a person with his or her own motivation for saying what they said to you. Even if they say, \u201cI only want to help you,\u201d how much do you believe them? Depending on the person, that might be true, partially true, or completely false. Do they have a legitimate reason for wanting to help? Do you experience them as caring and helpful most of the time? In other words, be discerning when it comes to people whose feedback you take to heart.<\/p>\n