{"id":43690,"date":"2025-01-11T10:44:20","date_gmt":"2025-01-11T15:44:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=43690"},"modified":"2025-01-08T10:44:59","modified_gmt":"2025-01-08T15:44:59","slug":"understanding-porn-addiction-signs-symptoms-and-how-therapy-can-help","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/understanding-porn-addiction-signs-symptoms-and-how-therapy-can-help\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding Porn Addiction: Signs, Symptoms and How Therapy Can Help"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-43692 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Addiction-Blog-300x300.png\" alt=\"man watching computer in a dark room \" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Addiction-Blog-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Addiction-Blog-800x800.png 800w, https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Addiction-Blog-200x200.png 200w, https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Addiction-Blog.png 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Signs and Symptoms of Porn Addiction<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">The phrases \u201cporn addiction\u201d and \u201csex addiction\u201d remain stigmatized in today\u2019s society. 12-step programs \u2014 think, AA \u2014 are alive and well, and people\u2019s recovery stories about struggles with alcohol and drugs are often openly discussed and praised. And yet, whenever the topics of porn addiction or sex addiction come up in discussion, they are commonly met with silence, discomfort, and even mockery. So, what are some signs for you to recognize that you are \u201cactually\u201d <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/pornography\">addicted to porn<\/a>? The similarities are strikingly similar to the criteria for addiction in any other sense of the word:<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"-\" data-font=\"Calibri\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335551671&quot;:0,&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:1080,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Calibri&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;-&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"0\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"auto\">You are spending more time watching porn than initially planned<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"-\" data-font=\"Calibri\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335551671&quot;:0,&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:1080,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Calibri&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;-&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"auto\">You are spending more money (if relevant) on porn, webcams, etc. than initially planned<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"-\" data-font=\"Calibri\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335551671&quot;:0,&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:1080,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Calibri&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;-&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"auto\">You find yourself turning to watching porn when presented with stressful or difficult situations (\u201ccoping mechanism\u201d)<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"-\" data-font=\"Calibri\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335551671&quot;:0,&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:1080,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Calibri&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;-&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"auto\">You see a correlation (direct or indirect) between your porn usage and your performance at work. Direct might entail watching pornography excessively in the office and\/or during working hours or missing deadlines, while indirectly might indirectly might include a feeling of constantly falling behind or being overwhelmed<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"-\" data-font=\"Calibri\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335551671&quot;:0,&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:1080,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Calibri&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;-&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"auto\">You are unable to stop watching porn (either in a single instant or in the longer term), even if you believe that your usage might be problematic<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"-\" data-font=\"Calibri\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335551671&quot;:0,&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:1080,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Calibri&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;-&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"5\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"auto\">You are experiencing a lack of interest or an inability to be physically intimate with your partner<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"-\" data-font=\"Calibri\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335551671&quot;:0,&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:1080,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Calibri&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;-&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"6\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"auto\">You plan out times and\/or seek opportunities to watch porn<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"-\" data-font=\"Calibri\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335551671&quot;:0,&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:1080,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Calibri&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;-&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"7\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"auto\">Other \u201cstages\u201d of the addiction cycle, such as preparation\/anticipation and ritual-following are taking up longer periods of time \u2014 and\/or are more thrilling \u2014 than the act of watching itself<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"-\" data-font=\"Calibri\" data-listid=\"1\" data-list-defn-props=\"{&quot;335551671&quot;:0,&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:1080,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Calibri&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;-&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"8\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"auto\">You feel senses of guilt, shame, regret, etc. after watching porn<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">These are just a few of the signs and symptoms that can indicate an addiction to porn. As mentioned, there are generally fewer known resources than for other addictions \u2014 if and only if because of the overall <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/stigma\">stigmatization<\/a> and resulting hesitation to reach out for help. And think about our collective access to it: For the large majority of us, it is a mere grab-and-click away on our cell phones, which are often attached to us. That might be the equivalent of an alcoholic going to bed with a bottle of whiskey under his\/her bed, or a drug addict placing a substance of choice on his\/her bedside table. A \u201cweak\u201d moment does not necessitate leaving the homes and taking a trip to the liquor store; it might only require reaching into your pocket.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b><span data-contrast=\"auto\">How Therapy Can Help<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">The first thing that therapy symbolizes is reaching out for help \u2014 aspects of stigmatization and apprehension are gradually shed, as a safe and judgement-free space and relationship is (hopefully) established. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/find-therapist.html\">By speaking with someone<\/a> who has had experience dealing with porn addiction, it can be relieving and reassuring to connect: At the very least, one is no longer dealing with this issue in complete secrecy or isolation. A therapist might provide resources such as relevant 12-step programs (e.g. SA, SAA, SLAA, PAA) that will link them with other (anonymous) individuals experiencing similar problems.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"auto\">A personal approach to therapy dealing primarily with porn addiction is to \u2014 after establishing a comfortable and trusting rapport \u2014 get a sense of the presenting problem so that therapist and client can collaborate on attainable and short-term, tangible goals with measurable progress. We will often ask the question, \u201cWhat would progress look like by the time we meet next week?\u201d and immediately follow up on how the week went upon the beginning of the second appointment. While employing various \u201cBand-Aid fixes\u201d (e.g. porn blockers on mobile device, sleeping with phone outside of the bedroom, etc.), therapist and client will dig deeper to find the many roots of the issue \u2014 it can be helpful to identify recurring patterns and themes throughout one\u2019s life, especially responses to traumatic events. Clients will commonly have been exposed to porn on the younger side, and turned to it as an initially adaptive coping mechanism after experiencing a traumatic event. Over time, individuals will turn to porn with more frequency, until and after the habit has gotten out-of-control, using some of the criteria listed above.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Signs and Symptoms of Porn Addiction?? The phrases ?porn addiction? and ?sex addiction? remain stigmatized in today?s society. 12-step programs ? think, AA ? are alive and well, and people?s recovery stories about struggles with alcohol and drugs are often openly discussed and praised. 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