{"id":43549,"date":"2024-10-10T14:16:43","date_gmt":"2024-10-10T18:16:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=43549"},"modified":"2024-11-12T12:05:34","modified_gmt":"2024-11-12T17:05:34","slug":"technology-and-mental-health","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/technology-and-mental-health\/","title":{"rendered":"Technology and Mental Health"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"coupleI have no statistical or empirical studies, just hundreds of cases I have experienced as a therapist where technology has and continues to affect relationships and the mental health of those who partake in it.\u00a0 Our society is bombarded daily with ads for the latest smartphone.\u00a0 Advertising depicts consumers using their cell phones for everything but calling people. In today\u2019s generation, you have to text someone before you can have the audacity to call them without permission.\u00a0 It\u2019s almost impossible to purchase anything without having to take a picture of a QR code to get any information.\u00a0 Then there is AI, Artificial Intelligence, prompting me every time I write an email, text, or letter to change what I\u2019ve written because a robot can do a better job, and I have a Master\u2019s Degree. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

No wonder, psychiatry.org reports <\/span>in 2024,\u202f<\/span>43%<\/span><\/b>\u202fof adults say they feel more anxious than they did the previous year, up from 37% in 2023 and 32% in 2022. Adults are particularly anxious about current events (70%) \u2014 especially the economy (77%), the 2024 U.S. election (73%), and gun violence (69%). (I did use technology to research these statistics).\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Relationships\u00a0<\/span><\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n

Couples that I treat complain their partner is constantly on their phone.\u00a0 Go to any restaurant and you\u2019ll see couples on a date night on their phones texting someone else besides their partner. Or scrolling through senseless videos of dogs jumping up and down. Then they go home and sit on separate ends of the couch getting ready for work the next day answering emails. What does this have to do with mental health? The couple is not communicating and the important household chores that have to get done get pushed to the side, increasing the levels of stress<\/a>, loneliness, boredom, and depression<\/a>. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Instant Gratification<\/span><\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n

In my practice, I treat betrayal trauma due to infidelity.\u00a0 Treatment involves building trust back between partners.\u00a0 One of my suggestions is to stay in touch more often during the day.\u00a0 Take the case of William and Mary. Mary is a stay-at-home mom while William is the production manager of a local manufacturing plant. William is a busy guy, never knowing when some piece of equipment is going to go down and stop production.\u00a0 But he promised Mary, he would call her periodically during the day. One day, Mary texts William because she hasn\u2019t heard from him in the past 15 minutes.\u00a0 William is having a crisis at work and can\u2019t stop and text or call every 15 minutes. But Mary doesn\u2019t agree.\u00a0 \u201cWhy can\u2019t you just text me that you don\u2019t have time to text me?\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We live in an instant gratification world and it\u2019s all the smartphone\u2019s fault. Partners complain if you don\u2019t call me or text me back within five minutes, you must be fooling around with someone else.\u00a0 We\u2019re so used to getting information instantly on our phones that we forget people are busy at work and aren\u2019t available 24\/7\/365.\u00a0 Those that make themselves available 24\/7 eventually burn out holding on to so much anger catering to everyone else\u2019s timetable. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Pornography<\/span><\/b>\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n

According to Fight the New Drug.org, \u201cmost kids today are exposed to porn by age 13. 84.4% of males and 57% of females ages 14-18 have viewed porn. At least 1 in 3 porn videos show sexual violence<\/a> or aggression. 53% of boys and 39% of girls believe pornography<\/a> is a realistic depiction of sex. Yet, porn consumers tend to be less satisfied in relationships, less committed, and more permissive of cheating.\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Think about this in terms of relationships. William\u2019s porn use has escalated in recent years.\u00a0 What used to be exciting is now boring, so he searches for something more stimulating, more taboo, or weirder, sometimes falling into illegal child porn. He spends so much time looking at porn that he loses interest in being intimate with his wife.\u00a0 Studies show that hours of porn use and masturbation limit a man\u2019s ability to perform sexually.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

William falls asleep one night after looking at hours of porn and Mary gets up, looks at his phone, and discovers hundreds of porn videos in his browser.\u00a0 Then she checks his texts and sees he\u2019s been sexting with several women, telling each one he loves them, just to keep the fantasy romance going. Mary is in shock, traumatized by the betrayal of the one person in the world she trusted most intimately.\u00a0 Her world has fallen apart and she questions her sanity, asking, who is this person I married?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Mary confronts William and William denies everything. He resents the fact that Mary keeps asking him all of these questions.\u00a0 After all, all men look at porn and he\u2019s not hurting anybody by just looking. \u201cAt least I\u2019m not having a physical affair<\/a> with anyone!\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Mary questions herself.\u00a0 Why does he have to look at those women when he has me?\u00a0 I, Mary must not be as pretty, sexy, or lovable as those girls he\u2019s looking at or sexing with. Because if I was, he wouldn\u2019t need to look at all that filth or text other women.\u00a0 What\u2019s wrong with me, she asks?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This scenario plays itself out daily in my office.\u00a0 Whether you call it out-of-control sexual behavior or porn addiction, the pain caused by this use of technology is gut-wrenching for both partners.\u00a0 The betraying partner is full of guilt, shame, and remorse once he sees what damage it has done to his partner.\u00a0 The betrayed partner is so traumatized she cannot think straight, sleep well, or function to her full potential. My job as a therapist is just beginning, repairing the damage, building trust, and explaining the difference between addiction and choice. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Technology has its advantages and disadvantages.\u00a0 For some people who get hooked on the obsessive, compulsive aspects of technology, life can be a slippery slope of time wasted, poor communication, lack of intimacy, and a life of fantasy versus reality. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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