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by Carey Cloyd, Marriage and Family Therapist<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n Creating and fostering friendships can take more effort and intention as an adult when one is no longer in school. This can depend in part on one\u2019s workplace and role. However, many people report finding it more difficult to make friends as an adult than they did as a child \u2013 and for women, this challenge may feel pronounced. It is important to address any feelings of <\/span>isolation<\/a> and loneliness<\/a> by actively cultivating friendships with other women to feel more bonded and supported. Friendships have been shown to help decrease\u00a0anxiety,\u00a0stress, and\u00a0worry, positively impacting overall health and well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n It is important to both respond to and reach out to female friends when it is authentic for one to do so. Of course, some balance in who is initiating contact is generally appreciated and valuable. Finding and maintaining a balance in who is initiating can be an important factor as you consider to what degree you\u2019re moved to invest in a new friendship<\/a>. You may assume that others are uninterested, when in fact, they may have some of the same needs, desires, concerns, and interests in a friendship that you do.<\/span><\/p>\n Get the ball rolling:<\/em> You can give someone a compliment, initiate a conversation, and extend an invitation for a walk or to lunch.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n In your quest to develop and maintain friendships<\/a>, feelings of rejection and\u00a0<\/span>abandonment\u00a0may arise. It is best to expect that such feelings will arise sometimes. Remember that you are assessing the friendship, as well as being assessed by your new connection. Someone may not feel the same level of interest as you do and\/or may not be a friendship match for you. If someone is not interested in continuing a friendship, their disinterest may be an accurate indicator of the viability of a friendship. This doesn\u2019t mean anything is wrong with you. One-sided friendships<\/a> hurt, and you don’t have to languish over them. Move forward and continue to look for like-minded companions with shared interests.<\/span><\/p>\n Many assume that someone with many friends is more socially successful and better off than those with just a few friends. It\u2019s not quite so simple. Personalities<\/a> differ; while some people thrive socializing with many people, others shine in relationships with a few people. It\u2019s most important what works best for you. This knowledge about yourself is where\u00a0self-care and self-acceptance\u00a0come in.<\/p>\n If there is momentum created in a new female friendship<\/a>, make sure to keep it up. Fostering adult friendship<\/a> takes time, attention, focus, and care. There may be a longer lapse than usual between visits or phone calls, etc. You can be the one to pick up the ball and initiate contact to keep the relationship going. For some, it may be nice to settle into a routine when you have contact on a relatively regular basis\u2014be that daily, weekly, monthly, or quarterly. Find what fits for you and each of your friends, knowing that there may be changes over a long friendship based on current circumstances.<\/span><\/p>\n by Carey Cloyd, Marriage and Family Therapist Women?s Issues: 4 Tips for Making Female Friends as an Adult Creating and fostering friendships can take more effort and intention as an adult when one is no longer in school. This can depend in part on one?s workplace and role. However, many people report finding it more […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3168,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[542,628,529],"tags":[1882,1195,1230,1881,674,1281,1883,1182,1336],"class_list":["post-41533","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-featured-articles","category-general","category-good-therapy-announcements","tag-adult-friendship","tag-adulting","tag-adults","tag-female-friendships","tag-friendship","tag-friendships","tag-how-to-make-friends","tag-making-friends","tag-social-life"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41533","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3168"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=41533"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41533\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=41533"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=41533"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=41533"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Women\u2019s Issues: 4 Tips for Making Female Friends as an Adult<\/span><\/h1>\n
4 Tips for Cultivating Female Friendships<\/span><\/h2>\n
#1 Take action and be consistent.<\/span><\/h3>\n
#2 Know that\u00a0<\/span>rejection\u00a0is part of the experience.<\/span><\/h3>\n
#3 Don\u2019t focus on numbers; focus on quality relationships.<\/span><\/h3>\n
#4 Keep it going!<\/span><\/h3>\n
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If you’re feeling scared, lonely, or overwhelmed by feelings of isolation, reaching out to a therapist in your area<\/a> for support might be the best thing you could do.<\/h2>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"