{"id":39114,"date":"2018-08-02T06:00:47","date_gmt":"2018-08-02T13:00:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=39114"},"modified":"2018-08-02T08:44:50","modified_gmt":"2018-08-02T15:44:50","slug":"is-it-possible-for-military-spouses-to-get-ptsd","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/is-it-possible-for-military-spouses-to-get-ptsd-0802187","title":{"rendered":"Is It Possible for Military Spouses to Get PTSD?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-39115 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Soldier_and_wife_embrace_in_front_of_window-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"Sunlight shines through the window, illuminating a soldier and wife embracing.\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Soldier_and_wife_embrace_in_front_of_window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/Soldier_and_wife_embrace_in_front_of_window.jpg 724w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/ptsd\">Posttraumatic stress (PTSD)<\/a> can develop following any exposure to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/trauma\">trauma<\/a>\u2014including trauma another person experienced. A military spouse may get PTSD after learning about or otherwise being exposed to trauma their partner faced. This is sometimes called <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/vicarious-trauma\">vicarious trauma<\/a> or secondary trauma.<\/p>\n<h2>How Do Military Spouses Get Traumatized?<\/h2>\n<p>According to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/dsm\">Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5)<\/a>, a person doesn\u2019t have to directly experience trauma to develop PTSD. Witnessing someone else\u2019s trauma, learning a loved one was hurt, or repeatedly hearing details about a traumatic event can also cause PTSD.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/veterans-mental-health-issues\">A military spouse<\/a> might develop PTSD stemming from their partner\u2019s trauma by:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Repeatedly listening to their partner\u2019s traumatic stories.<\/li>\n<li>Witnessing gruesome military combat on television, either during or after a partner\u2019s deployment.<\/li>\n<li>Feeling unable to escape the trauma their partner continually relives.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Some military spouses also develop PTSD due to their own military-related trauma. Depending on the mission, a spouse may not be able to locate or talk to their deployed partner. They may spend months or years terrified about their partner&#8217;s well-being. This <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/fear\">fear<\/a> can be compounded by graphic media coverage.<\/p>\n<p>Military spouses who experience symptoms of PTSD should know that military combat is not the only reason people develop posttraumatic stress. PTSD symptoms may be related to another trauma, such as a car accident, sexual assault, or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/abuse\">child abuse<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>A 2011 study followed 170 female military spouses who reported symptoms of PTSD. Researchers asked about the women\u2019s experiences of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/stress\">stress<\/a> and trauma and found:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>12.9% of wives attributed their symptoms solely to a spouse\u2019s deployment-related trauma.<\/li>\n<li>Most wives (62.4%) said their distress was wholly unrelated to a partner\u2019s military service.<\/li>\n<li>24.7% said their distress was due to a combination of their partner&#8217;s military service and other factors.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>For people who have already experienced trauma, exposure to a loved one\u2019s trauma may re-trigger the previous trauma.<\/p>\n<h2>How Common Is PTSD Among Military Family Members?<\/h2>\n<p>PTSD is a common experience. According to the National Institutes of Health, about 7.7 million Americans have PTSD at any given time. The 2011 study above found 21.6% of military wives qualified for a PTSD diagnosis.<\/p>\n<p>Whether or not a military spouse develops PTSD depends on multiple factors, including:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Previous and ongoing trauma:<\/strong> For instance, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/sexual-abuse\">a sexual assault survivor<\/a> may be more likely to develop PTSD, or to re-experience trauma, in response to a spouse\u2019s trauma.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Support system:<\/strong> A person may become <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/isolation\">socially isolated<\/a> as they await the return of their loved one. Someone with little social support and few <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/coping-mechanisms\">coping skills<\/a> may be more likely to struggle.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Overall mental health:<\/strong> A person who is already struggling with mental health issues may be more likely to develop PTSD.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Children can also be affected by a parent\u2019s military experiences. Children who develop secondary trauma may have nightmares, unusual fears, or increased irritability. Trauma can also shift the way children relate to one or both parents. The likelihood of a child developing PTSD depends on their age, gender, and general family functioning.<\/p>\n<h2>Military Spouses and Compassion Fatigue<\/h2>\n<p>Military spouses who act as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/caregiver-issues\">caregivers<\/a> for their loved ones can experience <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/compassion-fatigue\">compassion fatigue<\/a>. Over time, the demands of continually caring for someone can deplete empathy. A spouse might begin feeling <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/resentment\">resentful<\/a> instead of compassionate. Compassion fatigue can harm the relationship, and it may lead to worsening symptoms of PTSD in one or both spouses.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"popout-quote-left\" style=\"font-weight: bold; width: 30%; float: left;\">Trauma is not a contest&#8230;Everyone affected by PTSD needs and deserves help.<\/span>Support from expert caregivers, such as therapists and doctors, can be crucial. Regular breaks from the demands of caregiving can also be important. A person who intends to provide all the care their loved one needs, without any assistance, is much more vulnerable to compassion fatigue.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/relationships\">Romantic relationships<\/a> are an important outlet for many people. Spouses often rely on one another for emotional support, freely venting and seeking <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/empathy\">empathy<\/a>. When a partner is struggling with serious mental health symptoms, they may be less able to provide comfort. This change deprives the caregiving partner of an important source of emotional support during a time when they need it most.<\/p>\n<p>Therapy can help partners manage the effects of PTSD on a relationship. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/find-therapist.html\">With the right therapist<\/a>, military spouses can stop feeling like caregivers and begin feeling like partners again. Therapy can also help the care recipient feel understood and supported. A couple may find the process of navigating trauma together deepens their relationship in the long run.<\/p>\n<h2>Self-Care for Military Spouses<\/h2>\n<p>As a military spouse, you may feel <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/guilt\">guilty<\/a> for struggling with your own trauma. You may believe you cannot have PTSD if you didn\u2019t experience combat. Or you may recognize your symptoms but hide your distress because your spouse \u201chad it much worse.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Trauma is not a contest. You might face unique stressors that your partner does not. It doesn\u2019t matter who has it worse or who has suffered more. Everyone affected by PTSD needs and deserves help.<\/p>\n<p>Some <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/self-care\">self-care<\/a> strategies that can help military spouses cope include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Limiting exposure to triggering media, such as war movies or graphic news stories.<\/li>\n<li>Taking frequent breaks from caregiving. No one can provide 24\/7 care with no support. Schedule time to do things that make you feel good several times a week.<\/li>\n<li>Talking to loved ones about your own struggles and trauma.<\/li>\n<li>Joining a support group for military spouses.<\/li>\n<li>Getting plenty of exercise. Exercise can help with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/depression\">depression<\/a>, trauma, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/anxiety\">anxiety<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li>Getting adequate sleep.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Military spouses who struggle with secondary PTSD can find much relief in therapy. Therapy helps you understand how your partner\u2019s trauma affects you. It may also help you identify traumatic experiences in your own life that play a role in your PTSD. Therapy can be a supportive place to discuss your feelings without judgment. The right therapist can help you make healthy lifestyle changes and boost your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/resilience\">resilience<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>PTSD isn\u2019t just for soldiers. You don\u2019t have to suffer alone. You can find a therapist who can help you manage secondary trauma <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/find-therapist.html\">here<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>References: <\/strong><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Cook, C. R., Slater-Williams, A. A., &amp; Harrison, L. R. (2012).\u00a0Secondary PTSD in children of service members: Strategies for helping professionals\u00a0[PDF]. In <em>VISTAS <\/em>(Article 6). Retrieved from https:\/\/www.counseling.org\/resources\/library\/VISTAS\/vistas12\/Article_6.pdf<\/li>\n<li>How to deal with stress as a caregiver. (2018, March 21.) Military OneSource. Retrieved from https:\/\/www.militaryonesource.mil\/-\/how-to-deal-with-stress-as-a-caregiver<\/li>\n<li>Renshaw, K. D., Allen, E. S., Rhoades, G. K., Blais, R. K., Markman, H. J., &amp; Stanley, S. M. (2011). Distress in spouses of service members with symptoms of combat-related PTSD: Secondary traumatic stress or general psychological distress?\u00a0<em>Journal of Family Psychology,<\/em><em>25<\/em>(4), 461-469. Retrieved from https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC3156850<\/li>\n<li>PTSD: A growing epidemic. (2009). <em>NIH Medline Plus, 4<\/em>(1), 10-14<em>. <\/em>Retrieved from https:\/\/medlineplus.gov\/magazine\/issues\/winter09\/articles\/winter09pg10-14.html<\/li>\n<li>Yehuda, R., Hoge, C. W., McFarlane, A. C., Vermetten, E., Lanius, R. A., Nievergelt, C. M., . . . Hyman, S. E. (2015, October 8). Post-traumatic stress disorder.\u00a0<em>Nature Reviews Disease Primers<\/em>, <em>1<\/em>. Retrieved from https:\/\/www.nature.com\/articles\/nrdp201557\/tables\/1<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Even if they never see combat, military spouses can still develop PTSD symptoms. 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