{"id":38847,"date":"2018-06-28T06:00:50","date_gmt":"2018-06-28T13:00:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=38847"},"modified":"2018-06-26T12:16:28","modified_gmt":"2018-06-26T19:16:28","slug":"how-to-change-a-bad-habit-in-10-simple-steps","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/how-to-change-bad-habit-in-10-simple-steps-0628184","title":{"rendered":"How to Change a Bad Habit in 10 Simple Steps"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"PersonRemember those New Year\u2019s resolutions you made over the holidays, the ones about changing bad habits<\/a>?<\/p>\n

How\u2019s it going?<\/p>\n

Getting in the habit of doing something differently can be incredibly hard, but it is possible. Here are 10 guiding principles to help make your changes successful.<\/p>\n

1. Define what you want to do differently.<\/h2>\n

Is it quitting something? Beginning something? Be as detailed as you can. For example, you may wish to have a cleaner house. What, exactly, does a cleaner house mean? Is it keeping the counters clear and the dishes done? Does it mean mopping the floors every week? Every day? If you want to decrease the amount of alcohol you consume, what does that entail? Is it limiting yourself to two or fewer drinks a night? A week? A month? The more specific you can be the better. Clearly define your goal.<\/p>\n

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2. Specify why you do what you do.<\/h2>\n

If you find yourself watching too much Netflix, is it because you feel tired in the evenings? Do you use it as an emotional escape when you feel depressed<\/a>? If you\u2019re trying to quit smoking<\/a>, do you light up because your friends do or automatically smoke when you get in the car? Knowing why you engage in behaviors is critical to knowing how to change them.<\/p>\n

3. Understand why you don\u2019t want to do it anymore.<\/h2>\n

Are your kids embarrassed to have their friends over because your house is a mess? Has your drinking<\/a> become a problem because your spouse has noticed or because you have a DUI? Consider how changing your bad habit will affect your life for the better.<\/p>\n

4. Make your plan.<\/h2>\n

Break the plan into small steps. For a cleaner home, this might mean starting with one activity at a time. The first week, you\u2019ll be sure to make your bed. The next week, you might add vacuuming three times. For drinking less, it might mean getting rid of most or all of the alcohol in your home or ceasing to drink when you\u2019re alone. Quitting \u201ccold turkey\u201d works for some but not all.<\/p>\n

5. Be patient.<\/h2>\n

Think about change in terms of a journey\u2014a long-term process that is sometimes more direct and quicker than at other times. You might have heard it takes only 21 days to form a positive or control a negative habit. That\u2019s not quite accurate. According to a 2010 study, it can take as few as 18 and as many as 254 days to be successful. Value patience<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t view setbacks as a reason to quit. See them as part of the process. Sometimes it\u2019s two steps forward, one step back.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Anticipate setbacks.<\/h2>\n

Don\u2019t view setbacks as a reason to quit. See them as part of the process. Sometimes it\u2019s two steps forward, one step back. What might your setbacks be? Perhaps it\u2019s holidays, after-work activities, or increased stress<\/a>.<\/p>\n

7. Don\u2019t compare yourself to others.<\/h2>\n

Your brother may have stopped smoking in three days with no ill affects, but this does not mean it is possible (or healthy) for you. Each person has their own strengths, weaknesses, and ways of changing.<\/p>\n

8. Consider what would make change easier.<\/h2>\n

For someone who wants to lose weight, not having junk food in the house may help. For someone trying to begin an exercise plan, it might help to make a verbal agreement with a friend to be accountable to each other. Another idea is to not frequent places where you engage in the behavior. Certain areas or people may be triggers<\/a>.<\/p>\n

9. Celebrate successes big and small.<\/h2>\n

Note and acknowledge changes you make along the way. Some people reward themselves at certain points. If you\u2019ve been anticipating attending a special event or wanting to buy yourself something, this may be a good time to set an incentive.<\/p>\n

10. Find support.<\/h2>\n

This might mean finding a therapist<\/a>. It might be in the form of family, friends, or in-person or online support groups. A quick search of the web may yield online and local groups. Talk to friends and family about how it\u2019s going and let them know if you need extra support.<\/p>\n

Changes can be difficult but are by no means impossible. Comment below and let me know what has worked and not worked for you!<\/p>\n

Reference:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H., Potts, H. W., & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40<\/em>: 998-1009. doi:10.1002\/ejsp.674<\/u><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Changing unwanted habits can feel impossible. But with determination, patience, and a plan, it is possible. Follow this guide to making a positive change.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2491,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[542,623],"tags":[1361,665,1048,994],"class_list":["post-38847","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-featured-articles","category-issues-treated","tag-bad-habit","tag-habits","tag-making-change","tag-quitting-smoking"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/38847","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2491"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=38847"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/38847\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=38847"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=38847"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=38847"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}