{"id":37458,"date":"2018-03-06T08:00:36","date_gmt":"2018-03-06T16:00:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=37458"},"modified":"2018-03-02T13:36:25","modified_gmt":"2018-03-02T21:36:25","slug":"ptsd-and-self-soothing-behavior-when-trying-to-feel-better-hurts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/ptsd-self-soothing-behavior-when-trying-to-feel-better-hurts-0306185","title":{"rendered":"PTSD and Self-Soothing Behavior: When Trying to Feel Better Hurts"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-37554\" src=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/alone-sad-in-bed-e1520026445473-300x236.jpg\" alt=\"Young Asian adult with short hair and glasses sits up in bed under duvet cover looking downcast\" width=\"300\" height=\"236\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/alone-sad-in-bed-e1520026445473-300x236.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/alone-sad-in-bed-e1520026445473.jpg 667w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Self-soothing is as natural to people as breathing. Even as infants, we quickly learn the soothing results of sucking our thumb when our mother\u2019s nipple isn\u2019t available. As we grow, our repertoire expands as our world expands. The soft touch of a flannel blanket or a plush toy may be our next source of comfort and emotional support. For many of us, food and drink are the go-to sources of comfort beyond our bodies.<\/p>\n<p>How many happy memories are attached to good times with family and caregivers? As adults, many of the ways we make ourselves feel better are by invoking those memories through the powerful sense of smell, cooking or consuming old favorites whose aromas awaken a multisensory memory. Holidays and special occasions are built around re-creating many of these old favorites, amplifying the current experience by invoking the past.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, however, self-soothing can become a problem. It often seems to happen when there is <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/ptsd\">posttraumatic stress (PTSD)<\/a> in the background, such that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/coping-mechanisms\">self-soothing behaviors<\/a> are over-used and become a source of difficulty in and of themselves. Some of the ways people try to cope with the symptoms of PTSD are:<\/p>\n<div class=\"content-fatwidget align-right\">\n\t<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/find-therapist.html\" target=\"_blank\">Find a Therapist for Trauma \/ PTSD<\/a><\/h2>\n\t<form action=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/search-redirect.html\" method=\"get\">\n\n\t\t\t<input required name=\"search[zipcode]\" placeholder=\"Enter ZIP or City\" class=\"inline-input\" type=\"text\" \/>\n\n\n\t\t\t<input type=\"submit\" name=\"TOS agreement\" value=\" \" class=\"inline-btn\" title=\"Search\" \/>\n\t\t\t<input type=\"hidden\" name=\"search[concern_treated]\" value=\"67\" \/>\n\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/advanced-search.html\" title=\"Advanced Search\">Advanced Search<\/a>\n\t<\/form>\n<\/div>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/eating-disorders\">Eating<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/drug-and-substance-abuse\">Substance use<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/exercise-addiction\">Exercise<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/self-harm\">Self-mutilation<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>1. Eating <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Eating is a way that most of us self-soothe. An ice cream binge is a stereotyped way to deal with a major disappointment. Actually, both over-indulgence and over-abstention can lead to health issues.<\/p>\n<p>While we\u2019re all familiar with overeating as a possible problem, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/anorexia-nervosa\">anorexia<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/bulimia\">bulimia<\/a> are other ways people can use food to self-soothe. It may seem counterintuitive for someone to restrict the amount of food they take in (or keep in) as a source of self-soothing, but many experts believe this is a way of exercising control over an area of their lives which many people find satisfying as a way of combating PTSD which otherwise leaves them feeling overwhelmed and out of control. Specialists who treat eating disorders have consistently confirmed this observation (Brewerton, 2007).<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Substance Use<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Like eating, drinking to \u201cdrown our sorrows\u201d is a well-established cultural meme. While it\u2019s certainly not condoned by health professionals, we all know of mature individuals who have dealt with a major disappointment by overindulging in alcohol. While this can be a slippery slope toward <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/dependency\">dependency<\/a>, use of other substances can be even more dangerous. The addictive nature of marijuana is widely overlooked. Drugs such as cocaine, methamphetamine, and opiates are highly addictive, and almost everyone is aware of those dangers. Tobacco use is usually initiated through cigarette smoking, which in addition to the effects of nicotine provides reinforcement through the sucking reflex, the life-giving behavior which supports our earliest efforts to sustain life. (This is why nicotine patches alone often fail to provide relief to people who want to stop smoking.)<\/p>\n<p>What many people do not recognize is that these dangerous methods of self-soothing are usually turned to by people experiencing severe symptoms of PTSD who feel the need for greater comfort. It is believed that 50% to 66% percent of those who experience PTSD symptoms may also have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/addictions-and-compulsions\">addictive behaviors<\/a>. There is a tendency to stigmatize people who have this kind of problem as being somehow morally deficient. The truth is, many have undiagnosed and untreated PTSD, usually experienced in childhood.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"popout-quote-left\" style=\"font-weight: bold; width: 30%; float: left;\">Running when our knees hurt, lifting weights despite an injury, not giving our bodies time to recover (like exercising seven days a week) are all ways in which we can hurt ourselves while appearing to be pursuing \u201chealth.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Exercise<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Everyone recognizes the importance of exercise to good health. The more the better, right? Scientists have told us there is almost no limit to the amount of exercise which is good for us\u2014the benefits just keep adding up. However, what they are addressing is healthy, nondestructive exercise: a variety of types of exercise, including stretching, aerobic, and anaerobic exercise like that found in cross-fit regimens and yoga. This type of exercise lowers our blood pressure and improves our cholesterol and sense of well-being. It is frequently prescribed as a component of a complete PTSD recovery program. The latter is supported by the generation of endorphins when we exercise\u2014those hormones which make us feel good after we\u2019ve been exercising for about 20 minutes.<\/p>\n<p>Like anything else which makes us feel better, it\u2019s possible to become dependent on those <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/endorphins\">endorphins<\/a> and thus exercise to extremes in order to enjoy the benefits. Running when our knees hurt, lifting weights despite an injury, not giving our bodies time to recover (like exercising seven days a week) are all ways in which we can hurt ourselves while appearing to be pursuing \u201chealth.\u201d Often, people who exercise in this way may appear to have some sort of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/ocd\">obsessive compulsion<\/a>; my experience with people who behave this way strongly suggests they are dealing with some overwhelming and irrational <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/fear\">fear<\/a>, almost always tied to some childhood trauma which resulted in PTSD.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4. Self-Mutilation<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Among the many self-soothing behaviors are various forms of nonlethal self-mutilation. Usually, this takes the form of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/cutting\">cutting<\/a> behaviors. People who do this may repeatedly cut themselves with a sharp instrument, such as a knife or razor. Others may stick themselves with pins or burn themselves.<\/p>\n<p>The explanation given by many people who engage in self-harm is that the pain is a distraction from the extreme emotional discomfort they are feeling. Explanations from those who do this include &#8220;to distract from painful feelings&#8221; and &#8220;to punish themselves&#8221; (Gibson &amp; Crenshaw, 2015). Cutting or other self-mutilation gives them a way to exert control, like eating disorders, and distract themselves from their emotional pain. Several studies have found that the vast majority of people who engage in such behaviors have trauma in their background.<\/p>\n<h2>Finding Support<\/h2>\n<p>There are five types of treatment for PTSD which are recognized by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) as being \u201cevidence-based\u201d: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/types\/cognitive-behavioral-therapy\">cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/types\/cognitive-processing-therapy\">cognitive processing therapy (CPT)<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/types\/exposure-therapy\">prolonged exposure therapy (PET)<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/types\/eye-movement-desensitization-and-reprocessing\">eye movement desensitization and reprogramming (EMDR)<\/a>, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/types\/accelerated-resolution-therapy\">accelerated resolution therapy (ART)<\/a>. The first three use a combination of education, discussion, and homework to work through the effects of PTSD. They generally require 12 to 20 sessions and are about 70% successful, on average. EMDR uses eye movements and suggestions to deal with trauma; it generally requires eight to 10 sessions and is also about 70% successful, on average. ART uses eye movements and suggestions, requires three to five sessions, and appears to be about 90% successful. As with any treatment, your mileage may vary; there is no one-size-fits-all treatment approach.<\/p>\n<p>If you know someone who is indulging in extreme self-soothing, consider whether they might <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/find-therapist.html\">benefit from one of these types of treatment<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>References:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Brewerton, T. D. (2007). Eating Disorders, Trauma, and Comorbidity: Focus on PTSD. <em>The Journal of Treatment &amp; Prevention, 15<\/em>(4).<\/li>\n<li>Gibson, L.E., &amp; Crenshaw, T. (2015). Self-harm and trauma: Research findings. Retrieved from https:\/\/www.ptsd.va.gov\/professional\/pages\/self-harm-trauma.asp<\/li>\n<li>Kim, S.H., Kravitz, L., &amp; Schneider, S. (2012). PTSD &amp; Exercise: What Every Exercise Professional Should Know. <em>IDEA Fitness Journal, 9<\/em>(6).<\/li>\n<li>The Link Between PTSD and Substance Abuse\/Addiction. (n.d.). Retrieved from https:\/\/americanaddictioncenters.org\/ptsd\/<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We all engage in various self-soothing behaviors, but over-reliance on these ways of coping\u2014common among people with posttraumatic stress\u2014can be problematic.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3054,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_crdt_document":"","_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[542,623],"tags":[948,226,755,1173],"class_list":["post-37458","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-featured-articles","category-issues-treated","tag-coping-mechanisms","tag-posttraumatic-stress","tag-ptsd","tag-self-soothing"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/37458","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3054"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=37458"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/37458\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=37458"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=37458"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=37458"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}