{"id":35035,"date":"2017-06-21T06:00:59","date_gmt":"2017-06-21T13:00:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=35035"},"modified":"2017-06-15T14:32:09","modified_gmt":"2017-06-15T21:32:09","slug":"why-we-ignore-our-intuition-and-how-to-overcome-self-doubt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/why-we-ignore-our-intuition-how-to-overcome-self-doubt-0621174","title":{"rendered":"Why We Ignore Our Intuition and How to Overcome Self-Doubt"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-35041\" src=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/rear-view-woman-field-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"Person with long blonde hair walks through lush green field with arms outstretched\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/rear-view-woman-field-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/rear-view-woman-field.jpg 724w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>\u00e2\u20ac\u0153Why didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t I just <em>listen<\/em> to myself\u00e2\u20ac\u201dI knew what I needed to do all along and I ignored it!\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/p>\n<p>If this sounds familiar, you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re not alone. Trusting our gut is tricky business, and the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/self-criticism\">self-criticism<\/a> that occurs after we choose to ignore what feels right adds an extra layer of disappointment to the mix.<\/p>\n<p>I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m in the business of believing every person knows deep down what they need. Contrary to common belief, it is not my job as a therapist to give advice or tell a person what is right for them. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s to guide the process of uncovering authenticity and self-trust\u00e2\u20ac\u201dtrust that may be buried within a person after years of second-guessing, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/self-doubt\">self-doubt<\/a>, and self-sacrifice.<\/p>\n<p>So why do we turn away from our intuition when an inner voice is whisper-screaming for us to follow our gut reactions?<\/p>\n<p>[fat_widget_right]<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>We don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t want to be \u00e2\u20ac\u0153wrong.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d <\/strong>Close your eyes for a moment and think of everyone in your life, past and present, including yourself. Who has been your harshest critic? For most of us, this is typically ourselves. Part of the lifelong work of learning to trust your intuition is to stop judging yourself so harshly when you make mistakes: those things that help us learn, grow, and challenge us to look at the bigger picture. Let yourself be \u00e2\u20ac\u0153wrong\u00e2\u20ac\u009d sometimes! Embracing your inner voice must be accompanied by a release of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/perfectionism\">perfectionism<\/a> and criticism for missteps. Those missteps are a part of the journey, and intuition is what ultimately allows us to regain our footing on the path.<\/li>\n<li><strong>We don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t want the onus to fall solely on us. <\/strong>Making group decisions or trusting the judgment of others rather than our own comes with the benefit of not having to carry that pesky burden of potentially being \u00e2\u20ac\u0153wrong.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d It often feels nicer to have someone else to blame, which allow us to stay stuck in a victim role and shake off responsibility for our own choices. But while blaming others might feel soothing in the short-term, staying stuck in victim role keeps us wading in a river of indecision, confusion, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/trust-issues\">inability to trust<\/a>. It can feel scary to recognize that at the end of the day, each decision we make rests fully on our shoulders, but it is also an empowering tool that allows us to fully live our lives\u00e2\u20ac\u201don no one\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s terms but our own.<\/li>\n<li><strong>We believe there is only one correct choice. <\/strong>Releasing the binaries of \u00e2\u20ac\u0153black and white,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d \u00e2\u20ac\u0153good and bad,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d and \u00e2\u20ac\u0153right and wrong\u00e2\u20ac\u009d is an essential step toward trusting our intuition. If we believe there is only one choice that will get us to where we need to go and we\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re not certain what that is, of course we will be afraid to listen to our intuition! These binaries and dogmatisms make life feel absolute. In reality, life\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s circuitous path is anything but. Having faith that at any given moment we are where we are meant to be, and that every choice we make is the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153right\u00e2\u20ac\u009d choice for our current circumstances, allows us to move freely, follow intuition, and most importantly, trust.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span class=\"popout-quote-left\" style=\"font-weight: bold; width: 30%; float: left;\">Trusting intuition takes daily practice, and no choice is too small to start with.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Trusting intuition takes daily practice, and no choice is too small to start with. If your gut tells you to walk down a side street on your way home, listen to it. If you get a strange sense you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122d connect deeply with a new acquaintance but have only met once, don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t leave without getting their contact information. We dismiss our gut reactions as silly or \u00e2\u20ac\u0153nothing\u00e2\u20ac\u009d many times throughout each day, but these small moments can be practice for bigger life choices that are informed by intuition: where to live, who to marry, or when to embark on a fresh start.<\/p>\n<p>Today is the perfect day to begin releasing self-blame, owning each decision, and tossing out those \u00e2\u20ac\u0153rights and wrongs\u00e2\u20ac\u009d in order to start uncovering that wonderful voice that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s the only one worth listening to: your own.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When faced with a decision, why is it so hard to trust our gut? Learn to stop ignoring the wisdom of your inner voice and begin to let your intuition guide you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3047,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_crdt_document":"","_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[542,623],"tags":[782,416],"class_list":["post-35035","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-featured-articles","category-issues-treated","tag-intuition","tag-self-doubt"],"acf":{"author_show":false,"author_name":"","author_role":"","author_avatar":null,"author_profile_url":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35035","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3047"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=35035"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35035\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=35035"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=35035"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=35035"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}