{"id":32736,"date":"2016-09-06T06:00:06","date_gmt":"2016-09-06T13:00:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=32736"},"modified":"2017-08-24T11:06:52","modified_gmt":"2017-08-24T18:06:52","slug":"letter-writing-as-a-couples-activity-to-increase-intimacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/letter-writing-as-couples-activity-to-increase-intimacy-0906164","title":{"rendered":"Letter Writing as a Couples Activity to Increase Intimacy"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"AIt\u2019s far too common for newly married or new-parent couples to find themselves searching for more\u2014more time together, more romance, more connection, more intimacy<\/a>. Maybe, after the wedding is over and the thank-you notes are written, you\u2019re thinking, \u201cWhat are we supposed to do now?\u201d Or maybe, when the baby is crying and the laundry is piling up, you\u2019re thinking, \u201cWhen will we feel like ourselves again?\u201d<\/p>\n

Research by Dr. Barry McCarthy, sex and relationship expert and author of Rekindling Desire<\/a>, indicates that couples are more likely to become sexually inactive in the first two years of marriage<\/a> than at any other period in their married life (McCarthy and McCarthy, 2014). His recommendation is for couples to reenergize their relationship intimacy by enhancing desire, pleasure, eroticism, and satisfaction.<\/p>\n

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One place to start on the journey toward deeper intimacy is letter writing. Writing letters to each other is a good way to communicate<\/a> your thoughts and feelings amid the demands of work and family. Remember the spark of excitement and desire when you received an old-fashioned, handwritten love<\/a> letter? That\u2019s the spirit of this activity. These are loving letters, full of your hopes,\u00a0dreams, warmth, and tenderness. These letters inspire a deepening of intimacy because they help you communicate without distraction and with a genuine voice. The goal is for your words to bring you closer and help you feel more connected.<\/p>\n

So here\u2019s how it works: You and your partner commit to exchanging letters, ideally handwritten (but emailed will do), a few times a week. You can each answer one prompt below at a time, and you don\u2019t have to follow the same order. It\u2019s best to direct your answers to your partner, just as you would when writing a letter to anyone else.<\/p>\n

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Your letters have the power to become the vision statement for your shared future together.<\/span><\/p>\n