{"id":32293,"date":"2016-07-08T08:00:35","date_gmt":"2016-07-08T15:00:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=32293"},"modified":"2016-06-30T10:18:01","modified_gmt":"2016-06-30T17:18:01","slug":"__trashed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/dear-gt\/how-am-i-supposed-to-stop-being-crazy","title":{"rendered":"How Am I Supposed to Stop Being Crazy?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dear GoodTherapy.org,<\/span><\/p>\n

So I know “crazy” isn’t an acceptable term these days, but it’s a term I genuinely identify with, since I don’t know what’s wrong with me and find myself making decisions and doing things even I would say are crazy. I often experience irrational hatred<\/a> toward people I barely know, especially if I want something they have or think they’re extremely attractive. I’ll obsessively<\/a> text an ex after we break up<\/a>, or I’ll pick a fight with a friend for no apparent reason. And then I have this brain-fog feeling afterward and can’t help wonder if it was really me who did those things. I remember it all and feel guilty<\/a> and cry … and then keep doing similar things!<\/p>\n

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I feel like I leave the destruction of a tornado in my path. My friends, though they seem to stick around, have called me crazy, and we joke about how I’m the “hot mess” type. But they keep me at arm’s length, and deep down I know they’re right to do so. Things aren’t adding up in my own head. I don’t want to be manipulative<\/a> and passive-aggressive<\/a>, and I don’t want to act so irrationally and keep driving people away. Help? \u2014Still Crazy After All These Tears<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Dear Tears,<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, I see you have kept a sense of humor. And you have a circle of loyal friends, too. You understand and agree with how they see you, and how they protect themselves by \u201ckeeping you at arm\u2019s length.\u201d All of these are strengths you should be proud of.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, you\u2019re puzzled by your behavior, which you say leaves \u201cthe destruction of a tornado.\u201d You describe yourself as angry, obsessive, manipulative, passive-aggressive, and hating\u00a0in some instances. You say your actions \u201cdon\u2019t add up\u201d and are irrational. You describe a \u201cbrain-fog” feeling that makes you doubt if it was really you \u201cwho did these things.\u201d Then you remember it all, “feel guilty, and cry.\u201d You think you are crazy, even though you feel the word \u201ccrazy\u201d is unacceptable.<\/p>\n

I think you have made a wise<\/a> and courageous<\/a> first step by writing in to ask this question. Now it\u2019s time for the next step, to consult with a therapist<\/a> in person. That can feel a lot scarier than writing, but you will get a more valid opinion from someone you see in person and can talk with. Why not consult a mental health professional and see what that person thinks? Do you have a medical doctor? Perhaps there is a physical problem causing you distress. That can be a good place to start. Without more information from you, it would be inappropriate for me to speculate as to what might be going on beneath the surface.<\/p>\n

I think you have made a wise and courageous first step by writing in to ask this question. Now it\u2019s time for the next step, to consult with a therapist in person. <\/span><\/p>\n

Check your resources. Are you involved with a religious leader who might refer you to someone who can help? Is there a school near where you live that might have a referral service? Who might help? You might see a professional such as a social worker, psychologist, psychotherapist, or psychiatrist.<\/p>\n

What is it like to see a mental health worker? Typically, you will call for an appointment, meet with the therapist, explain your concern, and answer questions about yourself\u2014the kinds of questions, actually, you are already asking yourself, as I can see from your letter. You can also ask questions of the therapist, such as what might be the problem, how long does it take to work on this, what happens next, have you worked with someone like me in the past, how did that go, and what do you think?<\/p>\n

Just as the therapist is getting to know you, remember that you, too, are getting to know the therapist, and your opinion matters. Do you feel comfortable, even though you might feel nervous? Do you find the therapist likable? Do you think you will feel more at ease to speak freely after a getting-to-know-you period?<\/p>\n

Thank you so much for writing in and asking this question. When people ask questions, they open up the world for themselves and for others.<\/p>\n

Take care and good luck,<\/p>\n

Lynn<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Lynn Somerstein, PhD, E-RYT, responds to our latest reader-submitted Dear GoodTherapy.org question.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":526,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[625,542],"tags":[522],"class_list":["post-32293","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dear-goodtherapy","category-featured-articles","tag-dear-gt"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32293","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/526"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=32293"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32293\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=32293"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=32293"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=32293"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}