{"id":31282,"date":"2016-04-28T08:00:08","date_gmt":"2016-04-28T15:00:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=31282"},"modified":"2016-04-27T14:14:29","modified_gmt":"2016-04-27T21:14:29","slug":"when-youve-had-enough-acknowledging-your-stress-threshold","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/when-youve-had-enough-knowing-your-stress-threshold-0428165","title":{"rendered":"When You’ve Had Enough: Knowing Your Stress Threshold"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Woman<\/a>I just realized a few days ago that April is (or was\u00e2\u20ac\u201dit\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s almost over) Stress Awareness Month. This is fitting, considering just last week I wondered why the world seems to be piling one stressful situation after another upon my shoulders. It seems like just yesterday, yet also decades ago, it was April 1 and I was bummed I didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t have time to plan any April Fools\u00e2\u20ac\u2122 Day jokes, and now all of a sudden the month is nearly over and I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m wondering where the past several weeks went.<\/p>\n

When things get busy and life gets hectic, our physical and mental health tend to pay the price. I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve noticed a trend regarding coping with stress<\/a> among several of the individuals I work with: when it rains, it pours, and when stress begins to pile up, it doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t just add up\u00e2\u20ac\u201dit seems to multiply.<\/p>\n

Over the past several weeks I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve faced several situations that have generated various levels of stress: running a fundraiser, helping with a difficult move, dealing with sick kids, fielding crisis work calls, figuring out summer plans, and trying to maintain a good work-life balance. In and of themselves, each of these things would have been relatively easy to plan for and tackle, but it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s when we are pulled in a million directions and can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t seem to get a break that we become overwhelmed by stress.<\/p>\n

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I stopped at the pharmacy the other day, between leaving a meeting and picking up my daughter from school, only to find my sick dog\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s prescriptions hadn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t been filled and I needed to contact the vet. I nearly had a meltdown. I got back in my car feeling like an utter wreck because I really wanted to just break down and cry.<\/p>\n

So often I find that on top of the stress, people tend to pile on a load of guilt<\/a>. They beat themselves up for feeling stressed, argue that their stressors are not \u00e2\u20ac\u0153big deals,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d claim they \u00e2\u20ac\u0153should\u00e2\u20ac\u009d be managing better, and talk about how other people are able to handle these things with \u00e2\u20ac\u0153ease.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Along with the stress and feelings of guilt come engulfing feelings of \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I suck\u00e2\u20ac\u009d and \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m weak.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/p>\n

What people fail to realize is, while each thing may be relatively insignificant on its own, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s the combination of a lot of little stressors at once that ends up getting the best of us. Sure, most people could handle a setback at the pharmacy, but when the car breaks down, your babysitter is late, you double book an appointment, and you can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t seem to fight off a cold all at the same time, many people would feel, at the very least, irritable<\/a>.<\/p>\n

During therapy<\/a> sessions, I often put my hand out in front of me to demonstrate the threshold for stress of the person I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m working with. And as I list all the issues they are dealing with, I raise my hand up, up, and up. When you are dealing with stressors that fall under or meet the original threshold, you are able to cope, keep it together, and effectively manage your various tasks. But as you pile more and more stressors atop that threshold, you may become overwhelmed, run down, and irritable.<\/p>\n

Sure, most people could handle a setback at the pharmacy, but when the car breaks down, your babysitter is late, you double book an appointment, and you can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t seem to fight off an irritating cold all at the same time, many people would feel, at the very least, irritable.<\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t matter how minor or insignificant an event may be. Whether it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s a little aggravation or a major trauma<\/a>, you can be pushed over your threshold and sent into a tailspin. Negative emotions, such as anger<\/a>, frustration, depression<\/a>, and despair, can become heightened, and for some people, physical symptoms such as stress headaches or muscle tension can set in.<\/p>\n

Rather than beat yourself up for feeling like a complete basket case, take a step back and acknowledge you have a lot on your plate. Sometimes just bringing awareness to your stress can help keep it at bay. When you recognize you are overwhelmed and can let go of any feelings of guilt, you open yourself up to a greater capacity to face the challenges at hand and to more effectively organize a strategy to tackle everything on your agenda.<\/p>\n

Take a step back. Breathe. Remember to take care of yourself\u00e2\u20ac\u201dtake breaks, eat, and get rest. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s easy to forgo good self-care<\/a> when we are stressed and overwhelmed, but doing these things will help you recharge and be better equipped to cope.<\/p>\n

During my string of stressful weeks, I decided to put as much as I could on hold and get to the gym. As I ran, I listened to the song \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Let It Go\u00e2\u20ac\u009d from Disney\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s Frozen <\/em>(the only thing currently on my iPod; updating it has been on my long to-do list for months!)<\/em>. I heard the lyrics: \u00e2\u20ac\u0153It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s funny how some distance makes everything seem small. And the fears that once controlled me can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t get to me at all!\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Oddly, these words helped put everything into perspective. It made me realize I need to practice what I preach, take a step back, and acknowledge I was feeling overwhelmed.<\/p>\n

The Holmes-Rahe Stress Inventory<\/a>\u00c2\u00a0is a scale originally used to determine whether stressful events may cause various illnesses<\/a>. I like to encourage people to become familiar with this inventory because, sometimes, just being aware you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re dealing with one or more items on this list can help you recognize you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re nearing that stress threshold.<\/p>\n

Once you are aware you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re facing stress, experiment with strategies that work for you. Many people find it useful to make to-do lists, break things down into smaller chunks, and cross things off as they go. Some people need to take a step back and put things into perspective, while others need a reminder to ask for help and support<\/a>. Having a mantra or affirmation to connect to during times of stress, such as \u00e2\u20ac\u0153this, too, shall pass,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d can also help keep you grounded.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As Stress Awareness Month draws to a close, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s a good time to take inventory of the stress in your life, note self-care needs, and identify coping tools.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2983,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_crdt_document":"","_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[542],"tags":[31,25,47,239],"class_list":["post-31282","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-featured-articles","tag-psychotherapy-practice","tag-psychotherapy-issues","tag-self-care","tag-stress"],"acf":{"author_show":false,"author_name":"","author_role":"","author_avatar":null,"author_profile_url":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31282","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2983"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31282"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31282\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31282"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31282"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31282"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}