{"id":30588,"date":"2016-02-18T06:00:46","date_gmt":"2016-02-18T14:00:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=30588"},"modified":"2016-02-25T10:43:10","modified_gmt":"2016-02-25T18:43:10","slug":"inspiring-your-own-joy-the-lessons-of-pixars-inside-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/inspiring-your-own-joy-lessons-of-pixars-inside-out-0218164","title":{"rendered":"Inspiring Your Own Joy: The Lessons of Pixar\u2019s ‘Inside Out’"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Woman<\/a>Someone I\u2019m working with in therapy<\/a> recently asked me whether I\u2019ve seen Pixar\u2019s Inside Out<\/em>. Shortly after, a friend of mine asked the same question, saying, \u201cYou would love it. It\u2019s about emotions<\/a>.\u201d So I added the movie to my daughter\u2019s Christmas list and finally had the chance to watch it.<\/p>\n

Twenty-five minutes in, I was shopping online for Joy and Sadness figurines for my office.<\/p>\n

For anyone who hasn\u2019t seen the movie, Joy, Sadness, Disgust, Anger, and Fear are five characters living inside the mind<\/a> of 11-year-old Riley. The movie provides a cute and interesting look at how things such as thoughts, memories, and feelings interact in the conscious and subconscious networks of the brain<\/a>. What excited me most was how the banter between Joy and Sadness so perfectly depicts a topic I frequently teach in my workshops and therapy sessions\u2014the topic of self-talk.<\/p>\n

Self-talk is something we all engage in, be it consciously or in our subconscious minds. All day long, we are thinking various thoughts as we go about our days, completing various tasks and interacting with others. For many people, the thoughts playing in the background of the mind tend to be of an overwhelmingly negative<\/a> nature. We tend to engage in all-or-nothing thinking, jump to extreme conclusions, magnify our weaknesses, overlook our strengths, and box ourselves into rigid ways of thinking.<\/p>\n

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The attitude you take and the way you think about various situations will ultimately control how you feel. Over time, the build-up of negative messages and distorted thought patterns can lead to depression<\/a>, anxiety<\/a>, low self-esteem<\/a>, and other issues<\/a>.<\/p>\n

In the movie, Sadness\u2019 character constantly retorts the happy remarks of Joy with ho-hum responses and glass-half-empty views. For example, Sadness says, \u201cI keep making mistakes like that. I\u2019m awful. I know I am.\u201d Joy tells her, \u201cNo, you\u2019re not. You can\u2019t focus on what\u2019s going wrong. There\u2019s always a way to turn things around. To find the fun.\u201d She encourages Sadness to think of something funny. Sadness responds, \u201cRemember the funny movie where the dog dies?\u201d<\/p>\n

In another scene, Riley\u2019s dad has to leave for work and Sadness jumps to the conclusion, \u201cHe doesn\u2019t love us anymore.\u201d These berating remarks and pessimistic<\/a> ways of thinking are so similar to the negative self-talk messages we all engage in at various times in our lives. When you engage in self-defeating thinking, with a lot of unrealistic expectations and overly critical messaging, you set yourself up to feel bad, incompetent, or inadequate<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The attitude you take and the way you think about various situations will ultimately control how you feel. Over time, the build-up of negative messages and distorted thought patterns can lead to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and other issues.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s often difficult at first to pick out this voice, as we are not used to actively observing all of our thought processes. Yet, monitoring self-talk is one of the main tools I encourage for building self-esteem. When you begin to pay attention to the messages in your mind, you can eventually work to catch and reframe negative messages into more optimistic<\/a>, rational, and encouraging statements. Inside Out <\/em>gives a nice visual of what self-talk is like. It demonstrates the types of messages and attitude that build you up versus drag you down.<\/p>\n

People who really struggle with low self-esteem often find it nearly impossible to find a joyful voice. They say things like, \u201cIt is just too hard to give myself praise or say positive affirmations when I don\u2019t really believe it.\u201d Or, \u201cI just cannot say anything nice to myself. It feels way too uncomfortable.\u201d When this happens, I encourage the individuals I work with to imagine the self-talk voice as somebody outside of themselves\u2014a caring friend, a loving mentor, or an encouraging coach. Imagine what you would say to a friend or to a small child and give yourself the same level of respect and compassion<\/a>. The goal is to let the optimism of a voice like Joy\u2019s greatly outweigh the glum of a voice like Sadness\u2019. If giving a name and identity to your own messages helps, go for it.<\/p>\n

As we learn toward the end of the movie (spoiler alert!), Sadness does have a real and important place in Riley\u2019s mind. Changing self-talk doesn\u2019t mean ignoring or ridding yourself of negative thoughts or emotions. Instead, it\u2019s about finding a way to rationally acknowledge these feelings and move on without falling into a downward spiral of ruminating on the negative or beating yourself up. The goal is to think and speak to yourself in a kind way. For example, \u201cI made a mistake. I am human.\u201d<\/p>\n

Developing this rational, positive voice often involves breaking a long-standing habit and takes time and a lot of practice. Start by paying attention to your own mental chatter; you may discover you, too, have a voice of Sadness that is getting in your way. As you become comfortable identifying this voice, you can begin working to temper the negative messages with more rational and constructive statements. The more you bring forward your own voice of Joy, the happier<\/a> and more self-assured you will likely become.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Using emotions as characters, Pixar’s “Inside Out” brilliantly underscores how self-talk\u2014something we all engage in, all day long\u2014can either help or hinder us.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2983,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[67,542],"tags":[31,475,25,235],"class_list":["post-30588","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-book-and-movie-reviews","category-featured-articles","tag-psychotherapy-practice","tag-pop-culture","tag-psychotherapy-issues","tag-self-esteem-psychotherapy-issues"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30588","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2983"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30588"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30588\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30588"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30588"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30588"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}