
{"id":30498,"date":"2016-01-26T10:00:30","date_gmt":"2016-01-26T18:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=30498"},"modified":"2016-01-22T09:28:54","modified_gmt":"2016-01-22T17:28:54","slug":"study-says-controlling-parents-create-mean-college-students","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/study-says-controlling-parents-create-mean-college-students-0126161","title":{"rendered":"Study Says Controlling Parents Create Mean College Students"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mother-arguing-outside-with-daughter.jpg\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-30499\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-30499\" src=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mother-arguing-outside-with-daughter.jpg\" alt=\"Mother and daughter arguing outside\" width=\"2122\" height=\"1415\" data-id=\"30499\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mother-arguing-outside-with-daughter.jpg 2122w, https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mother-arguing-outside-with-daughter-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mother-arguing-outside-with-daughter-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mother-arguing-outside-with-daughter-1024x683.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 2122px) 100vw, 2122px\" \/><\/a>College students whose parents attempt to control them through <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/guilt\">guilt<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/shame\">shame<\/a>, or manipulation may cope with their stress by being mean to their peers, according to a study published in the <em>Journal of Youth and Adolescence.<\/em><\/p>\n<h2><strong>How Controlling Parenting Contributes to Problematic Behavior<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Jamie Abaied, a University of Vermont assistant professor of psychological science, and her colleagues recruited 180 college students, most of whom were female. College students are often still financially or emotionally dependent upon their parents, the researchers say, so <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/parenting\">parenting style<\/a> can continue to influence them even when they reach legal adulthood.<\/p>\n<p>Each student completed a questionnaire about their parents\u2019 behavior. Parents who engaged in behavior such as withdrawing money or criticizing their children were deemed highly <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/control-issues\">controlling<\/a>. The use of digital technologies such as texting and social media may further controlling behavior because it allows parents and their children to stay in constant contact. Thus parents no longer need to see or live with their children to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/manipulation\">manipulate<\/a> their behavior.<\/p>\n<p><div class=\"content-fatwidget align-right\">\n\t<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/find-therapist.html\" target=\"_blank\">Find a Therapist<\/a><\/h2>\n\t<form action=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/search-redirect.html\" method=\"get\">\n\n\t\t\t<input required name=\"search[zipcode]\" placeholder=\"Enter ZIP or City\" class=\"inline-input\" type=\"text\" \/>\n\n\n\t\t\t<input type=\"submit\" name=\"TOS agreement\" value=\" \" class=\"inline-btn\" title=\"Search\" onclick=\"ga('send', 'event', 'FAT Widget', 'Submit Search', 'Sidebar', {nonInteraction: true});\" \/>\n\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/advanced-search.html\" title=\"Advanced Search\" onclick=\"ga('send', 'event', 'FAT Widget', 'Advanced Search', 'Sidebar', {nonInteraction: true});\" >Advanced Search<\/a>\n\t<\/form>\n<\/div>Researchers also interviewed the students, inquiring about painful interactions with loved ones such as boyfriends or girlfriends. As the students discussed the event, researchers recorded their sweat levels as a way to measure <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/emotional-overwhelm\">emotional distress<\/a>. Students with higher levels of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/stress\">stress<\/a> were more likely to react in aggressive or impulsive ways, such as sending a mean-spirited text or email.<\/p>\n<p>Students who displayed higher levels of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/aggression-violence\">aggression<\/a> were more likely to have controlling parents. The connection between relational aggression and controlling parenting has already been demonstrated in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/child-and-adolescent-issues\">younger children<\/a>, but this study is one of the first to look at controlling parenting in adult children.<\/p>\n<p>In 2015, another <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/less-controlling-parents-have-happier-kids-and-other-news-0911151\">study<\/a> found children of less controlling and warmer parents were <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/happiness\">happier<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Reference:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Shapiro, C. (2016, January 20). Study: What happens when controlling parents follow kids to college. 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