{"id":28190,"date":"2015-06-10T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-06-10T13:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=28190"},"modified":"2015-09-02T14:05:55","modified_gmt":"2015-09-02T21:05:55","slug":"if-you-say-this-and-youre-not-on-the-autism-spectrum-stop","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/if-you-say-this-and-youre-not-on-the-autism-spectrum-stop-0610154","title":{"rendered":"If You Say This and You’re Not on the Autism Spectrum, Stop"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"StopSomehow, in recent times, the term \u201caspie\u201d has jumped tracks from a being an insider\u2019s term of endearment to an all-purpose adjective used to describe quirky or geeky aspects of one\u2019s own or another individual\u2019s personality<\/a>: \u201cI couldn\u2019t wait to get home and read more of that astrophysics book. How aspie is that?\u201d<\/p>\n

Is there anything wrong with that? Well, yes. And no.<\/p>\n

If you really are on the autism spectrum<\/a>\u2014at the \u201chigh\u201d end, where the diagnosis is Asperger\u2019s Syndrome (AS) or high-functioning autism (HFA)\u2014you might find usages of this nature confusing. They might even feel derogatory.<\/p>\n

Before I go further, let me say I am not a button-pushing, \u201cthat\u2019s offensive\u201d kind of person. I\u2019m not on a rant here. But there is room for sensitization with regard to the throwing around of the term \u201caspie\u201d that would serve us all well. My observations come from working with many individuals who are on the spectrum. This is important to them.<\/p>\n

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First of all, there is no such thing as an AS\/HFA personality. There are as many personalities among people on the spectrum as there are among those who are not on the spectrum. Just as not all neurotypical individuals watch reality TV; just as not all feel magnanimously comfortable in social situations; just as there are millions of individual interests represented, so, too, is the variety among those on the spectrum.<\/p>\n

The aspects that distinguish a person on the spectrum from one who is not are related to structural differences in the brain<\/a>. For people on the spectrum, these differences make living in the neurotypical world a minute-by-minute challenge. Figuring out subtexts and metamessages in conversations and other forms of communication is exhausting, and always bears the risk of failure. Sharing a three-dimensional, visual way of thinking with those whose thought patterns are more linear is exhausting. Understanding social and work expectations that are not explicit is exhausting.<\/p>\n

When a person with Asperger\u2019s\/high-functioning autism calls things aspie, you can bet he or she knows exactly what it means. But that\u2019s not an invitation to co-opt (and quite possibly misuse) the term.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes, due to misreading context and expectations, people on the spectrum make what is viewed as a social mistake. Is that an \u201caspie\u201d thing?<\/p>\n

Sometimes, a person on the spectrum has a deep interest in a topic that is not generally understood or even valued by other people. Is that an \u201caspie\u201d thing?<\/p>\n

Who among us has not been in a social situation in which we did or said something we later regretted? Who among us is without an interest, habit, or hobby that might not be considered mainstream?<\/p>\n

If you have friends on the spectrum and they use “aspie” in reference to themselves, be careful. When a person with Asperger\u2019s\/high-functioning autism calls things aspie, you can bet he or she knows exactly what it means. But that\u2019s not an invitation to co-opt (and quite possibly misuse) the term.<\/p>\n

Do you know what it means to the person with AS\/HFA who uses it to describe himself or herself? If you don\u2019t, ask. That\u2019s what I meant above when I suggested that use of the term isn\u2019t entirely bad. It can open up a conversation that could be instructive to everyone involved.<\/p>\n

I would bet that once you hear a person on the spectrum give his or her definition of the term \u201caspie,\u201d you won\u2019t be throwing it around casually anymore. You might even feel an urge to help other neurotypical individuals who use it to understand what it means to those for whom it matters most.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Although not generally intended to offend, a certain term gets thrown around rather casually and carelessly. People with Asperger’s know best what it means.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2574,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[542],"tags":[31,454,25],"class_list":["post-28190","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-featured-articles","tag-psychotherapy-practice","tag-aspbergers-autism","tag-psychotherapy-issues"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28190","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2574"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28190"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28190\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28190"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28190"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28190"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}