Does this song sound familiar?<\/p>\n
“Every Breath You Take” by The Police:<\/p>\n
Every breath you take
\nEvery move you make
\nEvery bond you break
\nEvery step you take
\nI’ll be watching you<\/i><\/p>\n
Some people think it\u2019s a love song, but according to Sting himself, it\u2019s the opposite\u2014as he put it, \u201cvery, very sinister and ugly.\u201d Does it remind you of your relationship with your girlfriend? The song is about a stalker, someone who watches every single thing their partner does or wants to do and takes away their freedom. In such a relationship, a person might feel safe and loved at first, in a secure space, but that space quickly turns into a prison.<\/p>\n
You say you\u2019ve read many articles about insecurity and the damage it can cause. I am not going to suggest any more books or articles to you; I think it\u2019s time you stop reading and start doing. I think you already know all you need to.<\/p>\n
In the kind of relationship you describe\u2014of possessor and possessed\u2014both partners are insecure. You ask if you should leave. I ask why you need to ask. What do you<\/i> want to do? I suggest that you seek professional help and a support group so you can learn to listen to yourself, act on your true needs and desires, and develop better, healthier relationships that will help you honor your own inner guide and grow.<\/p>\n
Respectfully,
\nLynn<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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