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\u201cWhy are you out of bed?\u201d
\n\u201cI\u2019m scared.\u201d
\n\u201cWhat are you afraid of?\u201d
\n\u201cThere\u2019s a monster under my bed!\u201d
\n\u201cThere are no monsters. Go back to bed.\u201d
\n\u201cNooooooo, I\u2019m scared.\u201d
\nSound familiar? Almost every parent has done this. Holding a little hand, down on your hands and knees with a flashlight to prove there is nothing under the bed\u2014unless you count the stray sock, a missing toy, and a few dust bunnies.<\/p>\n
Your little one thinks you are a superhero. You faced the monster and saved the day, or in this case, the night. With imagination tamed, feeling safe and secure, your child falls asleep.<\/p>\n
Imagination is an amazing thing. Children hone it to a fine art. With a towel on their shoulders and a leap from the couch, they fly!! They feed you imaginary sandwiches and wipe imaginary crumbs from your chin. They introduce you to friends only they can see. They scare themselves at bedtime. Years pass, towels are used for bathing, imaginary sandwiches and friends are forgotten. Monsters no longer hide under the bed. Reality replaces imagination.<\/p>\n
Or does it? Many adults continue to exercise their imagination. They don\u2019t have towels on their shoulders or imaginary friends, but they do believe in monsters created entirely with their imagination. Your child, no longer afraid of monsters, is a teenager now. You worry she doesn\u2019t take school seriously, or her current boyfriend is a bad influence, or her college fund isn\u2019t going to be enough. Get the picture?<\/p>\n
Adults may not imagine monsters under the bed, but they do imagine a multitude of scenarios that would scare Freddy Krueger, and it\u2019s socially acceptable. A vivid imagination is never questioned if the name is changed from imagination to worry<\/a>. It is commonly accepted that everyone worries; it\u2019s part of being a responsible adult. How else can you be prepared when the unthinkable happens? If you have played out the worst-case scenarios in your mind, you are ready to deal with them.<\/p>\n Worry is as useful for you as monsters under the bed were for your child. You make things up in your head, believe them, and scare yourself. Who will take you by the hand, shine the flashlight on your imaginary fears<\/a>, and make them disappear?<\/p>\n Worry is using your thinking to predict the future or to continue to relive the past. Predictions rarely come true, and if they do, worry did not change the outcome. It only made you miserable before the outcome happened. How much have you changed the past by worrying about it? Unless you conquered time travel, it doesn\u2019t work. The past is past. It doesn\u2019t change and it doesn\u2019t cause you pain unless you bring it into your present by thinking about it. So the monsters (worries) of the future and the past are simply you using your imagination to scare yourself. Seems a bit silly, doesn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n Worry (scaring yourself with your imagination) raises your level of tension and lowers your mood. From that low state of mind you expect to find solutions to your problems. It won\u2019t happen. High tension and low mood doesn\u2019t make for good problem solving\u2014ever. Recognizing that you are scaring yourself helps the worries go away. You shine the flashlight on your fears and recognize they are imaginary. From a calmer state of mind, you deal with problems as they occur rather than in the future or the past.<\/p>\n Related articles:<\/strong> As adults, we need to focus our imagination in a positive way when solving problems rather use our energy worrying about the past.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2553,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[229,429,390,324,405,25,27,57,414],"class_list":["post-13593","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","tag-anxiety-psychotherapy-issues-2","tag-control-issues","tag-fear","tag-mindfulness-based-interventions","tag-mood-swings","tag-psychotherapy-issues","tag-psychotherapy-models","tag-the-human-being-of-therapy","tag-worry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13593","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2553"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13593"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13593\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13593"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13593"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13593"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nDon\u2019t Worry \u2013 Be Happy!<\/a>
\nSelf-Soothe in Your Own Compassionate Hammock<\/a>
\nMindfulness Practice: Learning to Live in the Moment<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"