{"id":13174,"date":"2012-06-20T12:00:53","date_gmt":"2012-06-20T19:00:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?p=13174"},"modified":"2014-02-26T15:04:20","modified_gmt":"2014-02-26T23:04:20","slug":"understanding-the-journey-of-self-actualization","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/self-actualization-life-purpose-0620124","title":{"rendered":"Understanding the Journey of Self-Actualization"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We all have dream<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-17171\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/woman-gardening-self-actualization-life.jpg\" width=\"200\" height=\"300\" title=\"\">s and goals in life starting at a young age. Some of us want to sing for a living, others want to become teachers, and some want to become veterinarians. We have the desire to be liked and known by many, to have families and luxuries. But is there more to life than these hopes?<\/p>\n<p>Understanding the concept of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/self-actualization\" target=\"_blank\">self-actualization<\/a> could help you come to a better realization of what you\u2019re doing with your life, and where you want to be.<\/p>\n<p>A recent <em>Huffington Post<\/em> article by Russell Bishop visited the concept of self-actualizing in comparison to self-conceptualizing: \u201cSelf-actualization represents the process of becoming more of who you already are, while self-concept is more about your self-talk, about trying to become something or someone you may hope you are but fear you are not,\u201d Bishop said. \u201cWhile your self-talk represents an amalgam of beliefs, hopes and fears that you have accepted about who you are, your soul-talk emanates from the depth of who [you] truly are, encouraging you to grow, to blossom, and to expand.\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"content-fatwidget align-right\">\n\t<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/find-therapist.html\" target=\"_blank\">Find a Therapist<\/a><\/h2>\n\t<form action=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/search-redirect.html\" method=\"get\">\n\n\t\t\t<input required name=\"search[zipcode]\" placeholder=\"Enter ZIP or City\" class=\"inline-input\" type=\"text\" \/>\n\n\n\t\t\t<input type=\"submit\" name=\"TOS agreement\" value=\" \" class=\"inline-btn\" title=\"Search\" onclick=\"ga('send', 'event', 'FAT Widget', 'Submit Search', 'Sidebar', {nonInteraction: true});\" \/>\n\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/advanced-search.html\" title=\"Advanced Search\" onclick=\"ga('send', 'event', 'FAT Widget', 'Advanced Search', 'Sidebar', {nonInteraction: true});\" >Advanced Search<\/a>\n\t<\/form>\n<\/div>\n<h2><strong>The Four Aspects of Self-Actualization<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>From <em>The Inspired Life: Unleashing Your Mind\u2019s Capacity for Joy<\/em>, by Susyn Reeve:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Being all you can be<\/li>\n<li>Living to your full potential<\/li>\n<li>Honoring and valuing your gifts, talents, and skills, and generously sharing them in service of the highest good for all: a more peaceful, loving, and compassionate world<\/li>\n<li>Living a life of passion and purpose<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>Six Tips Toward Self-Actualization<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>From<em> The Inspired Life: Unleashing Your Mind\u2019s Capacity for Joy, <\/em>by Susyn Reeve:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Nurture and cultivate a loving relationship with yourself\u2014vibrant <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/self-esteem\" target=\"_blank\">self-esteem<\/a> is a powerful foundation of self-actualization.<\/li>\n<li>Acknowledge and value your specific and unique gifts.<\/li>\n<li>Have the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/courage\" target=\"_blank\">courage<\/a> to follow your calling from within.<\/li>\n<li>Answer this question: <em>If I wasn&#8217;t afraid and I knew I could not fail, who would I be and what would I be doing?<\/em> This defines your self-actualized vision. Then the question becomes:\u00a0<em>To live into this vision, what are the thoughts I think, the words I speak and the actions I take?<\/em><\/li>\n<li>Use breakdowns, blocks in the road, challenges, and stepping stones to support your vision.<\/li>\n<li>Understand the creative process, how the brain works, and have a community of support\u2014your vision keepers.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2><strong>Obstacles to Self-Actualization<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Susyn Reeve, a self-esteem expert and the author of <em>The Inspired Life: Unleashing Your Mind\u2019s Capacity for Joy<\/em>,\u00a0 says that unfortunately, many people haven\u2019t even started on the road to self-actualization.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThey don&#8217;t understand how the brain works, the creative process, and that everything that exists begins inside and then is brought to form outside,\u201d she says. \u201cMost people suffer from low self-esteem and do not believe in themselves\u2014they feel unworthy, unloved, and are ashamed of these feelings.\u00a0Their <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/fear\" target=\"_blank\">fears<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/worry\" target=\"_blank\">worries<\/a>, and anxieties stop them in their tracks.\u00a0They give more credence to the opinions of others and fail to honor their inner knowing.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Valery Satterwhite, an inner wealth consultant, has additional advice for people who want to become self-actualized. \u201cIt is essential to first reconnect with who you really are and what you value most,\u201d Satterwhite said. \u201cToo many people live life through the prism and the prison of a false personality where the real self is buried under layers of expectations\u2014who a person &#8216;should be&#8217; and what he or she &#8216;must do.&#8217; As children we tend to condition ourselves\u2014we shape-shift our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/identity-issues\" target=\"_blank\">identities<\/a>\u2014in order to stay connected, loved, and belong in our environment. The more we strip away these false layers, the more we are able to expand our sense of self and our place in the world.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She said everyone is capable of self-actualization, and most people want this for themselves, but many people don\u2019t completely become self-actualized. \u201cWhether or not they achieve it depends upon how willing they are to step beyond the comfort zone of conditioning to explore new perspectives, new learning, and new insights,\u201d Satterwhite said.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThose who live in fear will not travel very far in their journey of self-actualization,\u201d she added. \u201cFear is restrictive\u2014it cuts off expansion and actualization whether it be within an individual, society, or government. Those who value themselves and the gift that is this life enough reach a point where the pain of staying inauthentic overrides their fear. Those who step into their fears know the joy that comes with the learning and the growth that comes with the courage to step into the unknown. Often what we fear the most is what our heart is calling us to become. It scares us because it matters that much.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Five Stages to Self-Actualization<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Sarah Lendt, a nationally certified counselor, references the humanist psychologist <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/famous-psychologists\/abraham-maslow.html\" target=\"_blank\">Abraham Maslow<\/a>&#8216;s definitions of the stages that people must master before they can reach the final tier of self-actualization. The five stages are:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Physical needs, like food and water<\/li>\n<li>Safety and survival, including physical and emotional safety and shelter<\/li>\n<li>Love and a sense of belonging<\/li>\n<li>Esteem and self-esteem<\/li>\n<li>Self-actualization<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>It can be challenging, of course, to move past all of these steps to get to self-actualization.<\/p>\n<p>Lendt said, \u201cIn our lifetime we strive to meet these various needs,\u201d according to Maslow\u2019s concept of self-actualization and his hierarchy of needs. \u201cCircumstances may cause us to go back to a particular stage and need to fulfill it again; once a need is fulfilled, we can work toward achieving the next need. Sometimes unmet needs can cause a person to become fixated or stuck at a particular level.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Self-actualization is \u201clooking outside ourselves to do good for others, and receiving satisfaction in life for such behaviors,\u201d Lendt said. \u201cIt is a point where we are being the best we can be\u2014self-fulfilled and helping others \u2026 I think most people certainly can achieve it, but there is so much pressure, so many expectations in our world that people hold of themselves and others, that it is hard to get beyond the esteem level\u2014feeling good and confident about yourself so much that you can look outside yourself in your actions.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Nine Characteristics of Self-Actualized People<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>From Kendra Cherry:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>They engage in self-acceptance and accept other people for who they are, as well as treat others equally with respect.<\/li>\n<li>They are realistic and able to look at the world in a logical and rational way while still remaining positive.<\/li>\n<li>They have a strong sense of responsibility and work on solving problems.<\/li>\n<li>They have \u201cpeak experiences\u201d in life that help shape who they are.<\/li>\n<li>They follow their own path, are autonomous, and do not give into what others want from them.<\/li>\n<li>They enjoy spending time alone and are comfortable with solitude, while still enjoying the presence of others. They use this time to discover themselves.<\/li>\n<li>They have a good sense of humor that doesn\u2019t harm others.<\/li>\n<li>They are spontaneous, and although they follow general rules and guidelines, they are not bound by these.<\/li>\n<li>They enjoy the journey of life, as well as reaching the final goals.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Self-actualization is a journey: Learn to live a life of passion and purpose and to use your individual strengths and gifts to help the world.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2541,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[31,25,551],"class_list":["post-13174","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","tag-psychotherapy-practice","tag-psychotherapy-issues","tag-self-actualization"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13174","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2541"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13174"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13174\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13174"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13174"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13174"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}