{"id":33071,"date":"2016-10-11T16:56:47","date_gmt":"2016-10-11T23:56:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?page_id=33071"},"modified":"2016-10-11T16:56:47","modified_gmt":"2016-10-11T23:56:47","slug":"envy","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/envy\/","title":{"rendered":"Envy"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"TwoEnvy <\/strong>is an emotion that occurs when one person wants something\u00c2\u00a0another person has, whether that thing is a material possession or perceived success or stature. Notable for its status as one of the seven deadly sins, envy has been studied extensively in the fields of philosophy<\/a> and psychology<\/a>, among\u00c2\u00a0others.<\/p>\n

Understanding Envy<\/h2>\n

A\u00c2\u00a0complex emotional experience, envy\u00c2\u00a0can consist of many elements: longing, feelings of inferiority, ill will toward the envied person, resentment<\/a>, and guilt. When a person becomes envious, it is often\u00c2\u00a0due to some degree of dissatisfaction with the self<\/a>. In other words,\u00c2\u00a0envy occurs when a person believes that having what another person has would\u00c2\u00a0increase their own\u00c2\u00a0happiness. Envy might also involve some degree of wishing that the other person did not have the envied object or quality.<\/p>\n

Envy and jealousy<\/a> are distinct concepts within the field of psychology, although the terms are often used interchangeably. Like envy, jealousy is a complex emotion with multiple facets, but jealousy typically exists within the context of relationships<\/a>. More specifically, jealousy\u00c2\u00a0occurs when an individual fears losing an important relationship to someone else: it is the fear of losing what they already have\u00c2\u00a0and want to keep. Envy, on the other hand, typically occurs when the achievement, status, or possessions of another is desired: the emotion<\/a> focuses on what a person does\u00c2\u00a0not\u00c2\u00a0<\/em>have.

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How Does Envy Develop?<\/h2>\n

Envy develops when individuals compare themselves to\u00c2\u00a0others and find themselves to be inferior. This process is a natural one, although comparing the self\u00c2\u00a0with others may lead to the development of\u00c2\u00a0envy and other emotions that can cause pain. This type of comparison can often be seen in\u00c2\u00a0sibling relationships, for example. It is fairly typical for\u00c2\u00a0children\u00c2\u00a0to compare their treatment\u00c2\u00a0with the treatment of their siblings and point out any differences\u00e2\u20ac\u201dreal or perceived\u00e2\u20ac\u201dto their parents.<\/p>\n

Envy results from internal factors rather than external ones. Individuals\u00c2\u00a0may be more likely to experience envy if they have lower self-esteem<\/a> or believe that they are lacking in some way, regardless of what they actually possess. An individual is also more likely to envy people who are similar in ways such as gender<\/a>, age, class, education, or occupation. A person’s age\u00c2\u00a0may also affect whether that person is likely to experience envy. One study found that teens and young adults<\/a> are\u00c2\u00a0more likely to be envious than are middle-aged and older adults.<\/p>\n

The popularity of social media has also played a role in the experience of envy. People who see the achievements and positive life experiences of their peers on platforms such as Facebook and Instagram may start to feel envious and wonder why they have not experienced the same degree of success or happiness. Research has found that this experience of envy may lead to increased feelings of depression<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Can Envy Cause Harm?<\/h2>\n

Envy has often been written about in negative terms, with focus placed on its ability to prevent people\u00c2\u00a0from appreciating what they have or celebrating the successes of others. In fact, the experience of envy is likely to\u00c2\u00a0be a shameful<\/a> one. Many people are reluctant to admit their envy of others because the emotion may be\u00c2\u00a0seen as socially unacceptable. But like all emotions, envy\u00c2\u00a0is a natural and common experience.\u00c2\u00a0Many people are reluctant to admit their envy of others because the emotion may be\u00c2\u00a0seen as socially unacceptable. But like all emotions, envy\u00c2\u00a0is a natural and common experience.<\/span><\/p>\n

Research on envy makes an important distinction between malicious (invidious) envy and benign envy. Malicious envy focuses on the person who has the envied thing and involves an active wish for that person to not have that thing.\u00c2\u00a0Those who experience malicious envy may have negative intentions toward the other person and\u00c2\u00a0want to deprive them of the desired object. Benign envy, on the other hand, is more general in that it tends to focus on\u00c2\u00a0obtaining the\u00c2\u00a0desired object or achieving the desired status,\u00c2\u00a0without the presence of any ill will toward another person.<\/p>\n

Although envy is typically considered to be a negative\u00e2\u20ac\u201dand in the case of malicious envy, potentially harmful\u00e2\u20ac\u201demotion, it can actually have some positive consequences. The\u00c2\u00a0experience of envy can be motivating, for example. If envy drives an individual to achieve and obtain more, it can be useful in the pursuit of career or educational success. Similarly, researchers believe envy may have an evolutionary purpose, as it makes people want and ultimately strive to obtain necessary resources.<\/p>\n

Addressing Envy in Therapy<\/h2>\n

Addressing envy in therapy can be helpful for many reasons. When individuals realize that\u00c2\u00a0feelings of envy are becoming overwhelming or causing problems in life, they may find exploring these feelings\u00c2\u00a0with a therapist<\/a> to be beneficial, as a therapist may be able to help them understand and effectively manage them. In order to deal with feelings of envy, it can also\u00c2\u00a0be helpful to explore self-esteem, as in many cases feelings of envy may be\u00c2\u00a0related to feelings of inadequacy or negative beliefs about the self.<\/p>\n

Exploring envy in therapy can also useful because it may provide\u00c2\u00a0some guidance about what an individual really wants in life. The specific things a person envies can help illustrate that\u00c2\u00a0individual\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s desires and goals. An\u00c2\u00a0individual who envies a friend a\u00c2\u00a0very artistic may wish they were also artistically inclined, for example. Therapy may be beneficial because therapists can often\u00c2\u00a0help people identify their own areas of talent and encourage them to\u00c2\u00a0explore and develop these abilities. In this way,\u00c2\u00a0therapists can often support individuals through the process of transforming feelings of envy into positive goals.<\/p>\n

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  5. Thorpe, J. R. (2016). Why do we envy others? 7\u00c2\u00a0things to know about the psychology of feeling green. Bustle.\u00c2\u00a0<\/em>Retrieved from http:\/\/www.bustle.com\/articles\/174232-why-do-we-envy-others-7-things-to-know-about-the-psychology-of-feeling-green<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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