{"id":28960,"date":"2015-08-07T14:57:14","date_gmt":"2015-08-07T21:57:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/?page_id=28960"},"modified":"2015-08-11T13:13:59","modified_gmt":"2015-08-11T20:13:59","slug":"loneliness","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/loneliness\/","title":{"rendered":"Loneliness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" size-medium wp-image-28976 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/two-boats-floating-in-empty-landscape1-279x300.jpg\" alt=\"Two boats floating on water\" width=\"279\" height=\"300\" data-id=\"28976\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/two-boats-floating-in-empty-landscape1-279x300.jpg 279w, https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/two-boats-floating-in-empty-landscape1.jpg 504w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 279px) 100vw, 279px\" \/>Loneliness<\/strong>, a complicated emotion that typically occurs when one&#8217;s needs for social contact are not met, may be described as a feeling of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/emptiness\">emptiness<\/a> that results from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/isolation\">isolation<\/a>. A person may be lonely when alone, but the state of being alone does not necessarily indicate loneliness.<\/p>\n<h2>What Is Loneliness?<\/h2>\n<p>Loneliness can mean different things, depending on one&#8217;s situation\u00a0and individual needs,\u00a0but it is generally\u00a0considered to be a negative or undesirable state. Feelings of loneliness may develop when one lacks fulfillment in one&#8217;s\u00a0social relationships, but just as a person who is alone is not necessarily lonely, a person can be lonely without being alone.<\/p>\n<p>A\u00a0person in a romantic <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/relationships\">relationship<\/a> who has\u00a0few friends may\u00a0feel lonely in the partner&#8217;s absence or find the relationship to be somehow lacking in other ways, and a person who has many strong <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/friendship\">friendships<\/a> might still feel lonely at times. An individual who is not in a relationship and\u00a0desires romantic companionship might also experience loneliness.<\/p>\n<p>Experiences\u00a0that might also\u00a0contribute to feelings of loneliness include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/grief\">loss<\/a> of a loved one <div class=\"content-fatwidget align-right\">\n\t<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/find-therapist.html\" target=\"_blank\">Find a Therapist<\/a><\/h2>\n\t<form action=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/search-redirect.html\" method=\"get\">\n\n\t\t\t<input required name=\"search[zipcode]\" placeholder=\"Enter ZIP or City\" class=\"inline-input\" type=\"text\" \/>\n\n\n\t\t\t<input type=\"submit\" name=\"TOS agreement\" value=\" \" class=\"inline-btn\" title=\"Search\" onclick=\"ga('send', 'event', 'FAT Widget', 'Submit Search', 'Sidebar', {nonInteraction: true});\" \/>\n\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/advanced-search.html\" title=\"Advanced Search\" onclick=\"ga('send', 'event', 'FAT Widget', 'Advanced Search', 'Sidebar', {nonInteraction: true});\" >Advanced Search<\/a>\n\t<\/form>\n<\/div><\/li>\n<li>A sudden <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/breakup\">breakup<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Single parenthood<\/li>\n<li>Retirement<\/li>\n<li>Moving to a new area or going away for college<\/li>\n<li>Surviving <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/abuse\">abuse<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>A person who feels lonely may often be physically alone, but many individuals choose to remain alone,\u00a0maintaining few social connections. This state of being alone is not the same as loneliness: In most cases, a person who is alone by choice enjoys and welcomes solitude.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Loneliness and Mental Health<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>A sense of loneliness is often accompanied by the belief that one has no choice in the matter. For many people,\u00a0loneliness is a transient state that passes eventually. But when one&#8217;s social needs and desires go consistently unfulfilled, feelings of loneliness may become chronic and debilitating\u00a0and\u00a0lead to a decline in mental health.<\/p>\n<p>Loneliness has been linked to a variety of mental health conditions, such as <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/depression\">depression<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/anxiety\">anxiety<\/a>, low <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/self-esteem\">self-esteem<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/drug-and-substance-abuse\">substance dependency<\/a>. It may also contribute to disruptions in eating and sleeping patterns. Feelings of loneliness may sometimes develop to such an extent that they lead an individual to engage in acts of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/self-harm\">self-harm<\/a> or have\u00a0thoughts of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/suicide\">suicide<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Several studies show that adolescents who are lonely may be more likely to use drugs or alcohol and become sexually active at an earlier age than peers who are not lonely. Teens experiencing loneliness have also been shown to be more likely to engage in risky and unsafe sex or exhibit <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/aggression-violence\">aggressive<\/a> behavior.<\/p>\n<h2>Coping\u00a0with Loneliness<\/h2>\n<p>The distress associated with loneliness can be significant and\u00a0may lead to\u00a0feelings\u00a0of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/helplessness\">helplessness<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/hopelessness\">hopelessness<\/a>. Pursuing a new hobby, taking up a sport, volunteering in the community, or attending social events can help reduce distress by increasing one&#8217;s opportunities to form friendships. Engaging and meaningful activities can also help a person cope with loneliness by making time spent alone more meaningful.<\/p>\n<p>Those wishing to expand or rebuild their social connections\u00a0may find social networking or dating sites to be useful, as these sites can help one locate people with common interests, reestablish contact with old friends, or form romantic attachments.<\/p>\n<p>Individuals who are shy, experience <a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/learn-about-therapy\/issues\/social-phobia\">social anxiety<\/a>, or are reluctant to take social risks may be more likely to describe themselves as lonely and may have difficulty forming lasting and satisfying relationships. When a person finds it challenging to reach out to others or self-disclose in order to form closeness and trust\u2014both of which are generally necessary for a strong relationship to develop\u2014therapy can often help.<\/p>\n<h2>Therapy for Loneliness<\/h2>\n<p>An individual who seeks therapy to address feelings of loneliness may find it\u00a0helpful to explore potential factors that may contribute to these feelings.\u00a0Often, these factors can be discussed and resolved in therapy. For example, a person who feels lonely after the death of a close family member\u00a0may be able to work through these feelings in therapy, addressing grief and loneliness together. A person in therapy can also challenge and modify any thought patterns or perceptions that are associated with or contribute to loneliness, such as a perceived lack of control over life or social situations.<\/p>\n<p>When a person experiences loneliness due to a difficulty making and maintaining friendships, social skills training might\u00a0be used in combination with other forms of therapy\u00a0in order to further develop social strengths and communication skills. As part of such training, individuals may practice beginning and ending conversations, giving and receiving compliments, and using or making sense of\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.goodtherapy.org\/blog\/psychpedia\/nonverbal-communication\">nonverbal forms of communication<\/a>. This kind of training can often encourage\u00a0people\u00a0to feel more confident about\u00a0making social connections, which may help them become better able to do so.<\/p>\n<p><strong>References:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Killeen, C. (1998). Loneliness: An epidemic in modern society. <em>Journal of Advanced Nursing, <\/em>28(4), 762-770.<\/li>\n<li>McWhirter, B. (1990). Loneliness: A review of current literature, with implications for counselling and \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 research. <em>Journal of Counseling and Development,<\/em> 68, 417-422.<\/li>\n<li>Rokach, A. (2001). Strategies of coping with loneliness throughout the lifespan. <em>Current Psychology: \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Developmental, Learning, Personality, Social, <\/em>20(1), 3-18.<\/li>\n<li>Stickley, A., Koyanagi, A., Koposov, R., Schwab-Stone, M., &amp; Ruchkin, V. (2014). Loneliness and health risk behaviours among Russian and U.S. adolescents: A cross-sectional study. <em>BMC Public Health, <\/em>14, 366. 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