Family Time: Strengthen Your Bond by Spending Time Together

My son’s grandparents are out here visiting and it’s been great. We have done a lot of things, and some things that I really did not want to take a 3 month old to, like Disneyland but since they were here, we did. Today we are going to do a few more things before they leave tomorrow.

How do you spend family time? Family time can mean many things to different people especially to how the family is structured or who is in the family. Normally, it is just my son and my husband and we usually have the evenings together. Things will change when I go full time back to work and we will adjust our family time. The quality of family time is more important than the quantity. However if family time can be scheduled for at least once a week, that could create the desire and want for more family time.

What can you do in family time? Well, it does not always need to cost money. Yes, family time can even be watching TV but you may want to make it more interactive such as getting other people’s opinions about the show, what else could have happened etc, so there is communication going on. You could use a gaming system, or even bring out the old board games which can be fun and helps everyone to be relaxed and laugh.

Family time brings everyone closer and it centers the family. Family time helps shape the children and family values can be taught, shared or even spoken back to the parents. What I mean is that little children love to repeat what the parents say or how they act so if you want to know how you are doing as a parent, listen to your little ones and see how they respond to situations, you may get a glimpse of yourself! Family time also helps each other to feel loved and respected and to be heard. They may not feel that way all the time but the children will know that when the family comes together then there is an opportunity to be heard.

If you do not have family time, you are not alone. With parents’ schedules nowadays, it can be difficult but it is well worth it, especially to the kids, to know that Mom and Dad are there for them.

How you can start your own family time:

  1. Have everyone write or speak out what they would like to do once a week.
  2. Put the suggestions in a bowl and someone picks.
  3. Choose a night that works for your family and make it a part of your family’s schedule.
  4. Do your best to follow through with it. Build up the excitement.
  5. Enjoy the family time and anticipate the fun you will have.

Family time may need some rules but limit them. This is for fun, but no disrespect, cursing or putting people down. Family time is to help encourage one another, to enjoy one another and to strengthen the family. I will address family time more in another article. These things are what you can start with. It may take awhile for everyone to be excited about it, but do not lose hope!

Enjoy your family today; it’s never too late to start.

© Copyright 2011 by Kelly Sanders, MFT, therapist in Rancho Cucamonga, California. All Rights Reserved. Permission to publish granted to

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  • James


    May 31st, 2011 at 3:22 PM

    We have familygame night a few nights a week- board games or even a movie night always perks us up and gives us that bonding time that otherwise we might not make time for.

  • gina


    May 31st, 2011 at 11:58 PM

    my parents always endured we have great family time as much as possible and that we spent time being together with each other than while it away on useless things.and it has definitely helped me.while my friends were gaming,I was with my family having a good time.I definitely think it has made me a better and a more social person.and I plan to inculcate the same in my kids.

  • mary


    June 1st, 2011 at 3:34 AM

    the only ‘family time’ we spend is watching tv together on weekends..I know it’s not good but really there’s not a lot we can do while struggling to keep things afloat thanks to my husband being laid off his well-paying job last year..but thanks to your article,I am at least reminded of board games,been ages since we played one,will do so.

  • Paula Rivers

    Paula Rivers

    June 2nd, 2011 at 4:29 AM

    Wii night is so fun! Exercise and family time wrapped up in one!!

  • laura


    June 2nd, 2011 at 2:40 PM

    my dad always used to say that family time is the best possible way to spend your time and that there is nothing more rewarding to your soul than when you’re having a fun time,a good time with your family.

  • kathleen


    June 3rd, 2011 at 4:49 AM

    There is nothing on earth that can be any more quality than family time. So why is it that for many families this is the one thing that they allow to fall by the wayside? I mean we make time for all of our extracurriculars, for the kids and for ourselves, yet somehow we have gotten to the point that we think that spending time together is the thing that is the least important. My goal for my own family for a very long time has been to recapture that and to make that a priority again. Some days it works and other days it doesn’t but we all have been getting an A for effort at least.

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