My son’s grandparents are out here visiting and it’s been great. We have done a lot of things, and some things that I really did not want to take a 3 month old to, like Disneyland but since they were here, we did. Today we are going to do a few more things before they leave tomorrow.
How do you spend family time? Family time can mean many things to different people especially to how the family is structured or who is in the family. Normally, it is just my son and my husband and we usually have the evenings together. Things will change when I go full time back to work and we will adjust our family time. The quality of family time is more important than the quantity. However if family time can be scheduled for at least once a week, that could create the desire and want for more family time.
What can you do in family time? Well, it does not always need to cost money. Yes, family time can even be watching TV but you may want to make it more interactive such as getting other people’s opinions about the show, what else could have happened etc, so there is communication going on. You could use a gaming system, or even bring out the old board games which can be fun and helps everyone to be relaxed and laugh.
Family time brings everyone closer and it centers the family. Family time helps shape the children and family values can be taught, shared or even spoken back to the parents. What I mean is that little children love to repeat what the parents say or how they act so if you want to know how you are doing as a parent, listen to your little ones and see how they respond to situations, you may get a glimpse of yourself! Family time also helps each other to feel loved and respected and to be heard. They may not feel that way all the time but the children will know that when the family comes together then there is an opportunity to be heard.
If you do not have family time, you are not alone. With parents’ schedules nowadays, it can be difficult but it is well worth it, especially to the kids, to know that Mom and Dad are there for them.
How you can start your own family time:
- Have everyone write or speak out what they would like to do once a week.
- Put the suggestions in a bowl and someone picks.
- Choose a night that works for your family and make it a part of your family’s schedule.
- Do your best to follow through with it. Build up the excitement.
- Enjoy the family time and anticipate the fun you will have.
Family time may need some rules but limit them. This is for fun, but no disrespect, cursing or putting people down. Family time is to help encourage one another, to enjoy one another and to strengthen the family. I will address family time more in another article. These things are what you can start with. It may take awhile for everyone to be excited about it, but do not lose hope!
Enjoy your family today; it’s never too late to start.
© Copyright 2011 by Kelly Sanders, MFT, therapist in Rancho Cucamonga, California. All Rights Reserved. Permission to publish granted to GoodTherapy.org.
The preceding article was solely written by the author named above. Any views and opinions expressed are not necessarily shared by GoodTherapy.org. Questions or concerns about the preceding article can be directed to the author or posted as a comment below.