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What to Expect in Internal Family Systems Couples Therapy July 14, 2008 . 6 Comments
Hopefully the ideas and exercises in this book have been helpful to you, and you feel confident that you can improve your relationship. Or perhaps you feel that you and your partner could ... Read More
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Joined at The Hip? Nine Typical Dynamics that Represent Merging
June 10, 2008 .
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Fusion is defined as the desire for two people to merge into one another in personal relationships, and refers to an immature connection to the other fueled by a fear of separation. The ... Read More
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Are You a Fool for Love? Exploring the Art of Creating Intimacy
May 22, 2008 .
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No one wants to be a fool, least of all a fool in love. But what of being a Fool for Love? Is there any difference? Foolishness, folly, fool-hardy. We know it all too well. Fools rush in ... Read More
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Psychotherapy, Intimacy, and the Sacred April 25, 2008 . 6 Comments
Intimacy refers to being seen or known. One can be seen or known by oneself, by another being (human or otherwise) or by God. Individual psychotherapy usually focuses on knowing oneself ... Read More
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Why African-Americans are Less Likely to Go to Therapy
March 11, 2008 .
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People have many different ideas about why we—African-Americans—do not seek therapy. Some believe therapy is only for wealthy white people, while others believe they should ... Read More
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Would You Marry Yourself – Or Someone Like You? February 7, 2008 . 9 Comments
A glance at many magazines today will offer practical advice and “how to” strategies for the pursuit of the man or woman of our dreams. Let’s face it—sexy tag lines and catchy subtitles ... Read More
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What to Do If Your Spouse Won’t Go to Counseling October 2, 2007 . 3 Comments
The scenario of one spouse recognizing that therapy might be useful to look at a troubled relationship while the other is resistant has several possible explanations. It may be that your ... Read More
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After the Affair: How to Restore and Rebuild
August 22, 2007 .
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Among the worst experiences a lover or spouse can endure is discovering that their partner either is having or has had an affair. Someone who feels betrayed may experience a wide array ... Read More
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Getting Married Soon? Five Key Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Say “I Do” August 12, 2007 . 2 Comments
After what was hopefully at least a 2-year courtship, you now find yourself engaged. You’re excited and nervous as the big day approaches. You think you’ve got all the important questions ... Read More
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When Ambivalence Becomes a Chronic Pattern in Relationships
May 16, 2007 .
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This article discusses the nature of ambivalence in relationships and the resulting dynamics. My perspective on this topic has developed over the past 20 years of working with individuals ... Read More
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Relationship Alert!: Don’t Ignore the Warning Signs May 10, 2007 . 1 Comment
Just as your automobile needs regular care and maintenance, so does your relationship. Many couples ignore warning lights and other signs that their relationship is falling apart and is ... Read More
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How to Gain Control of the Defensive Behavior in our Relationship May 5, 2007 . 3 Comments
Defensive behavior is one of the leading causes of on-going painful conflicts within a relationship, the type which can lead to long term damage. Defensive behavior sends the message to ... Read More