Relationships and Marriage

There are many reasons why an affair happens. Rarely can an affair be narrowed down to a single root cause. Sometimes factors in the relationship have the greatest impact, other times problems ... Read More

Couples entering therapy typically want help resolving their conflicts. They want their therapist to guide them to safe and satisfying resolution of the topics that have generated tensions ... Read More

The positive effects of a marriage can often be seen in the happy countenances of newlyweds as well as in the lifespans and contentment of older couples who have been married for a significant ... Read More

You’ve been hurt, wronged, let down, and now your spouse stands with an apology. What goes on in your mind? Let’s pause the scene, a mental pause, and play out different responses. Scenario ... Read More

The practices of narrative therapy often challenge simple explanations of objective truth. Our lives are seen as multi-storied, rich with details and diverse experiences. In narrative ... Read More

If you are in a multicultural marriage, you know how hard communication can be. Whether it’s about: • In-laws: how much influence and involvement they have • Privacy: how many people ... Read More

We live in a world that is frightened of the darkness. A world that doesn’t understand and therefore is frightened of the darkness. As a consequence of holding the fear at bay, that ... Read More

If you are one of the many people out there who finds yourself in patterns of unhealthy relationships, perhaps you’ll benefit from identifying your attachment style—which not ... Read More

If I’ve witnessed it once I’ve witnessed it a few hundred times during my years counseling couples. One partner reacts as if his or her self worth has been decimated by words or actions ... Read More

The song from which I borrowed my title continues: “The one you shouldn’t hurt at all.” Yet it does indeed seem to be nearly universal that we hurt, and are hurt by, those with whom ... Read More

Jonathan and Michelle came into my consulting office looking for someone to help them make a decision about Thanksgiving with Jonathan’s parents. Jonathan said Thanksgiving was his ... Read More

As a marriage counselor, I often hear people say they are no longer in love with their partner. They really believe that they have fallen out of love. However, quite often, what has happened ... Read More