Forgiveness

To me, “vulnerable” is wonderful word. It means openness, freedom, and the opportunity to love and be loved. But for others, it is what they are trying to get away from: They feel that ... Read More

We all know the feeling, but few of us want to talk about it. Shame often runs our lives and undermines our relationships, but we often keep it hidden. We’re ashamed of being ashamed. ... Read More

People who are depressed due to childhood trauma often tell me they don’t want to blame their parents; they think it’s healthier to forgive them. They may even tell me their spiritual ... Read More

Anger is unavoidable. When it manifests in intimate relationships, the outcome can be less than rewarding. But in a recent article, Utah family and marriage therapist Jonathan Decker gives ... Read More

When “Jeanette” and “Tom” began their adoption journey six years ago, they couldn’t imagine having regular contact with their future child’s birth parent. They had concerns ... Read More

As therapists, we take journeys with our clients. We embark on long trips to uncover and discover the past and imagine possible futures. In the case of people who have been victims of ... Read More

What is the challenge today? Is it fallout from a divorce, financial woes, bad diagnosis, unemployment, domestic abuse, or a failing parent? Or is it something more prosaic, like a flat ... Read More

A client recently described how thrilling it was to take her daughter to see the Broadway musical Annie.  She recalled that her mother took her to see it when she was a child, and it ... Read More

Many mental health professionals consider the three “A’s”—addiction, affairs, and abuse—sufficient reason to leave a partner. This blog addresses lower-level offenses related ... Read More

It can be easy to focus on what isn’t working in our relationships rather than what is in our control. We all get stuck in the trap of keeping score, holding on ferociously to past ... Read More

Conflict is a natural product of interpersonal relationships. Rarely do two people involved in a relationship—whether social, professional, or intimate—avoid disagreements. But the ... Read More

Yes, therapists get stuck. I am sorry to burst anyone’s bubbles about therapists being perfect, knowing everything, always having it together, and not having problems. That is not true. For ... Read More