You’re worried about money. You’re afraid you’ll catch the flu. You can’t sleep because you can’t stop fretting: about your children, your family, your job, or lack thereof, or the state of the world—government, terrorists, the stock market, pollution, etc.
Feel overwhelmed? Anxious? Then it’s time to hop back into the driver’s seat of your own mind, take control, and calm yourself. Have you noticed that all your worries, no matter what you’re worried about, are about something that hasn’t happened?
Anxiety is about the future, which exists only in your brain. When you feel anxious, you fantasize the worst about some imaginary event and fear it. From a logical standpoint, that doesn’t make sense. Sure—some of the things you worry about may happen, but you use valuable energy to fear them, energy that could be better spent planning, preparing, or paying attention to what’s going on around you in the present moment.
When you catch yourself creating scary stories about the future, bring yourself back to the present moment. The easiest and best way to do this is to bring your attention and awareness to your breathing. When you worry, you either breath shallowly or hold your breath. Exhale as much air as you can. That makes extra space in your lungs so when you inhale again you can take in a deep, conscious breath.
You may have other unpleasant physical sensations associated with the anxiety, so visualize your breath going to those areas of your body as you breathe. In your mind’s eye, see your breath washing over those areas like a wave of water, cleansing and cool. It’s nearly impossible to focus intently on your breathing and think of scary things at the same time.
Conscious breathing from your diaphragm is an important skill to have when you need to ground yourself back into the present moment. That brings us to the second thing you need to do when you’re stuck in the future with frightening thoughts. Ground yourself and your energy.
What does it mean to be grounded? You’ve probably felt the experience of being in the zone, centered, on solid ground, or focused in your thinking. This is what being grounded is like. We use phrases such as air-headed, up in the clouds, or flying off the handle, to describe how it feels to be ungrounded.
When anxious, you tighten your diaphragm in order to hold your breath or breathe shallowly. When your diaphragm is tight, your emotional energy gets trapped in your upper body and intensifies the feelings of panic and racing thoughts. The energy has nowhere to go but back into your head, making it difficult to think clearly. You are ungrounded. In order to ground your energy you need get the energy flowing through your whole body again, down past your diaphragm, through your legs and feet, into the ground.
Start the grounding process with the breathing described above. Next, if you are standing, put both feet flat on the ground. When you inhale, lower your body several inches, flexing at the knees. Then, as you exhale, straighten your body by pressing down firmly with the bottoms of your feet. Imagine as you exhale that your feet are doing all the work, lifting you, and that your breath is a stream flowing all the way through your body, through your legs and feet and into the ground, connecting you firmly to the earth.
Do this for two or three minutes. If you are sitting, use the same breathing technique, and, with both feet flat on the ground, press the balls of your feet down firmly and your hips into the back of the chair with each exhale. Let up slightly on the pressure with each inhale. Repeat this technique for several minutes.
This is only one of many grounding techniques. It’s easy, portable, and if you practice it frequently, you can become adept at grounding your energy and calming yourself during anxious moments. By using conscious breathing and grounding techniques, you can pull yourself out of your scary future thoughts and return to the only time that exists, the present moment.
© Copyright 2009 by Becki Hein, MS, LPC. All Rights Reserved. Permission to publish granted to GoodTherapy.org.
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