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I do what you want, but you never let me do what I want! Duncan had his heart set on the new BMW sports car, but Estelle wondered whether it was the best way of spending money at this point. ... Read More

If I’ve witnessed it once I’ve witnessed it a few hundred times during my years counseling couples. One partner reacts as if his or her self worth has been decimated by words or actions ... Read More

Dyadic developmental psychotherapy, which is an evidence-based, effective, and empirically validated treatment is composed of a variety of elements and based on a number of principles that ... Read More

The song from which I borrowed my title continues: “The one you shouldn’t hurt at all.” Yet it does indeed seem to be nearly universal that we hurt, and are hurt by, those with whom ... Read More

New York Times columnist, David Brooks, was recently inspired by the movie, Where the Wild Things Are. He wonders if we are one person, with an ingrained, stable character—or are we different ... Read More

“Every form of power can be used well or misused. The law has been used to manipulate as well as to serve justice. Parenthood has been used as a means of captivity, and it has been ... Read More

**GoodTherapy.org Disclaimer: This article contains sensitive material that may trigger strong reactions for some readers, especially those with a history of trauma.** A personal introduction ... Read More

Many people believe having healthy self-esteem means you don’t need anyone else’s approval, that your own good opinion of yourself replaces any concern for what others think of ... Read More

What causes someone to develop severe anxiety? This question is asked by many people struggling with anxiety issues such as panic, phobias, social anxiety, or any of the various manifestations ... Read More

When I tell colleagues that I am a Gestalt therapist, I generally hear “so you hit pillows” or “so you just talk to an empty chair.” The general lack of understanding of basic underlying ... Read More

Human beings are fascinating bio-psycho-social organisms. What makes up a person? Traditional psychotherapy works toward congruence in a person’s thinking, emotions, and actions/reactions. ... Read More

There are so many wonderful things about Hakomi that it is impossible to address them all in one article. Instead, I would like to speak a bit about what makes it so special. First, a little ... Read More