Remember the song from the late 1980s—Don’t Worry, Be Happy? That’s a nice thought, but it might not be realistic.
In my opinion, it is perfectly natural to worry. Everyone worries. There is plenty to worry about: the economy, jobs, bills, health, family members, relationships, gas prices, the state of our country and the world, global warming, and so on. That is a pretty good list to start with, but we all have our own individual “Worry List” that goes on and on. The items may vary, but most of our lists are lengthy.
We don’t have to worry. What is the last thing that improved, or had a better outcome, because you worried about it? Worry is an activity in which time is spent imagining worst-case scenarios for things we care about. We use our imagination—just as we did when we were children—when we made ourselves believe there really was a monster under the bed. We make things up and scare ourselves.
Our society has taught us that responsible people worry. An unspoken belief is that worrying about something may decrease the likelihood of it happening. That gives us a lot of options to be sure we cover as we worry responsibly.
“No,” he answered, “I love my kids too much to worry about them.”
He went on to explain that if he spent time worrying about his kids, the time he had with them would be focused on if their homework was done, why they were a few minutes late for curfew, or if they had brushed their teeth. He chose to spend his time with his children loving and enjoying them rather than worrying about them.stress while lowering our mood or state of mind. So we participate in an activity that will put us in a bad mood and make us more stressed, and then we attempt to solve problems from that frame of mind. It doesn’t work! I think problems are solved by insights that come from a calm and relaxed state of mind.
Have you ever had one of those “aha” moments? Perhaps when you are in the shower or driving home from work? Suddenly you see a solution you never saw before. Those eureka moments don’t usually happen when we worry; they often happen when our minds find a quiet moment and our racing thoughts aren’t shouting.
Take some time to think of the things that bring you the most peace, perhaps a walk on the beach, listening to beautiful music, doing crafts, or watching the birds in your backyard. Activities that you enjoy may allow your level of stress to decrease and your mood to improve. From that place of calm, answers you have been searching for often appear as an insight—a sight from within.
Don’t worry, be happy!
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