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Burp, Cough, Yawn: Surprising Clues to Your Hidden Emotions
While it’s stereotypical to be asked about one’s feelings in therapy, a common counter to that question is, “I don’t know!” or, “I’m not feeling anything right now.” Part ... Read More
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When Our Dinosaurs Return: In the Mind, There Is No Extinction
Like many people who are in therapy or considering it, you may wonder what kind of psychological change is possible. Some of us think therapy can be like the treatment in the movie Eternal ... Read More
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‘How Does That Make You Feel?’ Why Your Therapist Is Asking
It’s one of the most important questions in therapy. It’s stereotypical. Sometimes, it’s disruptive. It can lead to anxiety and self-examination. And it’s not going away. Your therapist ... Read More
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Want Greater Peace of Mind? Learn to Ignore More and Let Things Go
In Kundalini yoga there is a practice called the Ego Eradicator. To do it, you raise your hands, put them in a specific position called a mudra, and begin a long series of sharp exhalations ... Read More
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10 Things You Should Know Before Starting Therapy
Dear new client: Welcome to the wonderful world of therapy! I know it can be hard to come in for your first appointment—really hard. You are here to meet me, a stranger who will hear ... Read More
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Am I a Sociopath?
Dear GoodTherapy.org, I recently took one of those online quizzes you see on Facebook sometimes. This one was about whether you’re a sociopath or not. I love quizzes and polls, so ... Read More
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Prepare for Pushback: How to Keep Growing When You Feel Unsupported
You’ve come to therapy to build healthier relationships with your loved ones. In the process, you surprise yourself by developing a healthier relationship with yourself. You begin to ... Read More
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Can We Control What We Think? Wild Thoughts and What to Do with Them
“I know I shouldn’t think this, but …” “This is going to sound completely crazy, but …” “I hate myself for feeling this way, but …” Wouldn’t it be great if we had ... Read More
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Remembering We Are Human Can Strengthen the Therapeutic Relationship
I will never forget the first time I felt like I had really failed a person I was providing therapy to. It wasn’t an error in thinking. I wasn’t being hard on myself. I really did mess ... Read More
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How Do You Really Feel? Expressing Disappointment in Therapy
People seek out therapy for any number of reasons: anger management, trauma, relationship issues, or anxiety, just to name a few. But whatever the issue or concern bringing a person to ... Read More
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Through the Looking Glass: How Therapy Has Made Me a Better Therapist
Childhood: Early Signs of Anxiety When I was a child, I think my parents saw me as quirky, needy, and overly dramatic. Looking back, I now see that I was anxious. I was traumatized at an ... Read More
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5 Daily Habits That Can Help You Stay Out of ‘Autopilot Mode’
Do the sluggish days of winter have you feeling like you’re in “autopilot mode”? Perhaps you catch yourself living for the weekends, keeping them jam-packed and exciting—something ... Read More