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Don’t Judge Me: Embracing Your Partner’s Differences
The ability to discern what we like or dislike is an important part of being an individual. It is enriching to have choices about what to eat, what we like to wear, how to decorate our ... Read More
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Figuring Out Fatherhood: What Kind of Dad Do You Want to Be?
Parenting is a strange deal. It’s one role in life where there is a strong blueprint—we were all children once, and someone got us through those years—but there’s no easing in to ... Read More
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Ethical Decision-Making in Therapy: The Power Spiral Process
The power spiral is a guide to using role power wisely and well, and is of particular use to therapists. There are four aspects to the power spiral for use with ethical decision-making: ... Read More
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10 Effective Time-Out Strategies for Managing Your Anger
Relationships can be challenging at times. There will always be periods when we get upset, when we feel that our needs and wants are not being met. Intimate relationships are particularly ... Read More
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From Trauma to Triumph: Transforming Pain into Art
“The real voyage of discovery consists not of seeking new lands, but in seeing with new eyes.” —Marcel Proust’s Remembrance of Things Past While we cannot go back and change the ... Read More
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Parenting with Discipline: What Type of Parent Are You?
Father and son sitting on a park bench As parents, we frequently focus on learning how best to “discipline” our children. Yet I find the greatest challenge in learning how to be, as ... Read More
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EMDR for Children: How Safe and Effective Is It?
As a therapist, I’ve used eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy to treat many adults with mental health issues resulting from trauma. This method of therapy is ... Read More
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The Brain in Defense Mode: How Dissociation Helps Us Survive
According to Ross and Halpern (2011), there are several definitions of dissociation. One of them (referred to as “the general systems meaning of dissociation”) is “the opposite of ... Read More
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Passing the Hot Potato: Let Others Solve Their Own Problems!
Do you spend too much time on other people’s problems? You lead a busy lifestyle and you have plenty of problems of your own to solve. But have you ever noticed how much time you spend ... Read More
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Punishments vs. Consequences: Teach Your Teen the Difference
When I work with parents of teenagers, our conversations inevitably turn toward discipline. “How do get my teen to follow the rules?” “My teen won’t clean up after himself. What ... Read More
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Self-Sabotage: When Unexpressed Anger Undermines Success
It is not unusual for well-meaning parents to use their influence to try to mold their children into their ideal of a “successful” person. But when parents are not welcoming ... Read More
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8 Ways Parents Can Help Teens with Academic Overwhelm
Would you work a highly demanding, fast-paced job Monday through Friday from 7 a.m. to 3 p.m., take a small break, then work another job that requires intense focus both mentally and physically ... Read More