Tomilu Stuart L.M.F.T.

Tomilu Stuart L.M.F.T.

Professions: Counseling Psychology
License Status: I'm a licensed professional.
Primary Credential: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist - 53543
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1-800-651-8085 ext. 19448
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6489 Camden Ave. Suite 103
San Jose, California 95120
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I don't currently accept insurance, but I can provide documentation if clients wish to submit to an insurance company for "out of network" benefit coverage

Fees: My fee is $130.00 per hour.

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I love the work I do. I feel honored to be a witness to someone elses growth and change. We are relational beings and it is in sharing ourselves and really being heard that we grow and change. I provide a safe non-judgemental place for you to share whats bothering you.
Everyone has their own individual path to follow. Sometimes in life we make mistakes (that's how we learn and grow) or painful things happen to us and we can't share them with those we are are closest too. Coming into therapy can really help. It takes courage to come to therapy.
Sometimes people are discouraged and feel stuck and coming to a therapist can help them see the problem in a different way and find an answer that works for them. My approach to therapy is eclectic. I am not tied to one theory. I use whatever I think will be of the most benefit to that particular person and the issue that they are dealing with.
I am Certified in EMDR therapy and that can promote rapid change and healing.
I invite you to call me today. I will provide you with a free half hour phone consultation to determine whether or not I am a good fit for you. If I am not I will try to help you find someone who will be. Call 408-832-6172

Email or Call Tomilu Stuart L.M.F.T. at 1-800-651-8085 ext. 19448

More Info About My Practice

I see adult clients individually and as couples.
No one lives happily ever after except in fairy tales. Once the initial stage of symbiosis wears off many couples think that they have fallen out of love. They start having problems in the relationship. They start to see their spouse differently. They may feel that they are not loved or understood. This is what Bradshaw called post romantic stress disorder. This is the period when a more mature long lasting love can develop. As humans we are constantly evolving and changing.
Sometimes one spouse will start growing and the other spouse will feel confused and threatened. Understanding this process can help a couple cope and adjust.
I do not see couples where there has been domestic violence.

Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With

I am skilled at helping people change and grow. I am skilled at helping people overcome the pain of the past and live a more productive and happy lives. I helped a client with a fear of flying start traveling again. I ran into her a year later and she is still enjoying traveling! I helped a client with social phobia move out of her fear and go to college. I have helped Clients change the core negative beliefs they have about themselves and to see the possibilities in front of them. I have used E.M.D.R. to help therapist interns who failed state boards pass by Reprocessing their memories of the exams and changing their beliefs about themselves that they had picked up as a result of those failed attempts. Our beliefs are very powerful. Beliefs can enable a person to do great things or they can keep a person stuck and trapped, afraid to move forward.

My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy facilitates change and enables client to live a more fulfilling and productive life. A good therapist has worked on their own issues and continues to do so. I believe that a good therapist works as a catalyst in her clients life. She facilitates and enables the client make personal change. She provides the client with skills and tools to maintain the gains made in therapy. Good therapy is not a forever journey. If you are stuck working on the same stuff year after year then something is not happening. E.M.D.R. therapy produces rapid changes in the brain. There are other brain based therapies that are also very effective. When clients do decide to come back to treatment with E.M.D.R. is almost always for new or different issues. Effective treatment with E.M.D.R. takes the pain away.

What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist

I love being a witness to the growth and change that occurs to clients in therapy. I am honored to be able to share their journey with them. I am truely blessed when the client tells me that I have made a difference in their lives and that they are glad they met me. Life is for living. It is a precious gift that each of us has been given and not meant to be wasted or spent being miserable.

How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist

I have had to overcome many obstacles and challenges in my life. Life isn't easy or fair. Overcoming them has made me stronger and more resilient. I have compassion for those who are struggling and a desire to help them in their struggles. I have dealt with my own negative core beliefs and I know that they can be changed with EMDR. That is why I do the work I do.
I am not what has happened to me I am what I choose to become. Carl G. Jung

Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed

It takes courage to go into therapy and it takes self-awareness. It means recognizing there is a problem and refusing to stay stuck. Sometimes staying stuck can seem like the easier softer way but there is nothing easy or softer about an unsatisfactory painful life. Going into therapy means you want a richer and more fulfilling life. Going to therapy means you value yourself and your life.

Services I Provide

  • Coaching
  • Family Therapy
  • Group Therapy
  • Individual Therapy & Counseling
  • Marriage, Couples, or Relationship Counseling
  • Online Counseling / Phone Therapy

Ages I Work With

  • Teens
  • Adults
  • Elders


  • English

Groups I Work With

    Many of my clients are survivors of sexual abuse as children & adults. I do EMDR Therapy. It is evidence based and the second most researched therapy method after CBT. It was developed to treat PTSD. It can also work effectively with a variety of issues. The theory behind EMDR is that past pain and trauma have effected our personality and the quality of our relationships. The painful memories are improperly stored in our brains. EMDR moves the memories into proper storage and negative beliefs about the self are corrected. An example of such a negative belief would be the belief that one was responsible for being raped or abused.

Client Concerns Within Your Scope of Practice

  • Abandonment
  • Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues
  • Addictions and Compulsions
  • Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions
  • Agoraphobia
  • Anxiety
  • Blended Family Issues
  • Breakup
  • Codependency / Dependency
  • Communication Problems
  • Depression
  • Dissociation
  • Divorce / Divorce Adjustment
  • Emotional Abuse
  • Emptiness
  • Family of Origin Issues
  • Family Problems
  • Fear
  • Forgiveness
  • Habits
  • Helplessness / Victimhood
  • Inadequacy
  • Individuation
  • Isolation
  • Jealousy
  • Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance
  • Midlife Crisis / Midlife Transition
  • Perfectionism
  • Phobias
  • Physical Abuse
  • Posttraumatic Stress / Trauma
  • Rejection
  • Relationships and Marriage
  • Religious Issues
  • Self-Actualization
  • Self-Compassion
  • Self-Confidence
  • Self-Criticism
  • Self-Doubt
  • Self-Esteem
  • Self-Love
  • Sensitivity to Criticism
  • Sexual Assault / Abuse
  • Shame
  • Social Anxiety / Phobia
  • Spirituality
  • Stress
  • Trust Issues
  • Values Clarification
  • Women's Issues
  • Workplace Issues
  • Worry
  • Worthlessness

Types of Therapy

  • Bibliotherapy
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy /REBT
  • Critical Incident Stress Management
  • Dreamwork and Dream Analysis
  • Existential Psychotherapy
  • Expressive Arts Therapy
  • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
  • Family Systems Therapy
  • Humanistic Psychology
  • Journal Therapy
  • Person Centered / Rogerian
  • Positive Psychology
  • Satir Transformational Systemic Therapy
  • Solution Focused Therapy

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