Patrice Janda, MSW, LICSW
|Professions: Counselling, Psychotherapy|
|License Status: I'm a licensed professional.|
|Primary Credential: LICSW - LW 60126585|
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When we are used to managing through life's rough spots it can be a real shock when this capacity to adapt suddenly and without warning breaks down. This faltering can happen for many valid reasons, though in the midst of it all these can appear beside the point. For those accustomed to believing themselves more than capable, the act of witnessing limitations can lead to anxiety, depression and despair. Call this the dark-side of being a highly capable person, but when life goes south, it is often the emotionally self-sufficient ones who find themselves backed into a corner.
To add insult to injury, many independently-minded folks don't really get how therapy could actually help them. Their lack of belief in external support makes pretty good sense. People accustomed to managing themselves successfully often cannot imagine how someone else could come up with solutions they haven't thought of first. But here's the thing. There's always a "thing". Therapy isn't really about finding solutions. If you want those you can binge on Ted Talks. Therapy is also different than just finding correct information. In a way, therapy is strangely old-fashioned.
Therapy is about letting another person know you. It's about learning how to count on someone else. This might sound trite, and even ironic, but in our hyper-connected sharing culture, it seems we can no longer expect this level of normal human knowing to happen by default. Because being known for who we are now requires some conscious action on our part, many today are experiencing a profound and psychologically disorganizing lack of connection. Studies repeatedly reveal loneliness reaching epidemic proportions. We've been taught to take better care of ourselves and rely less on others, but many in learning not to count on others come to experience the current culture's mandatory individuality as unsustainable and extreme.
Like everyone else, therapists must adapt to the times in which they live. In the past we did often encourage "boundaries". We said you needed them between you and others so you could become all you could be. Perhaps we went too far. Increasingly those who come to me need assistance in lowering their walls - they need help exploring, maybe for the first time, what it feels like to let another person know them. Very often, in making this essential contact, many do find themselves quite naturally regaining strength, grace and fluidity.
Email or Call Patrice Janda, MSW, LICSW at 1-800-651-8085 ext. 07368
More Info About My Practice
My hourly fee is $130 - 150 (sliding scale available)
I do not bill insurance directly, but I am happy to provide you with an invoice you may submit to your insurance company. If you feel you need help working with your insurance provider let me know.
Sometimes people want to talk to me before they schedule an appointment. I offer a free 20 minute phone consultation.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
Often when I talk with people about what I do for a living they will say, "Oh, that must be hard hearing about people's problems all day." I'm always a little taken aback by this comment upon what I do, mostly because it doesn't reflect my reality at all. To me, therapy isn't just "hearing people's problems." It's more like being privy on a daily basis to what people cherish and hold most dear. When people are hurting, when they break down and finally decide to "find a therapist" something critical and essential to who they are as a person has been placed in harm's way. They are in danger. I see my job as being with people as they learn what is most valuable and sacred to them, for at no time like when we are hurting are we better able to see what it is we cannot do without. I get to help people see the importance of their lives. This is hardly just "listening to people's problems all day." Sometimes I must admit I feel utterly flattened by the privilege of being the one to know another human being so intimately. That's not a problem for me. My clients multiply my world innumerably.
My Therapy Focus
I'm sort of a made to order kind of therapist. I know we can't be all things to all men, but hey, I'll give it a try. What's most important to me is to find out what my the person sitting in my room is looking for. Sometimes they don't know. I can help with that. I am not heavily invested in using clinical jargon, in fact I do attempt to avoid it. Part of the reason I stay away from it is that I believe language is important, it has the power to unlock our imaginations. But utilizing our creativity takes a lot of energy. Ruts, cliche, groupthink, and all the rest serve a purpose, they are efficient in many ways, they get the point across quickly, but excessive use of such will inhibit our thinking in more flexible ways, livelier ways that add robustness and color to our experiences. I'm basically an old-fashioned talk therapist. For a time people thought talking was not the best cure. They tried to come up with newer, more streamlined techniques for healing. Some of these new clinical treatments are helpful. However, when it comes to really growing self-knowledge, which today's world absolutely insists upon, you've simply got to put in the hours. This means a commitment to talking, exploring, wondering in a room with someone else who is trained to listen. I can't believe what an amazing invention this is. I've been in therapy, myself, I've sat and gone on and on while someone deeply skilled listened to me. Had I not experienced the profound effect this activity had on my own life, I probably would not believe in talk therapy. We do live in a world of machines. Now more than ever before, we need to be heard, if only so we can remember to hear ourselves.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
It's sort of common knowledge in this line of work that therapists have a higher degree of trauma in their personal histories. This is true for me. When people make it through challenging experiences they are more or less forever changed. However, these hard times can potentially grow parts of us that under more benign conditions might not have had the chance to grow. For a long time, because of my own history, I did consider myself "a wounded healer". I thought that it was because of my own wounds I could better reach others in their pain and alienation. That's probably partly true. But it's funny, as I'm writing this I realize I don't so much consider myself a wounded healer anymore. I'm a little shocked by this revelation. Instead I think I am someone who has learned to live much more fully, perhaps because of my wounds.
Wounds don't have to dictate our lives; rather than functioning as shields, they can be eventually opened, like long-sealed windows that when finally breached permit a stout and refreshing breeze to flow within.
Because I've lived through this miracle of actually emerging from the closed off tomb of unfortunate experience, it's natural for me to believe others can and will find release from their own psychic prisons. It's hard to explain how such a freeing occurs, but knowing that it can and does happen helps me to hold that faith when the person sitting across from me is enshrouded in doubt. I don't know how we transform the wound from shield to window, but I do know this transformation takes considerable reinforcements from without, someone there to lend courage. But it's worth the effort. When the seal of our wound is broken we naturally seek contact with the larger world outside of our own pain. It's amazing all that happens when we can finally breath again, take deep and wholesome breaths of air.
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- Individual Therapy & Counseling
- Family Therapy
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