Lily J. Kotila, M.A., M.A.T.

Lily J. Kotila, M.A., M.A.T.

Professions: Counselor, Marriage & Family Therapist, Psychotherapist
License Status: I'm a licensed professional.
Primary Credential: MFT - 48698
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1-800-651-8085 ext. 31255
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7752 Fay Ave Suite B
La Jolla, California 92037
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Billing and Insurance

Fees: $88 or a package of 5 for $350. (Comparable therapists with my training charge $150 for a therapeutic hour).

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My therapeutic intention promotes: forward movement rather than getting stuck in repetitive and problematic story-lines. Together, we re-script negative thinking patterns and restructure various behavioral choices in order to manifest desired goals and outcomes. A balance of individual and relational focus of mind, activity and time are encouraged. Sense of purpose and life vision are clarified. I teach people how to decrease interactional friction and promote empathetic connection through the use of metaphors, humor and shared strategies of understanding self and other. I connect thoughts and emotions to body mapping such that soma-manifestations of stress, sadness and anger can be rerouted into peaceful, energized empowerment that also results in attraction of others.

Email or Call Lily J. Kotila, M.A., M.A.T. at 1-800-651-8085 ext. 31255

Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With

Couple's Relational Therapy
Trauma, PTSD

My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy

Therapy is about expanding awareness beyond problematic patterns of thought and behavior in order to create an ideal self which also results in happier relationships.

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Services I Provide

  • Individual Therapy & Counseling
  • Marriage, Couples, or Relationship Counseling
  • Family Therapy
  • Mediation
  • Online Counseling / Phone Therapy

Ages I Work With

  • Children
  • Teens
  • Adults
  • Elders


  • English

Groups I Work With

    Couples & Relationships, PTSD & Trauma, Individual Life Transitions

Client Concerns I Treat

  • Addictions and Compulsions
  • Anger
  • Attachment Issues
  • Blended Family Issues
  • Breakup
  • Cancer
  • Child and/or Adolescent Issues
  • Communication Problems
  • Divorce / Divorce Adjustment
  • Emotional Abuse
  • Family Problems
  • Grief, Loss, and Bereavement
  • Health / Illness / Medical Issues
  • Men's Issues
  • Narcissism
  • Parenting
  • Posttraumatic Stress / Trauma
  • Sexuality / Sex Therapy

Types of Therapy

  • Anger Management
  • Body-Mind Psychotherapy
  • Breathwork
  • Clean Language, Symbolic Modeling, and Metaphor Therapy
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy /REBT
  • Collaborative Couple Therapy
  • Dance / Movement Therapy
  • Emotional Freedom Technique
  • Energy Psychology
  • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
  • Family Systems Therapy
  • Gestalt Therapy
  • Gottman Method
  • Hypnotherapy
  • Imago Relationship Therapy
  • Somatic Psychotherapy
  • Systems Theory /Therapy

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