Jill Denton, LMFT, CSAT, CCS
|Professions: Counseling, Marriage & Family Therapy, Psychotherapy|
|License Status: I'm a licensed professional.|
|Primary Credential: Marriage & Family Therapist - 17282|
Billing and Insurance
I don't currently accept insurance, but I can provide documentation if clients wish to submit to an insurance company for "out of network" benefit coverage
Fees: $150 per session
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What's important is helping each person to find the inner resources to make the changes and experience the healing they need and want. In the 30 years that I've been helping people find peace I've spent more and more time focusing on what's right, and less and less on what's "wrong". Life is not black and white- it's shades, textures, and patterns of grey. I help my clients chip away what's not truly them so they can know peace within themselves. That's why I stopped "diagnosis" long ago. I work with individuals and couples, especially in reducing anxiety, healing from trauma of all kinds and improving intimacy. I use a number of different approaches including EMDR and often people find their lives improving very rapidly. "Out beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing there is a field. I will meet you there." (Rumi)
Email or Call Jill Denton, LMFT, CSAT, CCS at 1-800-651-8085 ext. 00829
More Info About My Practice
I can help you wherever you are with telephonic coaching or counseling. On my dime I call you at the specified appointment time and we do telephone sessions. Many people find these are preferable for them, especially since it's often difficult to talk about anxiety or sexual issues face to face. Phone sessions are also extremely convenient and you can even participate wearing your pajamas! Talk to me more about this by simply calling me at 805-534-1101. If you get my voice mail be sure to leave your phone number.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I'm particularly adept at helping people with any type of post traumatic stress, or "fall-out" from abuse, violence, neglect or trauma of any kind. When I was in my early 20's I was sexually assaulted by a stranger that had been stalking me, and was unable to find good therapy of any kind in the greater Los Angeles area. This led me to psychology graduate school so I could help people who had similar experiences. I worked for 8 years as clinical director of a local rape crisis center, training many therapists to help survivors of all types of sexual assault, particularly when the perpetrator was a family member or acquaintance. Now I specialize in work with anxiety in all its many forms...I just don't view it necessarily as a "disorder" but as a natural response to trauma that I can help to alleviate with "good therapy" and EMDR (Eye movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I truly love witnessing the transformation that occurs when people learn to let go of expectations and attachment to outcome in their lives. As I learn to be more mindful and experience more and more peace in my own life I take joy in sharing with my clients how they can do the same.
My Role as a Therapist
My role is to walk beside my clients - not ahead of them and not shoving from behind. I help them to recognize, accept, and investigate whatever is going on for them. If their are difficulties, I help them to let go or release whatever is blocking them from inner peace and healing.
My Guiding Ethical Principles
In my work with couples I use a three-legged stool approach in that I see the couple, then each person individually, with each leg crucial. If someone shares something with me in an individual session, I will not share this information when they come with their partner. This ensures that each person can open up to me about anything and trust that I will keep their disclosure private. Eventually they might choose to share this with their partner, but its always their decision. Many of my former clients have told me how much they appreciated being able to open up like this.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
Most therapists are trained first and foremost to diagnose - to focus on what is "wrong." This reductionistic approach means that they are seeing their client as a "disorder" or cluster of disorders rather than a person who is frightened or confused or blocked from their true self. In choosing a therapist I look for someone who is interested in ferreting out what is "right" with me - my wisdom and my inner strength.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
Yes indeed...my struggles with fear and anxiety mean that I can empathize with people who are scared - not just sympathize. I know what it's like to wake up first thing every morning with a knot in my stomach! And I can share with clients that path that has led me away from this experience to the relative peace I now experience.
Theoretical Influences that Guide My Work
I've been profoundly inspired by the work of Carl Rogers, who looked for the good and the strength in his client centered approach. In my work as a CSAT (certified sexual addiction therapist) I've been trained and inspired by Dr.Patrick Carnes. And I love the work of Carl Jung (two Carls!) and his spiritual approach to dreams and healing.
My Blog Posts
- How Our Intimacy Needs Can Fuel a Phone 'Addiction'
- 50 Shades of Sexual Desire: How Much Is Just Right?
- If 'Pink Viagra' Seems Tough to Swallow, Try This Instead
- From Phone Sex to Internet Sex: Addiction at Your Fingertips
- Mars and Venus? Maybe Men and Women Aren't So Far Off
- Sex 101: A Little Pillow Talk Can Go a Long Way
- 'Bonus Sex' with an Ex: Frisky Business or Risky Business?
- When Cross-Dressing Puts Relationships in the Crosshairs
- When She Wants Sex but He's Not Having It
- Sexual Fantasies: Do You Have an Old Standby?
- When Breastfeeding Isn't for the Child's Benefit
- Is There Any Real Danger in Having Low Testosterone?
- Sexual Orientation: Black and White, or Lavender and Gray?
- Does Your Partner Know Your Sexual Fantasies? Why Not?
- When Platonic and Romantic Worlds Collide
- The Soloist: Self-Pleasuring in the Context of a Relationship
- What Turns Us On?
- Women and Virginity: Preparing for the First Time
- Singing the Menopause Blues
- Does Size Matter? If You're Male, Probably
- The Big 'O': First, Release Your Expectations
- When It Comes to Sex, Is There Safety in Numbers?
- Meet the GoodTherapy.org Topic Experts: Jill Denton
- Women Wanting More: The Delicate Balance of Love and Desire
- Getting Naked: It's Not Just About the Sex
- Surrogate Partners: Making Intimacy Work
- Finding Your Way in a Low-Sex or No-Sex Marriage
- Oral Spelunking: The Intimacy of Kissing
- Are My Feelings for My Therapist Normal?
- Going up? Or down? Channeling Sexual Energy
- Sex Talk: How Communication Builds Intimacy
- Why Do Men Have More Orgasms?
- Unsexy IVF: The Price of In Vitro Fertilization
- Help! My Date Nights End with Erectile Dysfunction!
- Online Pornography and Youth
- Why Do Women in Committed Relationships Lose Sexual Desire?
- Vibrators Prove Pleasurable for Men, Too
- Depression Medications: Side Effects and Libido, a Follow-Up
- Depression Medications: How Can You Get Your Libido Back?
- Zeroing In: How a Therapist Can Help Identify the Source of Sexual Disfunction
- Porn Addiction: Hidden in Plain Sight
- Online Pornography: The Crack Cocaine of Sex Addiction
- Is Your Sex Life Disordered or Just Dull?
- Being Open About Polyamory
- Sexual Anorexia: When Does Not Enough Become a Problem?
- Fanning the Spark: The Sexual Passion of Opposites
- Hypersexuality Disorder or Sex Addiction?
- Porn and Relationships: How Portability Complicates Things
Services I Provide
- Individual Therapy & Counseling
- Marriage, Couples, or Relationship Counseling
- Group Therapy
- Online Counseling / Phone Therapy
Ages I Work With
Groups I Work With
People suffering from anxiety, ptsd (post-traumatic stress disorder), depression; those who have been sexually or physically abused; people suffering from addiction (especially behavioral addictions like sex), those who are gay, lesbian, transgender or not sure and individuals and couples whose sex life is not all that they want it to be.
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