Carl G. Hindy, Ph.D.
|Professions: Psychology, Marriage & Family Therapy, Counselling|
|License Status: I'm a licensed professional.|
|Primary Credential: Psychologist|
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One of New Hampshire's most experienced marriage counselors. For 29 years as a clinical psychologist providing relationship and individual counseling in Nashua NH, I have stayed focused on the importance of understanding people's needs and expectations, hopes and frustrations, attitudes and behaviors. I want to feel for how people communicate and how this breaks down, how people feel connected and how they grow apart, how life changes, and how people and circumstances change. This has been very helpful in understanding folks' lives and the impasses which bring them into counseling.
To understand and appreciate someone truly requires a focus on what's important for that person. Attitudes and behaviors formed earlier in life -- including in the families of origin, and earlier love relationships -- may lead to conflicts in various situations years later. As a result, important psychological needs may go unmet, resentments may build, and feelings of being "stuck" or even hopeless may increase.
Nor is it all about self-understanding: Understanding the important people in our lives is just as important. Our spouses, family members, work colleagues and friends also have been shaped by their past experiences ... giving rise to the clashes and misunderstandings that so often result.
When folks reach counseling, they're typically at an impasse, finding that their expectations and perceptions, and habitual behaviors, aren't serving so well anymore. It's not a matter of "right or wrong," "good or bad," but of joining with the client to view things differently, try different approaches, see what's helpful, modify old habits ... Emerge with a better self-understanding and appreciation, and more options for meeting your needs.
I bring the same approach to working with couples. Of course nobody wants to be unhappy. Everyone wants to come home to a comfortable close relationship with someone who understands him or her, communicates in an open and caring way, and joins together in pursuing common goals. However, if this is what we all want, then how does it get "messed up"? How do resentments build? Why do conflicts escalate? Why do infidelity, affairs, "cheating" happen, and how can this be constructively addressed? That's the challenge: To understand how needs, expectations, breakdowns in communication, defensiveness, building resentments, feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, and so on, undermine obtaining what we all want.
Email or Call Carl G. Hindy, Ph.D. at 1-800-651-8085 ext. 06377
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Participating in several health insurance plans, and these often are changing. Please call to discuss your insurance and payment options. Credit cards, Health Savings Account and Flex Spending cards also accepted.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
Helping couples at crisis points including infidelity, extramarital affairs, online and other behavioral addictions that damage trust within a marriage or relationship.
Improving relationship communications -- So much is about communication!
Increasing understanding and mutual empathy -- Feeling understood is so much more important than "agreeing"
Improving intimacy and affection -- Feeling connected, a partnership, rather than lonely or "roommates"
Decision making together
Improving career fulfillment -- Work is work, of course, but it's such a large part of our lives.
Adapting to changes -- careers, extended family, empty nest, adult children returning home, caring for elderly relatives ... And the list goes on!
Services I Provide
- Clinical Supervision
- Family Therapy
- Individual Therapy & Counseling
- Marriage, Couples, or Relationship Counseling
Ages I Work With
Groups I Work With
Given the continued popularity of my book for couples/relationships -- "If This Is Love, Why Do I Feel So Insecure?" (Random House, 26th printing) -- I have a special interest in helping couples with problems of insecurity, jealousy and depression in the context of their relationships. Premarital and marriage counseling, and individual counseling for individuals with ongoing relationship concerns, is an area of special focus. Marital crisis point intervention, around major marital situations such as infidelity and other breaches of trust, and behavioral addictions and online addictions, are areas where I work to help many couples.
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