Ansebe Bicoff- Smit, MA, LMHCA

Ansebe Bicoff- Smit, MA, LMHCA

Professions: Counseling, Marriage & Family Therapy, Mental Health Counseling
License Status: I'm a licensed professional.
Primary Credential: LMHCA - MC60588945
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1-800-651-8085 ext. 28781
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Office 1
18 W Mercer Street
Suite 360
Seattle, Washington 98119 - United States
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Billing and Insurance

I don't currently accept insurance, but I can provide documentation if clients wish to submit to an insurance company for "out of network" benefit coverage

Fees: Free of charge 30- minute consultation session.
$80 for a 50- minute individual session
$100 for a 75- minute couples or family session
$25 for a group session

Sliding scale options available

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Choosing to undertake the journey of healing and growth isn''t easy. Emotional pain can cause us to feel overwhelmed and worthless. I can''t say that I know exactly what you''re going through, because we all experience pain differently. However, I have worked through my own dark nights. Breaking the chains that keep you from having the life you want is possible. Most importantly, I want to meet you where you are at and understand your unique journey. Are you struggling with Postpartum Depression? Communication between you and your partner is a source of distress? Your child''s behavior has you worried? I use an Attachment and Emotion Focused medium to address these issues.

I believe the patterns we use when engaging in relationships with others are tied to our early attachment experiences. Early experiences creates a lens through which we view the world, how we make sense of things that happens to us, how we perceive danger and how we evaluate choices as either good or bad. Experiences tell us how relationships work, how to communicate our feelings to others and how to act when we are in distress. Often, the way that we feel about ourselves is tied to these experiences. We often engage and communicate through the only patterns we know, even when they are unsuccessful, unhealthy or causing distress in our relationships.

You deserve to experience healthy, safe and positive relationships. Changing old patterns will improve your relationship with yourself and others.

Email or Call Ansebe Bicoff- Smit, MA, LMHCA at 1-800-651-8085 ext. 28781

More Info About My Practice

If you decide to work with me, I will support you as make sense of where you''re heading in life and what you wish to leave behind along the way. Sorting through past experiences to understand how they are currently impacting your life and relationships can be painful, powerful and enlightening.

I work with children, individuals, parents and couples seeking support to navigate relational difficulties. I enjoy serving couples and families of all shapes and sizes, taking into consideration cultural backgrounds.

Please see my website for more information about my practice and schedule a consultation session with me.

Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With

I have experience working with attachment or relational issues. I support individuals, couples, parents and children as they make sense of past relationships or relationships that they are currently struggling with. I help clients recognize and change the patterns that they use when they engage in relationships, especially when they are experiencing stress.

One of my specialties is supporting women who experience postpartum depression symptoms. Women often struggle through this alone, due to feelings of shame, guilt and self- doubt. I work individually with women to help them manage their symptoms, work through feelings of self- doubt, communicate their needs to their partner and work on their attachment with their child. I also offer couples work or Postpartum support groups.

I am skilled at working with children. Children often communicate their feelings through play, therefore I use Sandtray and Play therapy to help children process their difficulties. Issues that I address include difficult behaviors, trauma, attachment, isolation, and academic struggles.

I support individuals and couples through challenging transitions in life. Some examples include Adoption, Foster Care, Job Changes, Marriage and Divorce support.

I offer support to people who experience struggles with cultural integration. Living in a new country and culture has many challenges. Being an immigrant myself, I can relate to questioning who you are, feeling alone and grieving for family at hom

My Role as a Therapist

When I thought about my role as a therapist I realized how deeply it was tied to why I believe in the work that I do, why I invested many years in this field and the reason that I continue to love working with people.

Over the years of working with people I''ve come to realize that my biggest role as a therapist is to be fully present when I''m with clients. This sounds easy enough right? I''ve learned that it''s not that simple. Being fully present means that I really listen to your story, not just hearing it. That I allow myself to be affected by your words so that we both undergo growth. Staying flexible so that your journey and interventions would be unique and helpful to your situation, rather than focusing on what worked for someone else. Allowing your voice to be most important, rather than my expertise so that you can learn to trust your own strengths and abilities.

I find that being fully present with clients help them feel they''re important, that their story matters and that they can be accepted for who they are. Being present let clients know that they can be real with me, that I can handle their pain and that I will walk with them through this journey. This helps them to make the changes that they have always wanted to, start healing old wounds and learn to love themselves for who they are.

What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process

Feeling concerned or anxious about seeking therapy is normal. We''re all creatures of habits and we stick to our routines and the things that we know. Engaging in something new, something that you can''t fully prepare yourself for may cause you to feel hesitant. These initial feelings of uncertainty and unease causes many people not to engage in therapy, even though they really need support. If you''re thinking about engaging in therapy today, don''t let your anxiety drive your decision. Put yourself first today. Your healing, growth and self- journey is important.

There are a couple of things that I would like to share with you so that you have a better idea of what you can expect from working with me. My hope is that this will answer some of the questions you might have and lessen some of your anxiety.

I offer a 30- minute consultation session, free of charge. This session provides the opportunity to meet in person, address concerns, ask questions and most importantly, talk about how working together can be helpful to you.

It is most important to me that you feel safe, respected and understood. We will move at a speed that you feel comfortable with, address painful topics when you feel ready and come up with a treatment plan that is helpful to your specific needs.

Healing and self- work isn''t easy. Working through painful feelings may cause you to feel worse, before you start to feel better. However, I will be there every step of the way to support you.

Services I Provide

  • Individual Therapy & Counseling
  • Marriage, Couples, or Relationship Counseling
  • Group Therapy
  • Consultation

Ages I Work With

  • Children
  • Teens
  • Adults


  • English
  • Afrikaans

Groups I Work With

    Adoption and Foster Care parenting and attachment related struggles, Immigrants, Couples struggling with intimacy

Client Concerns Within Your Scope of Practice

  • Abandonment
  • Adoption / Reunion Issues
  • Anxiety
  • Attachment Issues
  • Blended Family Issues
  • Breakup
  • Bullying
  • Career Choice
  • Child and/or Adolescent Issues
  • Codependency / Dependency
  • Communication Problems
  • Control Issues
  • Depression
  • Developmental Disorders (Autism, Aspergers, etc.)
  • Divorce / Divorce Adjustment
  • Emotional Abuse
  • Emotional Intelligence
  • Emotional Overwhelm
  • Family of Origin Issues
  • Family Problems
  • Grief, Loss, and Bereavement
  • Infidelity / Affair Recovery
  • Learning Difficulties
  • Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance
  • Multicultural Concerns
  • Parenting
  • Post Partum Depression
  • Power
  • Pre-Marital Counseling
  • Pregnancy and Birthing
  • Relationships and Marriage
  • Self-Care
  • Self-Compassion
  • Self-Confidence
  • Self-Love
  • Shame
  • Trust Issues
  • Women's Issues

Types of Therapy

  • Emotion Focused Couples Therapy
  • Emotion Focused Therapy
  • Family Attachment Narrative Therapy
  • Family Systems Therapy
  • Gottman Method
  • Mindfulness Based Interventions
  • Parent-Child Interaction Therapy
  • Play Therapy
  • Sand Tray / Sand Play Therapy

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