Life can get extremely heavy and complicated all too easily. Perhaps you have even found yourself trying to actively avoid these feelings through self medication, substance abuse, your relationships, career, etc. because it seems far too daunting or complicated to even try. Believe me, this is perfectly normal and nothing to be ashamed of. However, while challenging periods in life, relationships, or family can overwhelm, they also bring rich opportunities to cultivate resilience, a deeper connection, and lasting fulfillment. I offer the opportunity for personal and relationship growth by helping you work through your issues rather than running away from them - the possibility to see who you are at your essence so that you can more autonomously, authentically, and mindfully create who you become in the future. Therefore, people come to me for a number of reasons that all point to one encompassing desire: change. I will help you work through your pain and struggles by supporting you in developing a stronger sense of Self. My person-centered approach, which focuses on you rather than your symptoms, will guide you in developing more autonomous control over your life, fears, and relationships for more holistic mental health. This will help you break out of patterns that have you feeling stuck and lost. I will help you in uncovering meaning in your life and relationships so that you may have a more satisfying, valuable, and fulfilling existence. I specialize in working with teens, adults, couples, and siblings of all cultures around larger existential issues of shame, trauma, anxiety, and relationship challenges that can flare up in the middle of difficult life transitions.
Those I work with tend to come to me experiencing the following issues, among others:
- Life transitions: career and location changes, identity shifts, marriage, divorce, new birth, loss, starting or ending intimate relationships
- Emotional & psychological distress: depression, anxiety, mood swings, nervousness
- Existential despair: angst, emptiness, fear, lack of meaning, identity confusion
- Unhealed wounds from childhood
- Insomnia or difficulty sleeping
- Codependency: struggling to strike a balance between individuality and togetherness with others
- Unwanted thoughts: racing thoughts, feeling stuck, unable to understand yourself and patterns, feeling overwhelmed and helpless
- Shame: difficulty valuing or accepting themselves; feeling unlovable, worthless, guilty, or to blame; self doubt
- Struggling to make choices
- Relationship difficulties: constant arguing or conflict with partners or loved ones, unhealthy communication, lack of intimacy or fulfillment, relationship transitions, premarital counseling, parenting issues, growing apart
- Family dysfunction: sibling rivalry, unhealthy family dynamics and means of communicating, power struggles and imbalances, constant arguing, chronic tension and anxiety, anger, resentment
My approach is grounded in an existential-humanistic psychological tradition that is inspired by relational and psychodynamic therapeutic philosophies. What this essentially means is that I see my role as your therapist as one that tries to connect with you and see you in a holistic way through dialogue so that you may better see yourself (your patterns, meaning behind your experience, etc.), and create the person that you want to become through a healthier mindset and future choices.
A lot of my approach to therapy involves getting a very rich and resonant view of your personal story, much like a reader getting to know the main character of a book. I essentially strive to see you in the complete context of your life so that you may see yourself in a more compassionate and holistic way, and have the strength to change. Therefore, I do not approach therapy with a focus on your symptoms, but rather the deeper meaning behind those symptoms. Together, we will find a basis for understanding why your story makes sense for you and fits consistently in the complex fiber of who you are.
I also believe that we most readily change through the relationships that we hold. We all know that human beings are naturally social creatures, but it can be easy to forget that who and what we are is a bi-product of our relationships with others ? this is the essence of human development. As such, I believe that my relationship with you needs to be an actual relationship. By developing a close rapport, we also develop the opportunity to use our relationship as a vehicle for understanding how you interact with others in your world. I keep my relationship with my clients healthy so that we can both develop a level of closeness but also step back from the bond that we develop to understand the process between us.
Finally, I use counseling as a way to explore the internal conflicts that you might have about the hard issues that you face in your life. First, I will help you to identify this conflict. Then I will teach you how to allow the various conflicting parts of yourself to coexist ? in much of the same way that two people in a relationship need to find ways to respect their differences.
For more information about me, my approach and my services, please visit my website.
or Call Alex Hoeplinger, Registered MFT Intern & PCC Intern at 1-800-651-8085 ext. 17708