Self-sabotage occurs when someone gets in the way of his or her own success or well-being. Often, people have the ability to change, but do not apply the necessary thought patterns, behaviors, and communication skills that lead to growth. Why not?

Understanding self-sabotage gives clients and therapists the perspective and tools to navigate the complex dynamics of personal development in the midst of conflicted inner desires. Most often, people consciously crave change, but unconsciously resist the very process of change. To create shifts, we need to examine the underlying motivation to maintain the status-quo and engage in self-sabotage.

This web conference offers a clear model that explains the ubiquitous nature of self-sabotage and why people do not apply the tools available to change their lives for the better.

During the presentation, we will examine three psychological attachments that drive self-sabotaging feelings and actions:

  1. Feeling controlled: A control attachment leaves people feeling either that their lives are out of control, in which case they may feel anxious and helpless, or that others attempt to control them, and they may feel oppressed and rebellious.
  2. Feeling deprived: A deprivation attachment results in feeling one’s life is unfulfilled, and he or she may feel empty, unloved, and emotionally numb. The person may attempt to fill the emptiness with addictive substances and relationships that only sustain the attachment and fail to fill the void. The deprivation attachment avoids meeting real needs.
  3. Feeling rejected: A rejection attachment leads to feeling disregarded, dismissed, and hurt. People may anticipate the criticism of others and seek approval in ways that frequently lead to feeling further rejection, as is the case when a person continually seeks approval from a critical parent or another person who will never provide the desired approval. In addition, rejection attachment often includes a harsh inner critic that continually demands perfection.

This web conference is intermediate instructional level and designed to help clinicians:

  1. Apply a useful working definition of self-sabotage;
  2. Describe the underlying motivation behind self-sabotage;
  3. Discover three psychological attachments that sustain self-sabotage;
  4. Demonstrate a three-step process for ending self-sabotage.

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How the Web Conference Works

Attendees who register for this event will log in to the web conference center by using a computer and calling in to the teleconference line. Attendees will be able to ask live audio questions via phone and/or submit text chat questions via computer. Live streaming video and/or document sharing will also be available to participants. Alternatively, attendees may dial in to the teleconference line only, though attendees dialing in by phone only will be unable to ask questions.

Before the scheduled event, all registered attendees will be sent a reminder email with specific instructions on how to log in to the web conference center, as well as links to optional handout materials if applicable.

This event will include lecture and question-and-answer periods. A recording of the web conference will be available to members in GoodTherapy.org's Continuing Education Archives within two weeks. After the live event, a written transcript of the event will be available in the Member's Area. Members of GoodTherapy.org can receive continuing education credits for attending this event by logging in to the GoodTherapy.org Member's Area.

Continuing Education (CE) Information

Two CE credits will be provided by GoodTherapy.org for attending this web conference in its entirety.

GoodTherapy.org is also an Approved Education Provider by NAADAC, The Association for Addiction Professionals (provider #135463). Of the eight counselor skill groups ascribed to by NAADAC, this course is classified within counseling services.

GoodTherapy.org is an NBCC-Approved Continuing Education Provider (ACEPTM) and may offer NBCC-approved clock hours for events that meet NBCC requirements.

GoodTherapy.org, provider #1352, is approved as a provider for social work continuing education by the Association of Social Work Boards (ASWB) www.aswb.org, through the Approved Continuing Education (ACE) program. ASWB Approval Period: March 30, 2016 through March 30, 2019. Social workers should contact their regulatory board to determine course approval. Social workers participating in this course will receive two clinical continuing education clock hours.

GoodTherapy.org is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. GoodTherapy.org maintains responsibility for this program and its content.

GoodTherapy.org, SW CPE is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #0395.

Registration Information

This web conference is available at no cost to GoodTherapy.org members.

Event Reviews from Members

"Really interesting topic - will definitely look at the presenter's materials to learn more." - Lauren Aycock Anderson, MS, LGMFT, NCC

"Great presentation! Eager to learn more!" - Daniela Perone, PhD

Meet the Presenter

Mike Bundrant, LPC

Mike Bundrant is a retired mental health counselor and co-founder of the iNLP Center. He is the author of the book Your Achilles Eel : Discover and Overcome the Hidden Cause of Negative Emotions, Bad Decisions and Self-Sabotage and the co-developer of the online program A-H-A! for those that struggle with self-sabotage.

Mike blogs regularly on the topic of psychotherapy, and he founded Healthy Times Newspaper, which is now distributed in five different territories, including Japan and Hong Kong. He has been teaching Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) since 1995, and he offers NLP courses in Japan twice annually. Mike and his wife Hope are raising a blended family of eight children in California, and the use of NLP has enhanced his family life. For more information on Mike and his work, please visit his website at inlpcenter.org.