http://www.goodtherapy.org/non-pathologizing-therapy-article.html Latest articles from Noah Rubinstein, LMFT, LMHC Sat, 4 Jul 2009 05:30:23 GMT en-us http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/can-collaborative-therapy-heal-trauma-safely/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/can-collaborative-therapy-heal-trauma-safely/ Tue, 18 Sep 2007 03:41:48 GMT Written by Noah Rubinstein, LMFT, LMHC http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/depth/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/depth/ Sun, 4 Mar 2007 14:42:35 GMT http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/do-you-believe-personality-disorder-diagnoses-are-pathologizing/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/do-you-believe-personality-disorder-diagnoses-are-pathologizing/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/good-and-bad-therapy/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/good-and-bad-therapy/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/history-taking-in-therapy-whats-your-approach/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/history-taking-in-therapy-whats-your-approach/ Wed, 2 Apr 2008 01:51:06 GMT by Noah Rubinstein, LMFT http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/hope/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/hope/ Tue, 20 Jan 2009 19:01:52 GMT by Noah Rubinstein, LMFT http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-heal-trauma-without-retramatizing/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-heal-trauma-without-retramatizing/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT by Noah Rubinstein, LMFT http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-choose-a-counselor-or-therapist/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-choose-a-counselor-or-therapist/ Mon, 14 May 2007 22:50:32 GMT It?s easy to find a counselor, but perhaps more difficult to know if you?ve found one who?s right for you. There are a number of questions you can ask which will help you to choose a counselor. This short article outlines 14 of these questions, in no particular order (please note, the words ?therapist? and ?counselor? are used interchangeably). Thanks to the GoodTherapy.org members who contributed their ideas to this article! If there are other important questions to ask or things you?d like to add to this list, please post a comment below. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/is-psychoanalysis-good-therapy/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/is-psychoanalysis-good-therapy/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT It?s easy to find a counselor, but perhaps more difficult to know if you?ve found one who?s right for you. There are a number of questions you can ask which will help you to choose a counselor. This short article outlines 14 of these questions, in no particular order (please note, the words ?therapist? and ?counselor? are used interchangeably). Thanks to the GoodTherapy.org members who contributed their ideas to this article! If there are other important questions to ask or things you?d like to add to this list, please post a comment below. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/solving-without-solving-good-therapy/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/solving-without-solving-good-therapy/ Thu, 15 Feb 2007 20:48:03 GMT Have you ever felt upset about something and just wanted somebody to listen to you? I know my dear wife has asked me on a number of occasions to ?just listen.? Even I, as a therapist who helps and guides others to listen to each other day in and day out, can find it hard to relax the impulse to do something about it. Yes, part of it is because I care. But moreover it's because it can be hard to sit with how I feel to see another suffer?. And trust me, I intimately know the misunderstood feeling I have when someone?s anxiety gets triggered by my expression of some minor suffering I?m experiencing. I know the feeling of wishing my uncle could just listen to me or give me a hug when he, instead, tells me what I should do, or worse, tells me some universal truth like, ?It?ll get better.? I know he?s only trying to help me and trying to shield himself from his own discomfort at seeing his nephew not perfectly okay, and I love him for it regardless. I know this doesn?t sound like it has much to do with therapy, but I believe it does; and on a deeper level than just a therapist not solving their clients' problems. The realm of the intra-client relationship, the way one relates to his or her inner world/ego states/parts, is where I believe the truth that solving one?s problems with a little ?s? actually interferes with Solving one?s problems with a big ?S,? shows itself quite profoundly. Let me explain by telling a story: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/sometimes-we-can%E2%80%99t-help/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/sometimes-we-can%E2%80%99t-help/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT Have you ever felt upset about something and just wanted somebody to listen to you? I know my dear wife has asked me on a number of occasions to ?just listen.? Even I, as a therapist who helps and guides others to listen to each other day in and day out, can find it hard to relax the impulse to do something about it. Yes, part of it is because I care. But moreover it's because it can be hard to sit with how I feel to see another suffer?. And trust me, I intimately know the misunderstood feeling I have when someone?s anxiety gets triggered by my expression of some minor suffering I?m experiencing. I know the feeling of wishing my uncle could just listen to me or give me a hug when he, instead, tells me what I should do, or worse, tells me some universal truth like, ?It?ll get better.? I know he?s only trying to help me and trying to shield himself from his own discomfort at seeing his nephew not perfectly okay, and I love him for it regardless. I know this doesn?t sound like it has much to do with therapy, but I believe it does; and on a deeper level than just a therapist not solving their clients' problems. The realm of the intra-client relationship, the way one relates to his or her inner world/ego states/parts, is where I believe the truth that solving one?s problems with a little ?s? actually interferes with Solving one?s problems with a big ?S,? shows itself quite profoundly. Let me explain by telling a story: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/welcome-to-my-column-on-collaboration-and-nonpathology-in-therapy/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/welcome-to-my-column-on-collaboration-and-nonpathology-in-therapy/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT Have you ever felt upset about something and just wanted somebody to listen to you? I know my dear wife has asked me on a number of occasions to ?just listen.? Even I, as a therapist who helps and guides others to listen to each other day in and day out, can find it hard to relax the impulse to do something about it. Yes, part of it is because I care. But moreover it's because it can be hard to sit with how I feel to see another suffer?. And trust me, I intimately know the misunderstood feeling I have when someone?s anxiety gets triggered by my expression of some minor suffering I?m experiencing. I know the feeling of wishing my uncle could just listen to me or give me a hug when he, instead, tells me what I should do, or worse, tells me some universal truth like, ?It?ll get better.? I know he?s only trying to help me and trying to shield himself from his own discomfort at seeing his nephew not perfectly okay, and I love him for it regardless. I know this doesn?t sound like it has much to do with therapy, but I believe it does; and on a deeper level than just a therapist not solving their clients' problems. The realm of the intra-client relationship, the way one relates to his or her inner world/ego states/parts, is where I believe the truth that solving one?s problems with a little ?s? actually interferes with Solving one?s problems with a big ?S,? shows itself quite profoundly. Let me explain by telling a story: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/what-is-good-therapy/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/what-is-good-therapy/ Sat, 10 Feb 2007 20:25:38 GMT There are many models of therapy to choose from. We believe there are a handful of common denominators present in all forms of ?good therapy.? These elements are described below: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/why-do-we-use-personality-disorder-diagnoses-anyway/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/why-do-we-use-personality-disorder-diagnoses-anyway/ Fri, 29 Jun 2007 20:17:42 GMT This post is a promised follow-up to a post from two weeks ago called, ?Do you believe 'Personality Disorder' diagnoses are pathologizing?? I was motivated to finish it this morning when I read a passionate comment posted by Jeana in response to the above mentioned article. The comment can be found here, but for the sake of getting others into the spirit in which I finished this post, I will copy it here: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/working-nonpathologically-does-not-negate-pathology-it-depathologizes-it/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/working-nonpathologically-does-not-negate-pathology-it-depathologizes-it/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT This post is a promised follow-up to a post from two weeks ago called, ?Do you believe 'Personality Disorder' diagnoses are pathologizing?? I was motivated to finish it this morning when I read a passionate comment posted by Jeana in response to the above mentioned article. The comment can be found here, but for the sake of getting others into the spirit in which I finished this post, I will copy it here: