http://www.goodtherapy.org/non-pathologizing-therapy-article.html Latest articles from Noah Rubinstein, LMFT, LMHC Sat, 4 Jul 2009 05:30:23 GMT en-us http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/can-collaborative-therapy-heal-trauma-safely/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/can-collaborative-therapy-heal-trauma-safely/ Tue, 18 Sep 2007 03:41:48 GMT Dear Friends, http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/depth/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/depth/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT Dear Friends, http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/do-you-believe-personality-disorder-diagnoses-are-pathologizing/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/do-you-believe-personality-disorder-diagnoses-are-pathologizing/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT Dear Friends, http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/empathy-for-sociopathy/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/empathy-for-sociopathy/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT Dear Friends, http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/good-and-bad-therapy/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/good-and-bad-therapy/ Wed, 2 Jul 2008 02:39:55 GMT We named our organization GoodTherapy.org for a handful of reasons. First among them, good therapy is what most therapists are striving to provide. Regardless of orientation, nearly all therapists can be included in the group of dedicated and caring folks who strive to ?do no harm? in the healing process. Secondly, we want to express, in the title of our organization, the importance we place on quality in the psychotherapy process. Thirdly, ?good therapy? is catchy. The expression, ?I (or he or she) could use some good therapy,? has been around a long time. And finally, GoodTherapy.org sounds better than www.JustOkayTherapy.org. :) http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/history-taking-in-therapy-whats-your-approach/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/history-taking-in-therapy-whats-your-approach/ Wed, 2 Apr 2008 01:51:06 GMT The GoodTherapy.org Team received a question today from Brit, a visitor to GT, in response to the featured article, ?50 Warning Signs of Questionable Therapy & Counseling.? http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/hope/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/hope/ Tue, 20 Jan 2009 19:01:52 GMT In even the darkest of times, there is one particular essence of the human spirit which compels us to prevail and prosper; though we may experience great trials and witness ourselves and our lives subjected to disappointing and sometimes painful circumstances, hope is a part of the human experience which belies our deeply positive and creative nature. Hope may come in a variety of forms, from the simplest symbol, like the vibrant petals of a crocus emerging from winter's snowy blanket, to the greatest acts of perseverance, as in those afflicted with terminal illnesses who nevertheless accomplish amazing things. But whether hope is embodied in a metaphor or brazenly displayed in our actions, it has the power to nourish and heal; to improve and uplift; to bring about a brighter future. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-heal-trauma-without-retramatizing/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-heal-trauma-without-retramatizing/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT In even the darkest of times, there is one particular essence of the human spirit which compels us to prevail and prosper; though we may experience great trials and witness ourselves and our lives subjected to disappointing and sometimes painful circumstances, hope is a part of the human experience which belies our deeply positive and creative nature. Hope may come in a variety of forms, from the simplest symbol, like the vibrant petals of a crocus emerging from winter's snowy blanket, to the greatest acts of perseverance, as in those afflicted with terminal illnesses who nevertheless accomplish amazing things. But whether hope is embodied in a metaphor or brazenly displayed in our actions, it has the power to nourish and heal; to improve and uplift; to bring about a brighter future. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-choose-a-counselor-or-therapist/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-choose-a-counselor-or-therapist/ Mon, 14 May 2007 22:50:32 GMT It?s easy to find a counselor but perhaps more difficult to know if you?ve found one who is right for you. There are a number of questions you can ask that will help you to choose a counselor. This short article outlines 14 of these questions, in no particular order (please note, the words ?therapist? and ?counselor? are used interchangeably). Thanks to the GoodTherapy.org members who contributed their ideas for this article! If there are other important questions to ask or things you?d like to add to this list, please post a comment below. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/is-psychoanalysis-good-therapy/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/is-psychoanalysis-good-therapy/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT It?s easy to find a counselor but perhaps more difficult to know if you?ve found one who is right for you. There are a number of questions you can ask that will help you to choose a counselor. This short article outlines 14 of these questions, in no particular order (please note, the words ?therapist? and ?counselor? are used interchangeably). Thanks to the GoodTherapy.org members who contributed their ideas for this article! If there are other important questions to ask or things you?d like to add to this list, please post a comment below. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/solving-without-solving-good-therapy/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/solving-without-solving-good-therapy/ Thu, 15 Feb 2007 20:48:03 GMT Have you ever felt upset about something and just wanted somebody to listen to you? I know my dear wife has asked me on a number of occasions to ?just listen.? Even I, as a therapist who helps and guides others to listen to each other day in and day out, can find it hard to relax the impulse to do something about it. Yes, part of it is because I care. But moreover it's because it can be hard to sit with how I feel to see another suffer?. And trust me, I intimately know the misunderstood feeling I have when someone?s anxiety gets triggered by my expression of some minor suffering I?m experiencing. I know the feeling of wishing my uncle could just listen to me or give me a hug when he, instead, tells me what I should do, or worse, tells me some universal truth like, ?It?ll get better.? I know he?s only trying to help me and trying to shield himself from his own discomfort at seeing his nephew not perfectly okay, and I love him for it regardless. I know this doesn?t sound like it has much to do with therapy, but I believe it does; and on a deeper level than just a therapist not solving their clients' problems. The realm of the intra-client relationship, the way one relates to his or her inner world/ego states/parts, is where I believe the truth that solving one?s problems with a little ?s? actually interferes with Solving one?s problems with a big ?S,? shows itself quite profoundly. Let me explain by telling a story: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/sometimes-we-can%E2%80%99t-help/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/sometimes-we-can%E2%80%99t-help/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT Have you ever felt upset about something and just wanted somebody to listen to you? I know my dear wife has asked me on a number of occasions to ?just listen.? Even I, as a therapist who helps and guides others to listen to each other day in and day out, can find it hard to relax the impulse to do something about it. Yes, part of it is because I care. But moreover it's because it can be hard to sit with how I feel to see another suffer?. And trust me, I intimately know the misunderstood feeling I have when someone?s anxiety gets triggered by my expression of some minor suffering I?m experiencing. I know the feeling of wishing my uncle could just listen to me or give me a hug when he, instead, tells me what I should do, or worse, tells me some universal truth like, ?It?ll get better.? I know he?s only trying to help me and trying to shield himself from his own discomfort at seeing his nephew not perfectly okay, and I love him for it regardless. I know this doesn?t sound like it has much to do with therapy, but I believe it does; and on a deeper level than just a therapist not solving their clients' problems. The realm of the intra-client relationship, the way one relates to his or her inner world/ego states/parts, is where I believe the truth that solving one?s problems with a little ?s? actually interferes with Solving one?s problems with a big ?S,? shows itself quite profoundly. Let me explain by telling a story: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/welcome-to-my-column-on-collaboration-and-nonpathology-in-therapy/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/welcome-to-my-column-on-collaboration-and-nonpathology-in-therapy/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT Have you ever felt upset about something and just wanted somebody to listen to you? I know my dear wife has asked me on a number of occasions to ?just listen.? Even I, as a therapist who helps and guides others to listen to each other day in and day out, can find it hard to relax the impulse to do something about it. Yes, part of it is because I care. But moreover it's because it can be hard to sit with how I feel to see another suffer?. And trust me, I intimately know the misunderstood feeling I have when someone?s anxiety gets triggered by my expression of some minor suffering I?m experiencing. I know the feeling of wishing my uncle could just listen to me or give me a hug when he, instead, tells me what I should do, or worse, tells me some universal truth like, ?It?ll get better.? I know he?s only trying to help me and trying to shield himself from his own discomfort at seeing his nephew not perfectly okay, and I love him for it regardless. I know this doesn?t sound like it has much to do with therapy, but I believe it does; and on a deeper level than just a therapist not solving their clients' problems. The realm of the intra-client relationship, the way one relates to his or her inner world/ego states/parts, is where I believe the truth that solving one?s problems with a little ?s? actually interferes with Solving one?s problems with a big ?S,? shows itself quite profoundly. Let me explain by telling a story: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/what-is-good-therapy/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/what-is-good-therapy/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT Have you ever felt upset about something and just wanted somebody to listen to you? I know my dear wife has asked me on a number of occasions to ?just listen.? Even I, as a therapist who helps and guides others to listen to each other day in and day out, can find it hard to relax the impulse to do something about it. Yes, part of it is because I care. But moreover it's because it can be hard to sit with how I feel to see another suffer?. And trust me, I intimately know the misunderstood feeling I have when someone?s anxiety gets triggered by my expression of some minor suffering I?m experiencing. I know the feeling of wishing my uncle could just listen to me or give me a hug when he, instead, tells me what I should do, or worse, tells me some universal truth like, ?It?ll get better.? I know he?s only trying to help me and trying to shield himself from his own discomfort at seeing his nephew not perfectly okay, and I love him for it regardless. I know this doesn?t sound like it has much to do with therapy, but I believe it does; and on a deeper level than just a therapist not solving their clients' problems. The realm of the intra-client relationship, the way one relates to his or her inner world/ego states/parts, is where I believe the truth that solving one?s problems with a little ?s? actually interferes with Solving one?s problems with a big ?S,? shows itself quite profoundly. Let me explain by telling a story: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/why-do-we-use-personality-disorder-diagnoses-anyway/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/why-do-we-use-personality-disorder-diagnoses-anyway/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT Have you ever felt upset about something and just wanted somebody to listen to you? I know my dear wife has asked me on a number of occasions to ?just listen.? Even I, as a therapist who helps and guides others to listen to each other day in and day out, can find it hard to relax the impulse to do something about it. Yes, part of it is because I care. But moreover it's because it can be hard to sit with how I feel to see another suffer?. And trust me, I intimately know the misunderstood feeling I have when someone?s anxiety gets triggered by my expression of some minor suffering I?m experiencing. I know the feeling of wishing my uncle could just listen to me or give me a hug when he, instead, tells me what I should do, or worse, tells me some universal truth like, ?It?ll get better.? I know he?s only trying to help me and trying to shield himself from his own discomfort at seeing his nephew not perfectly okay, and I love him for it regardless. I know this doesn?t sound like it has much to do with therapy, but I believe it does; and on a deeper level than just a therapist not solving their clients' problems. The realm of the intra-client relationship, the way one relates to his or her inner world/ego states/parts, is where I believe the truth that solving one?s problems with a little ?s? actually interferes with Solving one?s problems with a big ?S,? shows itself quite profoundly. Let me explain by telling a story: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/working-nonpathologically-does-not-negate-pathology-it-depathologizes-it/ http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/working-nonpathologically-does-not-negate-pathology-it-depathologizes-it/ Tue, 30 Nov 1999 06:00:00 GMT Have you ever felt upset about something and just wanted somebody to listen to you? I know my dear wife has asked me on a number of occasions to ?just listen.? Even I, as a therapist who helps and guides others to listen to each other day in and day out, can find it hard to relax the impulse to do something about it. Yes, part of it is because I care. But moreover it's because it can be hard to sit with how I feel to see another suffer?. And trust me, I intimately know the misunderstood feeling I have when someone?s anxiety gets triggered by my expression of some minor suffering I?m experiencing. I know the feeling of wishing my uncle could just listen to me or give me a hug when he, instead, tells me what I should do, or worse, tells me some universal truth like, ?It?ll get better.? I know he?s only trying to help me and trying to shield himself from his own discomfort at seeing his nephew not perfectly okay, and I love him for it regardless. I know this doesn?t sound like it has much to do with therapy, but I believe it does; and on a deeper level than just a therapist not solving their clients' problems. The realm of the intra-client relationship, the way one relates to his or her inner world/ego states/parts, is where I believe the truth that solving one?s problems with a little ?s? actually interferes with Solving one?s problems with a big ?S,? shows itself quite profoundly. Let me explain by telling a story: